I don't want children and I've my own personal reasons on why. To people who says I may change my mind, it's also a possibility I don't change it at all and I doubt it would ever happen. It's better regretting not having children than regretting having children by the way. Right now I'm not convinced that getting a child is a good idea and I don't find screaming, pooping and sleepless nights as tempting.
(PS! The things I've written is true, but the MyTake consists of some exaggerations and weird wording for humorous purposes.)
1) Spare time
One of the things I really appreciates in this world is spare time. I love it! Then I can do my hobbies like drawing, photographing, trying out new recipes, travelling when I can, thinking, relaxing and sometimes just doing nothing else than enjoying my time on the couch staring at the roof. I'm maybe a bit lazy, but I needs that time to relax as an easily stressed person. In addition I loves having a lot of time to do things I enjoys doing without the stress. Sometimes we needs to have fun and not only do things we've to do. Life is more than just school, work and daily chores!
2) Selfish
I'm a selfish person and I gladly admits it. Most people around me don't notice my selfishness since I'm very good at avoiding situations requiring a lot of considerations, unnecessarily responsibilities and so on. I'm not that person who voluntarily sign up on doing things I don't have to do and that I knows someone else gladly wants to do. In my life I've my prioritizes. A child would be problematic because then I had to plan every single things I wanted to do to fill their needs and then I would probably not have enough time doing what I enjoys. I would also probably not have enough energy and I would need to delay a lot of plans.
When I ask people why they wants children, they always answer: "I had children because I WANTED some".
But I won't say my selfishness and somewhat egoistical side is very evil like. I don't want to hurt people. I'm against things like killing, stealing, scamming and so on. I supports the idea of paying taxes to a welfare system with universal healthcare and education, giving to charities, avoid putting myself in a situation that would make it difficult for everyone and so on. I support the human rights too.
Despite my selfish side I'm not necessarily more selfish than voluntarily parents. At least I'm honest about my selfish side and wants to spare potential children from it. When I ask people why they wants children, they always answer: "I had children because I WANTED some". That's pretty self-explanatory I suppose.
3) Expensive
Children are expensive and would always be. Also in one of the world richest countries - my country Norway.
The average couple don't get children before they've finished their education and worked a few years in my country. In addition it's free healthcare and education. There are also maternal leave and paid vacation days. Parents pays ca. 100$ less in taxes per child they've from the child is born until they're 18 years old, yet children are expensive. In my country Norway there's a lot of peer pressure and bullying when it comes to fashion. It would be especially difficult if expensive fashion gets popular and your child gets bullied in school for it.
In addition both birthdays, celebrations, vacations, recreational activities, sport equipment and so on costs a lot here. Since Norway is a rich first world country and many people gets a good income, having a poor economy would be difficult when it comes to happiness of the child and many people with good economy don't equal everyone having a good economy. In addition it's less money to the parents.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm a selfish person who wants to spend more money at myself. I wants better food, clothing, vacations, equipment to my hobbies etc. Instead of buying a new bicycle to a child, I could use that money at a nice meal on a restaurant to myself or go to SPA. I could also invest my money on my education and on my career.
4) Ugly
I finds most children hideous. Some looks better than others, but they're still not a pretty sight. They looks like small annoying people. Most people finds children cute and I've to pretend I finds their small little aliens cute to not seem impolite. I don't understand these "aaaw!". I paradoxically finds cats and dogs cuter looking , although I've phobia for them and not for children.
5) Annoying
Children can also be very annoying. They can suddenly scream and cry for no reason. Most of them have a high pitch voice until they reach puberty that hurts my high sensitive ears. You can't always expect children to behave nicely either, because children are children and it's scientific proven that the mental maturity of a child is different from an adult's. Quite often when I'm either going to the grocery store or walking at the street I sees children crying, screaming and getting tantrums. The parents trying to talk to them [almost] always looks extremely tired and exhausted. Children also tends to be impolite and say rude things because they simply don't know better. I was a brat myself when I was a child and asked my parents why a woman in the grocery store was overweight. I was probably 6 at that time.
I'm not patient enough to deal with this and having children don't look tempting at all. Each time I goes outside and sees people's everyday lives, it's always a reminder for me and I always thanks myself for not putting myself in that situation.
6) Disgusting
Some people thinks I'm overreacting now and can't take a shit. It's true I finds some aspects of raising a child disgusting and I've my reasons too like it or not. Dirty diapers, smelly clothing, mucus coming out of the nose, saliva and food mess everywhere are some of the glorious things a parent have to face when raising a child. It only last the first years, but it's still a lot of mess to deal with when the child grows up. I'm not only high sensitive on sounds, but I'm also at smells. I can smell smelly people from meters distance.
Once the puberty hit it's a lot of years of insecurity. Later on your child may want to go partying and drinking in the teenage years - something that won't be pretty either. I bet no one wants to see their child coming home from a party drunk and vomiting even if they're over the drinking age. No one want to see their child smoking either and then you may questioning your own parent skills.
7) No good reasons
I've no reasons to get children and I'm not into bragging about them either. Them looking like you, going to school, having a hobby, accomplish something and then you bragging about it isn't a good reason having children. I don't need to prove anyone else that my genes are so important that I've to make children that looks like me, thinks much like me or do much of the same things as me. I don't need children to prove any parenting skills. I don't need to get any children to get love either. If I wants love, I would rather let people choose to love me instead of me creating people to just love me. I don't feel the need to force anyone to love me and children are often expected to love their families by their families and everyone else. I don't feel the need to get children either so I've servants to take care of me when I gets old. The world have enough people, so I won't harm anyone not getting some either.
8 ) Uncompromising
In certain things I'm an uncompromising person. When it comes to scarifying my spare time, money and things I likes to do, it won't happen. Certain things are things I don't want to sacrifice as easily. The reason to prioritize something over something else have to be good enough. I'm willingly to spend more years on a longer education and sacrifice some money for it in order to get a job I loves, but I'm not willingly to sacrifice certain things just for the sake of getting children.
9) Child abuse
Parents that don't want children and dislikes them are less likely to be good parents than parents who loves their children, are willingly to sacrifice much and enjoys being parents. You don't need to beat and scream at your children to be a child abuser. A parent watching TV and sleeping all the time after coming home from work are as much a child abuser as a parent who beats their children.
Parents that don't want to talk to their children, care about what they're doing and do activities with them makes their children feel lonely, unwanted and emotionally scarred rest of their lives.
In addition to being a self-centered person I'm also impatient when it comes to things I'm not interested in and would therefor not be a good parent in addition to finding children disgusting. The world has enough bad parents.
10) The world is a bad place
The world has honestly a lot of evil in it that's unavoidable although there are many enjoyable things here too. I mean, this world have diseases, bullying, poverty, global warming and many other things that makes people suffering. There aren't any guarantees your child would live a happy life and you having a stable economy for life. Your child can get cancer, be a victim of an accident, rape, bullying, get depressed, wanting to commit suicide etc. You may die before your child reach adulthood. Some parents can cope with a lot, but I'm definitively not one of those. I've enough with my problems and can't cope with other's issues.
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