I was nominated to this mytake as well, but decided to change the title up to make it a little more original. I’m not going to tell you things I simply find unattractive as I feel it would be a little dull and generic. So, I’m going to tell you the things I absolutely WILL NOT tolerate in a potential partner.
NOTE: If you’re prone to feeling pain in your butt when you read discussions about shortcomings in the opposite sex (probably because you identify with them), I suggest you do not read this. If you do, and leave a pissy comment, I’m gonna “lol” at you.
I mentioned some of these in my last mytake, but I expanded on them a bit more. So, if you notice similarities, that’s why.
Passive, timid, withdrawn, “pussy”
I can’t stand anyone who acts like a pheasant. If you act timid around me, soft-spoken, you don’t tell me how you feel, you’re totally incapable of pursuing me in any way, other guys intimidate you easily, you’re super insecure - then I’m sorry, but you need to move on from me. I will EAT. YOU. ALIVE.
I am not saying you have to chase after me while I play mind games, but I expect you to be involved in the courtship process just as much as you would expect me to be. If I have to chase you like a skirt, then I may as well be chasing an actual skirt, not a man acting like one.
None of these “yes men.” I’m not saying I need a dictator, but I need someone with an original mind. Who can call me out if I’m being a shithead and who can actually express an interesting opinion.
Insecurity leading to controlling/jealous tendencies
I have a zero-tolerance policy for jealousy. Unless I am in an unreasonable situation where I’m flirting with someone else (which I never would) then you have no reason to be jealous just because I receive male attention. Clearly, if YOU find me attractive, other men will, so getting pissy at me and insecure just seems really silly to me. You should know me by then, I’ll reject anyone who comes at me who isn’t YOU. This is something I will prove time and time again. So, in my relationship, jealousy is unwarranted.
Mind you, this isn’t an expectation I don’t live up to. I won’t get pissy if girls hit on you or hop into your dm’s. As long as we trust each other, it’s easy enough to brush these people off without having a go at each other.
As well, never try to tell me what I’m allowed to do. Don’t tell me how to dress, how to present myself in any way, and don’t try to make me into something I’m not. If I have shit behaviour, okay, we can work on that, but don’t try to mold me into this totally different person. If you liked me as the sexily-dressed, out-spoken woman you met, there’s no reason to try and turn me into a conservative, soft-spoken girl.
I’m happy to take suggestions and criticism – but I won’t tolerate a control-freak.
Lazy and unmotivated
I’m motivated. I go to work every day. I try to better myself by eating well and going to the gym. While I do not expect you to be a hyper-fit millionaire, I won’t tolerate a guy who has absolutely no drive or passion in life. If you’re content just sitting on your ass and doing absolutely nothing, it’s best to just pass by me.
Everyone has a bit of "pudge" at some point of their life, usually. But one thing I won’t personally tolerate is an overweight man. I have no hatred or inherent disdain for overweight guys, I honestly have the ability to sympathize, but I am personally not attracted to people who are that big due to the health-related implications.
As well, I don’t want to be with a guy who just eats shit, drinks too much, or smokes like a fucking chimney. Have some semblance of respect for your body.
Under no circumstances will I get with a guy who wants things to be “undefined with no expectations.” I’m not a teen girl anymore, and I know all that stands for is: “I want to have my cake, eat it too, and be able to abandon the buffet when the tab comes around.”
If you don’t want the responsibility of a relationship, then don’t get in one, especially with me. I will dump you faster than you can shit after a chugging a bottle of hot sauce, sir.
If you don't see me as long-term, why should I even bother being with you short-term? I don't deal with "maybes," either know what you want or get the fuck out.
Along with the above, I will absolutely not tolerate anyone who wants to see or fuck other people, even if they are trying to include me in it. As far as I am concerned, if you want other women THAT badly, you don’t value me enough.
While I acknowledge it’s normal to fantasize about others and feel sexual attraction towards others, the second you take it from a natural inclination to actually wanting to act on it, I’m out. I don’t care if you insist it’s “for the both of us,” if you want to screw other girls, go ahead, but leave me out of it.
One of my BIGGEST (if not the biggest) sexual turn-offs is someone who wants to be a cuck or a sexually submissive partner. Nothing about that is natural to me, and I am not even an advocate for “all natural.” I think it’s disgusting, repulsive, and you aren’t a man of self-value if you want to be cucked or hyper-dominated and humiliated by your woman.
I’m okay with experimentation, but the second you want to act like a servant or lick some other man’s cum off of my pussy, you have lost all of my respect.
Okay, that's all. I'm going to nominate @Anon_ymous1 to do this as well as @ericclayton.
~ Love Jane.
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The one thing I do not get - i don’t agree with all but I understand what you are saying.
The one about you wanting him to be able to peruse.. you will do your share and he his. But then you use the analogy if chasing a skirt ( a woman) if he can’t be a man. So you start if sayjng you expEct both to pull your weight in persuing but then point out the problem will be if he dies not irrsue and acts like a woman... so are you both persuing, or were you just trying to sound diplomatic while really it’s a turn off for you if it’s not all him, or at least 80/20?