What would you do if you find out that your partner is cheating on you?

[Anonymous]

More specifically my father is cheating on my mom and i somehow found out that. I haven't told my mom yet cause i fear that they may get divorced because of it. So if i just ignore it, will everything get okay with time or should i tell my mom. I mean so many problems will be created (like financial, accommodation) if they get divorced. and if i don't tell my mom then it may seem like deceiving. Hope someone can give me suggestion

[Mr_twoface]

Firstly, sorry to hear about your situation. I can't imagine the distress this is causing you and how you have to go about it with your life daily seeing them and not addressing your concern.

Secondly, begin by telling your dad how much you love him and then tell him how this situation is causing sadness and distress for you especially when your surrounded by mum. If he denies it, continue by telling what you've found out and then give him the ultimatium that you will give it say until this Friday or Saturday for himself to personally address the issue with his wife (aka your mum) or you will tell her. Tell him it's not to hurt him but cause he ain't taking your situation, feelings and emotions into question, and since you also love them both, she needs to know.

Thirdly, maybe he can spare you the moment he tells her by making sure your out of the house. Unless you want to be present and comfort each party, at least them that need it the most. Don't say to mum you've known all along for now. At least not when she is utterly upset.

Fourthly, as for the problems that will be created. It's sadly part of life and they may have savings etc. more than you are aware off and can' manage the divorce and financial aspect smoothly. Maybe he will regret his actions and they will patch up, what ever the next step is, they will work it out together. Times will be tough and that family dynamic will be lost but ultimately you have two parents who will love you, hopefully, unconditionally and you will be able to manage through the upcoming hard times.

Best of luck to you!

[Anonymous]

At my age I’d just walk. Not going to cry or fight over I did like when I was a teenager. Have more respect for myself these days than to let something like that let me resort to a bitch of a man to cry, beg, etc. As for your parents situation, do you really know what’s going on w their relationship? I would say as hard as it is to stay out of it. I’m not sure if you like your dad or hate him but I don’t think you should have to choose sides even if he is doing something. Who knows, maybe behind closed doors they’re having issues. It’s possible they’re staying together at the moment for your sake. Don’t know, it’s really hard to say. It’s possible they’re both doing something, you don’t know what’s going on. I guess at the least you could talk to your dad.

[MsProsperity]

If you’re sure and you have proof that your father is cheating on your not, please tell your mother. It’s not fair to her. She can’t keep on living with someone who doesn’t respect and lover her


If I find out my partner is cheating on me, I’ll block him everywhere and move on with my life. Like ‘oh no dear, bye I’m done with you!’

[Ms_Facesitter]

He's been very good to me so I would honestly be shocked. Trying not to cry I'll have to confront him and ask him why he did it. Why I wasn't enough. I want the closure right away before leaving.

[Abhishek4444]

I know it's hard darling but if you cry in front of father by telling him don't you love my mom she has been with you for so many years her loyalty to you is as pure as soul. if he doesn't care that his daughter and his wife has been hurt emotionally and mentally by him then he is not a good father and a good husband. tell your mother then so your mother can get justice. If the same situation happens with me as a son i will leave a suicide letter in which I will write my mom is the loyal person in my family still my father cheated on her so I think I have impure blood in veins and I am an impure sperm as my father is a cheater he cheated on my mom.

[GoodEnoughThen]

I would let your father know that you know. It's hard enough to keep the secret, but at least by letting him know that you know, the revelation may force him to have to take action. He may even break it off with side lady friend out of shear embarrassment of getting caught.

[Mixedupgirl]

Throw a huge bpd fit and be crazy af for a bit. Always hold resentment and trauma but I’m STAYING! I’ve put in way too much work for this relationship that I refuse to let any who’re control the outcome

[CriticalCatDad]

All of my past partners have cheated on me and I broke up with all of them I do not allow that kind of bullshit from women. Women put me through enough bull as it is

[1Rezz]

Dude.. I think that says a lot about u aswell... and u can't say all women
men cheat just as much

For u tho, it seems like u are going for walking red flags, like dude do u actually know what u want in a person? More importantly do u know what u want in urself?
If u dont know know what u truly want then u're quite literally walking around color blind in the sense that u won't see wether the flag is red or or green.

It might just be ur love blue print and if it is, pls get some therapy
(Love blue prints are basically the blueprint for what "kind" of people u'd like, if u grew up in an abusive inviroment u are much more likely to get into an abusive relationship due to the fact that u'd be used to the abuse. more often than not our brain seeks familiarity of that abuse over the the comfort of a healthy relationship, cuz that safety wouldn't not be familiar, In other words "the fear of the unknown, is the worst fear"
That said, I would recommend u get help urself, having a had one or two toxic partners is one thing but ALL? ATP U're a magnet for it, and that says much more about u..

[CriticalCatDad]

You're absolutely right it does say a lot about me good thing I'm not seeking anything and haven't for 9 years now. And for the record I am seeing a counselor. Tells me the fact that I prefer to be single and that I've been happier being single as opposed to in a red flag relationship is what matters.

[TommyMountainFigure]

The best thing you can do is tell your dad you know what he's up to, and he has until the weekend to break things off, or you'll tell your mum.

[sheenagwapa]

do you have aunties? you can tell your auntie so your auntie would tell your mom

[hellothere90]

Tell your mom. She deserves to know. She can decide what to do.

As for me, I'll immediately divorce and never look back

[SotiCoto]

Be very confused... as I'm sure I don't have a partner in the first place.

[In_Trance]

Byee

[Anonymous]

Your mom probably already knows. It's likely your Mom refuses to have sex with your father so he seeks sex elsewhere. This is rather common in shitty marriages.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Is this hearsay, or did you actually catch them in the act?

[mickeysmonkey]

Your mom may already know, so just keep it to yourself, a tough secrect to keep. If they are living with it it, so can you.

[poshspice123]

I’m sorry… this must be so hard for you :( hugs

[poshspice123]

Maybe just tell them that they need to go to therapy. Ensure that they do. And let that come out that way?

[strawberrybaby3]

I leave.

[DishLady]

Leave!

[electromagnetic]

I leave.

[jahaims]

Break up obviously