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My current company went out on a limb to give me a promotional job 3 months ago, and they actually created the job for me. My lead vouched for me to get it too.

But the culture of the team I’m on is exceptionally toxic and it’s getting to me. Basically, almost everyone is back stabbing and catty. For some reason, something about the team fosters this type of behavior and people are constantly reporting interpersonal issues to the managers/HR leaders (to sabotage) and talking behind each each others’ backs. It’s a lot of covert bullying and undercutting. Before I joined the team, I knew they had problems, but the extent has been eye opening. And I liked this company in general before, but my feelings are starting to change and I feel like I’m changing too in some ways (since it’s kind of “survival of the fittest”).

My lead that vouched for me is a good person, and I can see that about her deep down, but she joins in on the gossip as well and can turn on people quickly. She’s basically in charge of my professional development since my main boss is remote. She invites me to drink wine with a “core group” but the entire thing is mainly just talking shit about other people. I know that’s normal in workplaces, but the way it’s done feels especially malicious.

Whenever I try to say no to Wine Friday, my lead (the one who vouched for me) insists I go and she’s very persistent about it.

I feel like if I leave now, I’ll be burning bridges (especially with her) but I just want to have a job where it doesn’t feel like this..

am I doing the right thing? What would you do?