So I saw this myTake recently called "Being Attractive can be a Mixed Blessing for Girls and Bullying"
And the title itself wasn't bad, but then I started to see a lot of recurring themes ... Narcissistic themes that is.
So here we goooo!
Beauty: a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.
On G@G, it's undeniable that even the most popular of users have a tendency to become either extremely insecure, or obsessed with their appearance.
I've been told myself (and a huge disclaimer behind this is I do not personally believe these claims) that I am "beautiful" or "hot."
So let it be know that this is not a myTake written out of hate towards those who are "beautiful", or even commentary on how people born with beauty "have it easy."
As such, I will also reframe from including any images in this myTake besides my own sloppy drawing to illustrate my points.
I am writing this take to erase beauty standards, no, I am here because I intend to erase association of humanity and beauty in general.
In this new myTake...
7 reasons why I do not value "Beauty."
Warning: if you believe my words are directed at you, don't bother reading.
1.) Your body is meant to be a machine, not a statue.
If you treat your own body like a piece of art, then put yourself in a museum.
You are a machine, and just like many machines, they can still be decorated with cosmetics. Like a car with flames painted on the side, it still serves the same function of a car, but has its own individuality as well.
Obsession with your physical appearance can lead to seriously low self esteem, or even eating disorders like Bulimia nervosa and Anorexia.
It drives those who are surrounded by a family of Narcissists and visual perfectionists to starve themselves. My mothers step father used to make my mother put her but up against a mirror, and would draw around the imprint of her behind with a marker. He would tell her "look how fat you are" and my mom would believe that it was a terrible thing. My mom eventually got over it, and always told me that I'll never be ugly, and if I just treat my body like it's a delicate machine, I'll be okay.
People who try to sculpt themselves into whoever they are told to look like, removing ribs, installing breasts, and will deny their body the fuel it needs. If a machine runs out of fuel, it uses up the back up tank (body fat, which is used as energy, but not nutrients) until it eventually burns out and dies.
A statue may end up being admired or studied for its aesthetic appeal, but eventually people will start to pay attention to the cracks (wrinkles) and the age of an artifact, before you're put into a museum.
Then that becomes all you are, sweets for the eyes, and if that is truly your goal, then make sure to get along with the other displays.
2.) Natural Beauty Vs Cosmetic Beauty.
Make is usually made using oils, powders, greases, perfumes, dyes, paints, and other chemical compounds.
Ever seen a tabloid that has a celebrity with their make-up off? It's such a tragedy isn't it?
Being lied to in the form of face paints and foundation?
... No.
Maybe I'm not being fair, but if you can't tell when people are wearing eye liner/foundation, what's wrong with you? It's extremely obvious.
Now I'm aware that make up can also be tied to professionalism in certain employment areas. I also don't really care though, because I think that's also a little ridiculous.
I tend to hear two arguments surrounding this topic. One from women, and one from men.
Women:"We don't wear make-up to impress men, we put it on for ourselves."
Men: "Women have it easy! They can wear make-up without getting judged but men can't."
Both of these arguments have valid points, but only in defense of each other.
When you think about it in a broad sense, it is still the woman's choice to apply the makeup, and nobody is actually stopping men from using makeup.
The truth is, when you're using make up you're using your own face as a canvas, an art form you could say. Yet the art itself is correlated with personal beauty.
It's a legitimately gray area considering that cosmetics aren't permanent and don't really affect anyone.
That being said, I personally believe that using makeup should be something you appreciate in the artistic sense, and that makeup should not be so heavily associated with one's identity.
3.) Beauty is meant to please the mind of the observer.
If you yourself are an observer of beauty, to value beauty in yourself would only mean to gaze at your own image for pleasure.
Others look at paintings, landscapes, oceans, and mountains. All things that are natural.
Imagine growing up never being able to see your own face. You'd have no one to compare yourself to, because you'd have no way of knowing your own face.
4.) Confidence vs Arrogance.
Being confident is the ability to be sure of yourself through your goals and your own identity .. To summarize that is. Confidence is not self projection, it's self assurance.
Arrogance is a clear character trait, and tends to lead to Narcissistic behaviors. To be arrogant is to group any criticism towards you as "hate" or "bullying" or "slander." People who are arrogant will usually claim that people who do not like them, are jealous of how great they are.
You are not a jealousy magnet. You are a cringe projector.
The most ironic factor of this is that if anyone were to call you repulsive or unattractive, the situation suddenly changes. Suddenly your opinion
Your obsession with beauty to the point of thinking its your most redeeming quality is genuinely sad, and if you ever use it to put someone else down, you have no life. But we'll get to bullying later.
5.) Narcissism.
Narcissistic behavior is very easy to detect, and if you've been following me for a while you know I have a lot to say about narcissism.
Men and women who preach body positivity, yet claim they are blessed with "being attractive."
I've seen plenty of people who get genuinely angry in response to any form of criticism, especially if it's about their appearance. They will laugh at others, claiming they are ugly. Yet the minute it is ever implied that the Narcissist in question is unattractive, suddenly they're the victim.
They will deflect anything negative said to them, sometimes even claiming those who criticize them are "cruel" or "belittling."
Placing so much value in how they look to the point of defending themselves like they would a child.
6.) Beauty has and always will be purely subjective.
"I'm a perfect 10."
"You're like... a 6."
"Wow your brother is hot! "
"Wow she's hot, and she's 46?"
For the love of fuck, please shut up.
I see it all the time, people throwing out numbers as if they mean anything. A "10" to one person could be a "2" to someone else.
I see it on G@G most of all.
Questions like...
"Do I need to lose weight?" when they have a healthy figure.
Or "Why don't girls like long hair on guys?" and it's posted in response to questions like...
"Why do men only date blondes?"
It becomes a self fulfilled prophecy, and I don't even have to wait five minutes to see a question identical to that one from another user.
The answer to all of these questions is that there is no real answer. There are anecdotes, but there is no real way to infer beauty is NOT in the eye of the beholder. Because that may sound overused and cliché, but it's still the truth, and it always will be.
7.) Bullying anyone else's appearance.
Your own "Beauty" does not validate your behavior towards others.
I have seen it time and time again, sometimes even from influencers on this site. It's especially pathetic to see common phrases used to attempt to put others down for their appearance.
Phrases like....
"Lol you're ugly, and you're trying to talk to ME?"
"You're just, jealous because you're not me."
"Lol sit down hun, your ugly ass can't even get pussy."
As you can see these examples I've stolen are...they show how extremely intelligent people are when they rely on looks in an argument.
But if you unironically think you are attractive enough to judge others... I can't imagine you actually care about anyone but yourself.
Disclaimer!
If you think that what I said was directed at anyone who is simply confident and doesn't let people tell him/her how to dress or how to look, then you're mistaken.
I am directing this at the VALUE we place on beauty, and why I am against it. If I missed anything let me know.
Wrap up!
Overall if you just find pleasure in the beauty of color generated aesthetics, and want to become those aesthetics, I don't really care that much.
But I do want to address one last thing. If you think you are unfortunate to be "beautiful" because of all the attention and bullying it gets you, imagine looking like an actual boiled tomato, that'll inspire you. Or maybe an owl. :)
Have a nice day.
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