I was like that except I didn't hate kids, I just didn't want my own. When I "peeled the onion" on that issue over time, I found trauma in my youth was the source. There were multiple and deeply repressed.
My specifics may vary from his, if you need details I'll share them. It's easy to come up with a logical answer, but that answer probably has emotional roots that have to be traversed that control the seemingly logical justification.
I don't know what normal is... normal is relative to society and each individual. Each individual, is programmed by their environment based upon personality, emotional experiences, oaths. A lot of that would be < 10yrs old.
I don't want kids either, I also like sound sleep, and I don't like nasty smells, destroyed property, or being around people who can't hold a conversation.
Also If he is 27 then he's going to see your teens as his peers or as slightly younger siblings, not as his children.
You are in that weird grey zone, where he's technically still close enough to your age to be ok as your partner, but he's also weirdly close to your offspring's age because you had kids pretty early in your life.
Your kids are teenagers so he probably likes them because they’re somewhat independent. He might just mean that he doesn’t like young children.
Maybe he just doesn't like babies/little kids. Teenagers are a lot easier to deal with so he probably likes your kids cuz of that
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u Do you really want to become a mother again at the age of 39 or 40? Many women who become mothers late in life do so to avoid confronting their aging, and they later have some regrets about having that last child.
If you want kids. Maybe it’s just not meant to be. I think you should really talk this out. I guess if you really love him stick by him. Bur you need to talk
I gather he is referring to babies that keep you up all hours of the night. He doesn't have to get up and bottle feed, burp your teenagers in the middle of the night... at least I hope not?👀
You're kids are teenagers and he probably does love them lots because they are at an age he can relate/have fun with. Babies aren't likely his thing.
It's normal... he's just done with little kids. Teenage kids are like young adults... it's way different. Just ask me about how my kid decided to sleep to day from the time that he got home until just now and all I want to do is sleep right now. But I'm fucking cooking food... that's little kids... fuck more of that. After this one it's the last one.
Kids are not for everyone. I was pretty much ambivalent about it. I could have gone either way. I know people who decided that kids were not for them. I met a guy I went to high school with that said he was too selfish to have kids.
This guy knows what he wants and is happy with his decision.
Yes, it's normal. He loves you and your children, but doesn't want to raise a baby. If it's important to you to have additional children, you need to find someone else. If I were you at 37, I would just accept it.
Maybe he likes your kids because he can view them as his buddies rather than children if that makes sense.
It is fairly normal. It certainly isn't for everyone. That is great that he gets along so well with yours though.
I think it's normal for men to want to skip the baby phase, and go to the time the kid can play around.
Most likely he means that he doesn't like babies, or other extremely young children. Teenagers are essentially adults by comparison.
You coerced him into being with you, like controlling females do, and now you'd like to not feel guilty about it.
Can't help ya. If I took a girl 15 years younger after having 2 childten females like you would eat me alive.
Yes, It is normal. Kids are human. It is not easy to raise a human, and you need to take responsibility. So it is normal if anyone does not want kids.
I don’t use words like normal or abnormal anymore because it implies right and wrong. It isn’t mainstream or what the majority feels but there a plenty of others that don’t want any. I never did and I regret having one
I dont think its normal but sadly its become common.
Well you are dating a 27 year old so just saying.
He doesn't mean your kids because he can always go and forget them without any consequences.
As long as you have money for 'em or a well functioning government to take care of them, why not 😊
There is no normal. Some people don't have any desire to have their own kids.
Until we find out why humans are really here, technically, no, it wouldn't be normal. I don't want kids myself, nor marriage
It is very normal. He doesn’t want to go through all that with a brand new baby. He doesn’t mind yours because they’re grown.
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