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Cutting the back story short, I was in an emotionally draining and somewhat abusive relationship. My ex used to cheat in ways that were mostly verbal ie suggestive texts and pics, just never really physical. But because of him going back to his ex, he forced me to get an abortion using his friends and family. I always tried to give him whatever I could, I worked after I terminated the pregnancy in order to share costs with him. I ended up severely depressed and got hospitalized. He never once visited me.

Fast forward to one and a half year after the abortion, couple months ago, I broke up with him. I got close to a friend who is always there to listen to me, and I liked how he was so kind to me and literally to everyone around us. Somehow I wished that this was my boyfriend. Thereafter, I broke up with my boyfriend as I couldn't get rid of the worsening depression he was causing me and also I wanted someone who is kinder like my friend.

My friend wasn't looking for a r/s as he was always busy working, and somehow we are close and yet I know so well that I'm in the friendzone. To keep our friendship, I rather keep things simple. I mean, I feel like my friend deserves way better. Now my ex knows that there are other guys trying to get me to be their girlfriend, but I'm tired of a r/s. My ex bought me things he never used to get for me. He became so nice overnight that I wasn't sure that this was the same guy with me before. Well.. it might be the sex, but I don't really feel like someone can change permanently? It could be that he felt threatened and hence was trying to win me back. But it's suffocating me, that and other guy's attention to me. I just want to be alone, and I'm almost sure that I don't want my ex to be a potential s/o. Any thoughts on what he's trying to do?

My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, after nearly three years. We’ve broken up one other time.
After he dumped me I asked if I could see him, and he agreed. We ended up having sex, and talking about things. He said that there may be an opportunity for us in the future if we are able to work out our issues individually, but that he’s also not thinking about anything else right now other than wanting to be alone and for this to be over. He said that I’m too jealous, and don’t trust him.

He told me that he still loved me, and continues to call me pet names. He also told me that as long as he’s having sex w me, that he will not sleep with others.
I feel like he’s still my boyfriend, as we’ve been seeing eachother every day since the break up. He even took me to dinner last night! He said that he wanted it to be where we still hang out and didn’t want it to be a “goodbye forever” type deal. I want to win him back, as we still talk a lot but I want to do it in a way that he thinks he might lose me. I feel like I sometimes appear to be too available and I want to change that,’because I do want him back. I explained to him that in the meantime spending time with him was enough. We started out as being good friends, so maybe we can start slow and see what happens? We both do love eachother, what should I do?