Do people who touch our heart change our lives?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I started thinking about this after I ended a 3 month communication with a man, I really truly liked for the first time after my one and only Long Term Relationship. I felt deep sense of peace and rightness with him.

After my ex, I’ve never liked anyone that much.

Not only I did like him, but I felt a very soothing and close connection to him.

However, I had to stop communicating with him because of some practical and realistic reasons. We ended communication on good terms and he understood.

After that my life changed.

My thought process changed.

I think, It’s not so much because of the new people I have in my life currently, but because my communication with that men, including the end of it - taught me a lot and empowered me to figure out what I really wanted. Not because he did anything, no, just because he appeared at a right time, and taught me the right things.

I saw the way and I found the clarity I was looking for.

I think he has vastly influenced my change and I am not sure whether he’d like that changed version of mine or not, but he unknowingly changed something in me.

He was the rightest person to meet me at that time as we met and even if things didn’t work out, I am happy to have known him.

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When I met him, I could not walk, he was living his best life though, traveling around the world, having amazing fun. For three months he became a part of my daily life and he shared me his traveling adventures as if they were mine and He shared me some of his very valuable life experiences and he accepted me as I was, never trying to change me, that’s what caused a change in me, after we stopped talking.

[Anonymous]

The answer is Yes.

You must exercise your discernment before you lay with another. Sometimes people hide who they really are which is why you have to be strong in your discernment which is a gift that God has given everyone on earth.

If God instructs you to leave a person alone, then you must leave that person alone. Hell is on earth. And God will put his children into the sunkin place for defying his will.

These people are called 'Karmics'. They are put in your life to teach you a lesson. Once the lesson is learned, you must move on. If you stay in a karmic situationship, then you will inherit a spiritual sexually transmitted demon that will nearly be impossible to get rid of.(Don't confuse this with an STD. Modern medicine can't fix this, it's an infliction given to those who sin and it can only be healed through repentance and submission to our Lord & Savior)

If you would like details on what these inflictions are and how they manifest, let me know and I will guide you towards God's light and eternal love ✝️❤️✨

[DishLady]

It’s an interesting question… but I think you also answered it for yourself in the details, so it’s become more of a declaration… Yes of course people who touch our hearts change our lives.


We think about them, dream with them, joke and share parts of ourselves that have stayed silent. It’s a healing process to chat with someone as you’ve described, but it can also become painful if we grow too close emotionally and are then “stuck” with new feelings that have no outlet.


I don’t see that you’ve mentioned why you stopped talking to him about his adventures. I’m sure you had your reasons. Hope you’re doing well now.

[corruption]

yes! i think they really can. my last relationship I really loved this girl. for about 4 months we were strong, but then we broke up. i started to become an asshole in about month 3 but i never realized it, not until of course she broke up with me.

now i really did like her and wasn't sure what i did wrong and i asked her and she told me what was wrong with me. i took it to heart and swore to myself that i'd be more self-aware and change myself to be a better dude so i'm not an asshole to whoever is going to be my next girlfriend.

ny thought process changed, my priorities changed, i gained clarity of my issues which also affected other area of my life. i also realized the bad things she did that she should've seen in herself and fixed. but as much as i don't like her anymore, she really did change my life for the better.

tldr: the (at the time) love of my life broke up with me which hurt but changed my life by improving me overall which improved my life.

[molonski2]

Yes , I think lives are changed forever by such deep communication , and everyone that comes into our lives does so for a reason , its a part of association , you had that connection all be it fleeting , but it was important , and it touched a part of you , it helps shape a part of your personality forever.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Exactly… I can see having a non-fleeting connection with him had I stayed there, but at that time I chose to go and even that taught me a lot.

[molonski2]

That's great , yes we all continue to learn , grow , expand horizons , and he touched your life for a reason , and although I think you said it was non sexual , it still has a sexual element which is really nice.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why do you think it still has a sexual element?

[molonski2]

Because , its like anticipation , similar to Tantra , there was an attraction , can feel it in your words , that's why.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There was an attraction, quite intense from my side I can say and he has told me he was very attracted to me, he loved talking to me, he loved our connection, our open communication and felt truly very comfortable with me. He went out with some people because well he was an attractive man and we were just talking online, and occasionally calling, but he was texting me right before going out with them and coming back from them, texting me he wanted to be with me instead and he needed me.

It wasn’t sexual, I set the boundary from the beginning and he respected that telling me he wanted for me to feel comfortable and trustful with him and he’d wait for me to get comfortable as much as it would take.

It’s not like we had any choice as he was far and we wouldn’t be able to meet up until he traveled to my country in September.

But, there was indeed that anticipation and I felt like he had become a part of my life so smoothly in those 3 months. I felt really so comfortable with him.

And it was so difficult for me to take a decision of cut contact. I did so giving him a closure and he gave me the closure too. And I still respect and like him.

But yes, I was very attracted to him. In a way, I started dating because he opened my heart up for that. He kind of warmed me up for opening my heart. Which is nice, because I was very protective of my heart and locked up in my shell.

How could you feel the attraction in this platonic text though?

[molonski2]

It was obviously sexual ( doesn't mean you had sex ) , all of your words above just confirm that , everything sexual is not just penetration , or pure affection.

How could I feel it? Re read what you wrote 5555 ..
Its not difficult.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

We didn’t sext lol, we just shared about our daily stories and feelings to each other everyday.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So you think we just had a sexual connection? :O

[molonski2]

I'm not saying you did , I said there is a sexual element to it..

[molonski2]

I never said sext , I said sexual , vast difference..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Okay. I give in. You are right. There was the sexual element along with the emotional connection and openness and sense of comfort and natural trust to each other.

[molonski2]

Yes , all of the above zero doubt about it , but its not about " giving in " its just about understanding that tension , it adds to it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What added up to that tension is that we cut communication right after I realized I actually was catching feelings for me and he was becoming more and more emotionally open to me too.

It left me hungry kind of.

[molonski2]

Can well understand , the entire package , as I said.. all of the above , it was more than just conversation , it was an ultimate connection.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep. You understand it exactly.

What is an ultimate connection and do you think he felt the same?

[molonski2]

I'm certain he did.. You can't fake what he did , he is a traveler , he would not have stayed so committed if he were not emotionally involved.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Glad you think so. I am dating someone and I am somewhat content with my life, but I miss him sometimes… And miss my connection with him.

[molonski2]

And completely natural to do so , everybody brings something different , and thats the nice part of it.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Absolutely, those who touch our hearts have a magical way of transforming our lives, and it sounds like you've had a beautifully profound experience! It's like when someone perfectly harmonizes with a part of you that's been quietly humming a melody you didn't fully recognize. They don't have to do anything monumental; their mere presence, the timing, and the connections felt can be enough to shift our perspectives and lead us toward self-discovery and clarity. It's a testament to the impact of authentic connections, even if fleeting. While this individual may not know the extent of their influence on you, the beauty lies in the evolution they sparked within you. Cherish this journey of growth and the newfound understanding of what you truly desire. It's these encounters that enrich our tapestry of life with vibrant threads of change. Keep embracing your journey with an open heart and a curious spirit!

[Dongie]

Heh, you're long winded.

[Joshydavid25]

He obviously wasn't right at all, or you would've stayed.. You just found him attractive, liked him well enough, and decided to learn something from this "experience" is what I get.. People always say "the right people well come for a time" Nah, forget that fake destiny mess.. People come and go and you decide whether you wanna take something good away or be bitter about the departure..

[NathanDavis]

well, of course... and, significantly too

they've made me who I am today... in great part

[TommyMountainFigure]

I think everyone we meet changes us in some way, even if it is just on a sub conscious level that at the time we cannot explain.
Clearly in your case LFF, it has had a major effect though.

[sage2021]

Like they say:

"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear".

I think that's what happened with the two of you.

[IslaTheWitch]

some people can have such an effect on us...

[DJB72]

Absolutely. Every life we touch, even for a moment, changes both our own and theirs.

[LaurenM1997]

They can touch our hearts and break it at the same time take it in their hands and squish it

[dustybiker2]

Yes. I fully believe so.

[clampfan101]

Absolutely. Be it romantically, by being family, or even as a dear friend that feels like family.

[newNapoleon123]

I am an Italian nationalist. Only honorable Italian women can touch my heart.

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely, and so they should.

[Dongie]

I think so. May or may not catch it, but yeah.

[Anonymous]

sometimes, sometimes they are just a piece of shit coated in honey

[supercutebutt]

They 100% do not.

[tomboy2003]

Yes, I believe they do

[MsBrie]

Yes absolutely.

[FuqUFggt]

Lol. Are you gay? This question is

[strateguy632]

sometimes

[eagle1951]

i'd say yes

[jaskin777]

In a way yes