My boyfriend says i'm wicked for not wanting kids?

[Anonymous]

I have a huge family but that family has a lot of single mom's married or unmarried. I love kids I really do, I grew up changing my baby cousins, neices and nephews diapers and I love them more than anything. i've been celibate for the past 20 years cause I don't want a kid. My boyfriend says he wouldn't mind tho and we've been dating for yr. I'm saving up for uni the past 2 years so a kid would disrupt my next plans for the next 10 years on where I wanna be career wise and I think I would hate that because then I'd have to build for them and having to stop building the life I want for my mom. I wanna finish the house I'm building so she can live with me and if she wants one I'll build her one too. She lives in this small wooden house all 5 if us grew up in. We all have different dads abd I feel like since me she has always been in fight mode she's married now to my oldest siblings dad after he got divorced and got out of jail and not he has been blind for the past 9 years so she's been the one to provide and pay bills cause his kids are no help and he hides his money from her. I think kids should go to parents that want them and rn I don't want any, I think I'd hate the kid like how my mom didn't want me so my dad took me but my mom came and got me as soon as she realised how abusive he was to me. I don't think you should have a kid if you plan to love and be with that 1 person forever I grew up thinking it was normal for u to not have both parents live with you until my aunt's husband explained when I asked if he didn't have a house to himself when I spent the holidays and he always came home. I love babies and kids really I volelunteer at kids hospitals and I donate books and supplies ylto orphanages and kids in my community every year. I just don't think I'd like that kid if it was mine when I expressed this to him he said I was a wicked person for doing that but I don't feel sorry.

[HelpfulWoman]

"says he wouldn't mind tho" when he obviously does..
I couldn't be arsed to read the rest frankly

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Asker]

Thank you thank you very much. i didn't even try.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Summeroflove]

You aren’t wicked. But I think your not compatible in the long run.

[Asker]

Having a kid after a 1 Yr relationship isn't good for the long run, maybe when your far in and its too late to leave cause u've spent a decent amount of time with a person. Tf am I suppose to do, breed up for every temporary relationship I get into. Having a kid with a person means nth nowadays which I think is stupid. Wife and mother of my child sounds way better than ex-gf and mother of my child I don't want kids in my wedding photo y tf u think I'm not having sex in the first place. No sex no window for accidents.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Every woman should want to have a baby with the man she loves.

[Asker]

Maybe I'll change my mind in the future. I just don't wanna just have a kid wuth a temporary person in my life. It's not that deep. If I get married yh sure will divorce or cheating ever be an option no we gotta stay together and get old but nowadays mattuates barely make it 5 years. Y would want a kid from a 5 Yr marriage like a reminder time stamp. Loving someone isn't a reason enough to have a kid.