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I am a doctor i was in a long term relationship and he left me for another gurl.. since two years no one ask me out.. i feel like i am invisible..
Get your own clinic/doctor's office so you can have a set schedule/hours. One of the worst parts of having someone in your profession as a partner is that they are often on call and work long hours.
Next, be financially conservative and try to pay off any loans. Many doctors come with huge debt, which makes them undesirable for marriage.
Being past 30 greatly decreases your options, but that can't really be fixed. Just make sure to take time to exercise and be in good shape, and try to look normal to attract better people. (Normal meaning no tattoos, no unnatural hair colors, no large discs in ears or nose rings, etc.)
There are a few issues here. For reference, I worked in both hospital and divisional offices as well as starting out as a ICU cardio nurse.
Your situation is not unique. In most cases the long hours, the required on call and in most cases most physicians develop a very abrasive personality to staff and co workers while having detached personalities to most everyone else. It becomes very difficult to even make connections with people.
Then top that off with the common rumor that the medical field is known for affairs, and physicians seem to top that list, and that most women will not date down which means if a guy doesn't hit your radar, it's likely he is in a different socio-economic level lower than your expected level even if he would be a great partner for you.
I took early retirement last year and even know I would not really consider dating a physician.
A lot of the guys are giving you good advice, Missy… Just dust yourself off and get yourself back out there ok? Also, try not to compare yourself to your friends constantly. We each work at our own pace.
You're a doctor. Be proud. That takes a lot of hard work to become a doctor. Get a nice makeover, go out to social events and you'll find men approaching you.
You've hit a nerve with this one. Being single, especially when it feels like everyone else is finding their happily ever after, can feel like you're swimming upstream. But here's the thing, your worth isn't tied to your relationship status. Being a doctor, you've achieved so much already! Sometimes, love has its own schedule and showing up late doesn't mean it won't show up stunning. The man who left missed out on someone awesome, not the other way around. Remember, being invisible to the wrong people often means you're saving your spotlight for the right one. Maybe it's time to shake things up, try new hobbies, or even consider dating apps. Your person could be just around the corner, tying their shoelaces, getting ready to run into you. 💖
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Contrary to what you may believe, the majority of men do not care whether or not you're a doctor. If anything, women with professions that require a higher level of education tend to be egotistical and do not possess the feminine qualities a man looks for in a girl.
A man would happily date a McDonald's worker if the girl is physically attractive, kind, submissive, feminine, intelligent, and has a lot of similarities in terms of views, interests, way of thinking, goals in life, way of communicating, and sexual compatibility.
Also, where do you go to meet men? Do you just work then go home and expect men to approach you when you don't give them any opportunity to do so?
You need to take life into your own hands and go places that allow yourself to be approached.
Well found your answer. First 4 words. "I am a doctor" the other girl what was her job?
Your profession is not helping you if its one of those lots of patients small office type doctors. Because even if your patients fancy you they know its unethical to make a move. So your going to have to look for men outside of that, go to the dating events for example and be actively looking.
Far too young to feel that way, AND you are a professional woman... hang in there !
You will find someone or someone will find you... you have a lot going for you
Well, it isn't likely to get any better for you if you haven't managed it by this point.
That said... girls start with an advantage in that respect and lose it over time. If you're stuck alone now and are confused and troubled by it... that is roughly the baseline most men start at.
And the only way past that is conscious and concerted effort.
Just because they're married doesn't mean they're better off than single people. It's your mindset that sets you apart. You could be far happier than them even though you're single. I've been single for 9 years and I'm happier than I was in any of my past relationships. The idea of having a new relationship someday is what bothers me.
Could you tell us more about yourself? Looks. What you offer in a relationship? How did you end up w the dude who left you for someone else?
Based on your profession it's probably because you put your career ahead of your relationships. You spent your best years going through college, med school, and residency instead of trying to find a man like you were supposed to. Can you still find one? Probably but don't expect him to be making as much or more money than you. You are going to have to settle because any man would also be settling for you.
Yeah well complaining on here is just going to get your inbox filled with guys you're going to reject anyway so what is the point of this? What are you hoping to achieve? Nobody can give you magic words that will make this problem go away.
Hmm. Do you also feel long hours in your career also holds your romantic personal life back? I couldn't do a job involving long hours. K already find full time enough work work lol 😜😆
Go out and meet people. Have your friends introduce you to a guy who's not a dirt bag. When you find one that you like, make sure he knows it.
Pity party over. Now. Get back out there. You have A LOT to offer
Are you attractive? Give yourself an honest number! Are you too picky? Do you DQ for stupid superficial reasons?
Ask your friends the same question and tell them to be honest. They would know best.
So what are you doing to change this
Your a good person and your own time will come to be married.
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