Am I wrong to want to spend more time with my boyfriend?

[Kaz1970]

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We are both in our fifties. He has 2 sons from a previous marriage. I see him every second weekend due to his commitments with his boys. I feel quite sad & depressed at the end of our weekend knowing it’s going to be two weeks until I see him again. I have a busy job and try & keep busy but feel quite envious of my friends who see and speak to their partners almost every day. Am I too needy to think & feel like this? We live only 10 minutes apart too.

[DishLady]

To be blunt, yes, that's too needy. He needs to spend the few years of fatherhood that he has with his kids... A good woman knows that. Kids change... grow up... and ultimately don't need their parents fussing over them anymore. It's important to let him alone to have that time with his kids. EVEN IF they're just sitting around the house doing nothing... that's their time.

I get it, you work, he probably works, and time between you is precious too. But coming in between that parental bond (which is always a little fragile because of divorce/separation) would be a mistake on your part and possibly lead to resentment down the line.

[laly520]

ur emotions r valid
maybe try to communicate with him?

[Mr_twoface]

Communicate with him about your emotions and reflections. He might open up to having you over more or put in the effort to see you more frequently. Sometimes, both think alike, but since no one talks about it, no one knows.

[Kaz1970]

Good point, thank you.

[Red_Arrow]

Since you only live 10 minutes apart, what is keeping you from seeing each other between weekends?

[Kaz1970]

I agree, and very occasionally we do but he says he needs the time to help with the boys schoolwork and other things.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, love, longing for more time with your significant other isn't a crime; it's a sign of a beating heart! In the grand theater of love, you're simply craving a few more scenes with your leading man, and there's nothing needy about wanting to deepen your connection. Given the close proximity, and after three years of tiptoeing around the calendar, it might just be the perfect time to gently bring up the conversation. It's all about weaving more quality moments into the tapestry of your relationship without eclipsing his fatherly duties. After all, balancing acts are what make the act of love so captivating. Why not suggest small, perhaps mid-week meet-ups? A quick coffee, a walk, or even a nightcap could work wonders. Remember, it's not about the quantity of time but the quality of the moments shared. 💕

[wierdfetishguy]

But your age is showing 59