Is it weird that I don't want kids?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No not weird.
just keep in mind I hear a lot of guys say that, and they seem to think their life will stay similar. That they have heaps of good mates and will be able to have heaps of company through their 30s and 40s like they did their 20s. A lot of men do change their mind and end up having kids. Even if you don’t change your mind, those mates of yours often will. They will get married and have a family. And they won’t be seeing you as often. It doesn’t mean you won’t be friends but it won’t be the same as it is now. I know a lot of guys 35-40 who go shit, maybe I need my own family.. I feel everyone has left me behind. And it’s not like at 40 you are going to be bothered hitting the bar scene as much as in your 20s. So unless you have a really satisfying career to throw yourself into. You have to think. What will my life be like in my 40s when everyone I know has moved on in my life and I see them once in a blue moon. And I don’t go out socialising as much as I used to. Will I be okay just going to work and seeing my friends once every 6 months type thing. Or will I crave my own family. If you don’t want kids that’s fine. Just keep in mind what your life will be like and be realistic about it.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

Nope. I don't want kids either and I was always told I was defective and broken but recently I came across an article where a mom confessed that she regretted having a kid and that if she could go back she wouldn't have done it and instead of being eaten alive, thousands of moms confessed to feeling the exact same way and I cannot begin to describe the... euphoria I felt knowing that I am not alone (and am actually right) in my feelings toward parenthood. Apparently all these women are lying to society about how they feel about being moms and deep inside they're miserable and resentful and it sounds horrible but I'm elated to know that all my worries about being a mom are right. They did mostly all say that after 7 years they started to enjoy being a mom and I just think I'd die before the 7 years was up 😭😂

Dayman343 · Accepted Answer

I witnessed my sister bringing up 2 children and how she dealt with the noise, the mess and all the paraphernalia that goes with ensuring their safety and upbringing I will never know. It was complete horror show for me to witness. I was still living at home when she had them and whenever she turned up with them I would make my excuses and leave the house. Then when they were a bit older they became like little wrecking machines, defacing my books, scratching my CDs, drawing on walls and furniture. When I met my wife, I made a point of telling her that children are not on my life's shopping list and no I won't change my mind ever. So from my point of view no, I would not recommend it.

JesseJayNeak · Accepted Answer

Nobody has to tell you how to live it

Screenwriter · Answer

Nah.

I didn't want a kid until I was around 36 years old. And I didn't have one until three years later.

If you don't want one because you're doing something else important to you, that's all for the best. You don't have the desire or the time to devote to childrearing.

Because if there's one thing kids do, they suck up every free minute of your adult life until they're much older and can fend for themselves. And by THAT time, they don't want to have anything to do with you ANYway!!! So, it all works out!

Then, if you've done your job well, they start to appreciate you and hug you and forgive you for all the imagined slights YOU did to THEM, and understand how flawed human relationships are and that 99% of parents have done the best that they could've at the time.

They'll also realize you only EVER want the best for THEM!!!

Take your time and be sure. You have many years left to decide.

thathonestman · Answer

No, it is not weird at all, however be prepared for the following.

1) Feeling and/or being left out of family and friend conversations while they discuss what their kids are doing.

2) Not being taken seriously as an adult.

3) People subtlety not respecting you as you continue to get older.

4) Having people question your sexuality and even question whether or not you might be a pedophile (yes this happens).

Since you are 29, these feelings and thoughts may change and you still have plenty of time to figure it out if you do happen to change your mind.

Woman1 · Answer

Nope, perfectly normal. Kids can be super gross and are high-maintenance. If you don’t want a kid, please do not have a kid because in the end you and the kid will face large negative consequences. I’m sorry that anything made you believe that it was abnormal to not have a kid.

menina · Answer

No, it's not at all. There are more people like you and you're not forced to have them. Don't listen to people who say that it's strange or that you'll change your mind.

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

No, sometimes I feel like I don't want any kids either. After I see how badly kids act in America spoiled f****** brats. And yes I'm an American.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah not weird. Everyone now a days doesn't want kids.

oldawg · Answer

No not at all I never wanted to bring a kid into this world but I have one that I know of but I believe there's a few more out there and I'm being serious it's not as common for a woman not to want kids as a man doesn't. But I find most women usually work regret that decision when they get older

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

If you want to focus on your carrier and you think it will prevent you from being truly happy and successful, there is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. I would never judge you because of that, some may, though, so be careful and try to ignore those people.

Madison193 · Answer

No, and I don't want kids either (I doubt I'll ever change my mind) my mom told me as long as I'm under her roof I have to help with my 3 youngest siblings also I bet when I get my own place she will expect me to babysit them (I've been helping babysit for 9 years, I just turned 18 Jan 9th of this year)

Qdbrown · Answer

This is normal for young people.

But long-term it's not smart. Apart of being human is reproduction. This is coming later for many now. Back in the day people had kids younger. Now plus 35 when they want to settle down.

The stronger more convicted organisms will continue on. The weaker gene pool will just give up.

PinkMichae · Answer

Is it common? No. But it's not weird. A small part of the population end up not wanting them. And I can understand the perks to not having them.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope , also why would you want to bring a life into a world that's just falling apart?

Hentaibby · Answer

I would want kids if they grew faster , like cats. It’s nice to have a big family but raising another human life is exhausting stressful a huge responsibility that too many people rush into.

AnotherDrinkPlease · Answer

No. I don't have any. And it isn't gonna happen now at my age.

Lhinzo · Answer

And God said and i quote " Go into the World and Multiply" but i would also add if you have the means to train and provide for them. I think not wanting kids would just effect the balance of things cause everything was made for a reason, and on the other hand it depends on choice and reasonable reasons like Health issues, Inability to provide for them and so on. Aside these i think you need help

ushagomez · Answer

I think we have a different opinion at different stages of our life, so it is not weird. You may find you will change your mind later. Or, you may remain childless. It is always your choice.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Nope just mention it when you feel things are getting serious.. I dont want them a lot of guys werent interested in that but think of finding the right woman like apple picking gotta find one thats tasty and looks good on the outside

Boromir · Answer

It’s your life man… It’s so up to you what you want to do with it. Nobody should force you to procreate or even make you feel morally obligated to have kids.

Get a vasectomy, less worries for the future.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. However, if you were madly in love you might feel differently, and if she was desperate to have them you might relent. Once you got them, you might get the idea.
Or you may circumvent all of that and stick to your guns and never have kids. Either way, your life. Not weird.

Ryfyle · Answer

Because your being honest with the fact your a genetic dead end.

Jenngirl00 · Answer

It is actually becoming more common these days. I do not want any myself

jshm2 · Answer

Yes. As you're assuming you will find someone who will like you enough to give you them.

Else you think you can always go for second best, bury your shame, and use the spunk dump, aka sperm donor fertility clinic.

Paolaa988 · Answer

No it's your choice. Not everyone has kids. Personally i want at least one kid, I don't want a lot but I do wanna be a mom and I want 2-3 but if i have one kid Ill still be happy with that.

LazarusTheRisen · Answer

Normally I would say yes. But in today's culture we need fewer kids who are rebellious and hateful. So if you don't have any kids that is fine by me.

cth96190 · Answer

It is contrary to your biological imperative to not want to reproduce. Given that you have self evidently malfunctioned, it is better that you do not pass on your DNA.

Olivier-628 · Answer

Yea. Kids are a huge responsibility but also the next thing in life. If kids aren't the thing that will bring you in the next stage. What will?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Yeah, sorry, but I see women who don't want kids as lacking in femininity.  Also, many, many, women your age say they don't want kids until they get bitten with baby rabies on about age 35.

Sonorous · Answer

I don't know. Guess it depends on your definition of "weird."

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Not really. Lots of people don't want kids. I don't. Better we figure that out BEFORE kids comes into the picture, rather than after.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all weird. There are many men and women who feel the same way. It's a standard checkbox on dating profiles.

CasaNorba · Answer

not sure if its weird or not but I do know that you sure as fuck are not alone because having kids is my worst nightmare at the moment and I dont think anything would change that for now

AdithyaR · Answer

Not weird at all. I don't want kids either cause I don't think I'd be a good parent and there's no way I'm putting the entire weight of raising children on my partner.

Aether1 · Answer

Not at all, I don't want kids either.

exitseven · Answer

They are not for everyone. They are a huge commitment and they cost boatloads of cash. It's a lot more involved than a pet goldfish,.

888theGreat · Answer

No , most liberals think it is destroying the environment , but I think it is selfishness and not wanting responsibility or them interfering with what you want to do.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Maybe, but it would be unwise to have any if you don't want any.

rievious · Answer

I don't think you're weird. I bet people don't want kids bc the overpopulation idea became huge. Thanks Thanos

laxsaji · Answer

It's not it's up to you completely you want or not but it's not good if you have pussy means you can get a baby and your thinking is wrong not what you want.

ManHater · Answer

I only want to have kids if its going to be a black baby being raised by good white folks so I can tell these black parents its you who are the problem

Ninjazzed · Answer

Many people don’t with how the economy’s going.

Nik_92 · Answer

its not weird you don't want kids but reason behind its matter for someone related to you

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Nope! My niece didn't either, but she's got one, now!!!

OddBeMe · Answer

Nope. Corporations have made parenting too expensive. And we’ve polluted the planet enough with our species.

Nazgol · Answer

No, it's not. You have freedom & choices. You can live your life any way you like

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

It’s weird that anyone actually does.

Homer79 · Answer

Nope I don’t want children. I have a niece and a nephew for that. Plus I grew up with 13 first cousin all younger then me.

mrkdvsn · Answer

Not at all. My wife and I decided not to have kids very shortly after we met. It's really not for everyone

MudRucker · Answer

Some people should not have kids. If you don't want kids for what ever reason don't have them.

Lildiq · Answer

No, it's good for the overpopulation problem, I won't have kids either... People who have kids are selfish

Anonymous · Answer

No. I’ve never wanted kids & I still don’t.  Its your choice, not what society expects.

Anonymous · Answer

I would want kids if I could afford to have them. Maybe you just can't afford them.

Anonymous · Answer

Listen to all the snowflakes chiming in unison - 'no it's not weird.' That should tell you right there, it's weird.

Anonymous · Answer

To each their own, my guess is, you had your first girlfriend in your teenage years

Lliam · Answer

I don't think it's weird. I never wanted any.

EmmaMary · Answer

It's purely an individual choice.

Lauren-green · Answer

No it's your choice. Personally I do not want kids

thotmas97 · Answer

No. Why would it be?

Shihab91 · Answer

You don't want to take responsibility 🙂

torikellyfangrl · Answer

No. I don’t want kids either

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I don't want kids either

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