Why I Won't Have Children

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, I'm going to tell you all why I won't reproduce, and believe me it isn't one of those feminist agendas. I always thought I'd have children but the logical thing I've come to is that I shouldn't, and here's why :

1. There are more important things in life to me.

Now I don't want to pull the 'my career is more important' thing, but it is. That is my number one goal in life. I don't really think having children is the most important thing to me or a main goal for me so I won't give it planning or make effort to find someone and plan a whole family and all. I just don't think it's that important to me. When I imagine my future I imagine an amazing career, a house, maybe a pet or some farm house.

2. I have genetic illnesses I don't want to spread.

I have a lot of genetic diseases, mental illnesses, and chronic illnesses that were inherited from both of my parents. So I can only imagine how it would pass down to my children. Why should I spread my genes? They aren't healthy genetics. It would just be selfish of me.

3. I don't want to pass down my unfortunate looks.

I'm below average looks wise and I accept that, but I don't want my kid to be unattractive too. That would also be unfair to them because they will have a lot of self-esteem issues and will resent me from bringing them to this world.

4. This world is too shitty to bring someone else into it.

I have a very honest look towards things. Maybe even pessimistic, and I can pick up on bad things very quickly so if my kid becomes like this too they'll hate this world and they'll want to never even exist.

5. I have a narrow pelvis.

I'm fairly tall so I have a narrower pelvis and narrow hips ( not saying all tall women are like this but most) so I won't even be able to give birth naturally and I'd have to get a C-section. Why should I even attempt? And no healthy male mate is attracted to that anyway so even if I find anyone that means he is probably just as messed up health and genetic wise as me.

6. I haven't found anyone anyway

I haven't found the right guy and I doubt I will. I admit I don't put in effort because when I used to put in effort I just got rejected anyway because of my unattractiveness mostly. I'm fine with being alone forever but that does relate to one of the reasons why I wouldn't have children. The only thing I'll regret about this maybe is intelligence. I'm not personally intelligent but my family is and I thought maybe that'll pass one if I ever have a child? But it sounds like it probably won't happen. If I got anything wrong scientifically in this please correct me.

[Anonymous]

Till recently I have been undecided about if I ever want kids. Then a friend of mine asked me out. I was unsure at first and more I thought about I thought how different we are. One of the big things I remember is her saying admittedly is that she doesn't want kids when a mutual friend asked. That was a big factor in me rejecting her. Even though I still am undecided on if I ever want kinds, I think I'm more on the wanting them side of the argument. Enough so that I no longer will date women who know they don't want children. And since I have decided that I have realized that a lot of women actually don't want kids. To each their own though, it's their life so their choice. Just weird how meeting someone who knows what they want can help you figure out what you want.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Interesting myTake. I feel like most of the points were geared more towards having biological children though. So many people seem to forget that adoption is always an option. Unless you just don't want children at all, you can avoid most of what you listed by adopting. There are so many amazing children out there who are already alive and need loving homes. Just something to consider. :)

[Confidenceoverload]

Nice you perfectly described your reasoning for not wanting kids and if I had mental and genetic diseases I wouldn’t want to spread them either you are doing a good thing and plus I mean what girl wants to get a kid cut out of them like Owww that sounds painful and plus I wouldn’t want to take the chance of putting another child in this god forsaken place

[CoffeeWC]

You will find a guy, and I'm not just saying this to be nice. You may not know it yet, but there is someone out there for you. You just haven't found one. For the genetics, everyone has flaws. The reason people inherit genes from their parents is because they were able to find a partner to reproduce with. A lot of time people notice flaws in themselves more than others.

[Anonymous]

I stopped reading at number two and will not continue. Full offensive given.
I have a certain illness but my brother ended up carrying the gene and gave it to one of his kids. I have two kids and NONE of them has what I have. So don't try to use that excuse.

[Wollu]

Good decision. Anyway, just to warn you: Do some research on the matter concerning the female psyche when without kids. Children are not a "social construct".

[Anonymous]

Yea , 2018 , less and less women are deciding to have children. It's actually a good thing because the world today is too overpopulated. Also I fully support women not wanting to have children because if I was a woman I would not have one either.

[pleasestopthis]

It is NEVER a good thing to stop reproducing. Children are the future of the economy. Less children today means less adults tomorrow. Adults are the ones who work and support economy. If you want to take care of overpopulation, then you should cut off old people, not children.

[zagor]

@pleasestopthis That makes no sense; old people will be gone soon enough, and don't have children. Children grow up and do. And there is much more of a surplus of children, on a global basis, thanks to ignorant backwaters that average 6 births per woman.

[pleasestopthis]

@zagor You should read more, pal. First world countries are desperate to have their citizens to have more children.

[zagor]

@pleasestopthis Yet third world countries are having far more children than the first world countries could possibly absorb. At some point it is necessary to curb population growth, and thus there will be a population bump that temporarily leads to an older average population with attendant social issues. But the only alternative is to continue to pump out babies at a high rate to reduce this average, which leads to continual global population growth, and eventually disaster.

[Pocahontas2000]

Have no genetic illnesses, carry good genes, have a good size pelvis but still doubt if I want them.

[AD240pCharlie]

7. The world is overpopulated. We don't need more people having kids just because they think they should.

[Anonymous]

Just wait till you are old and all alone, I bet you'll regret it then.

[zagor]

I know a number of old people who very much regret having had kids, especially when they end up raising grandkids or dealing with addictions.

[Joelski440]

I agree with you on 2, 4, & 6. That's why I won't have children, The rest don't apply.

[Anonymous]

Is not really liking them a good enough reason? I can't stand kids.

[Nice222]

Sadly I agree with you.

[Lumberman53TheSecond]

I'm also childfree and I love your take.

[Sexy_Steve]

Who the fuck cares if you want children or not?

[Anonymous]

can i go in raw anyways?

[CT_CD]

Fantastic

[fredrick89]

flummoxed

[Anonymous]

Mucho bueno

[Anonymous]

Good Take