Is it weird I never want kids?

[Brittanyroseee]

Im 24 years old and I work in the veterinary field as a Veterinary Technician. This field does not pay us well enough to sustain ourselves. I don’t even think I have a motherly instinct towards kids but towards animals and pets, I do. Some of my friends have kids and when I hangout with them, I pay attention to their dog instead of their child. I grew up playing with stuffed animals, not dolls. I also love making money and saving money for myself. I know having a kid, all that money I make would be spent on my child. I like my freedom, seeing my friends. That would be gone too. My privacy, me time, etc, GONE. Of course I would love to get married one day. But that is not my goal. My goals are is to save enough money and get my own place with pets. I also HATE responsibilities so the thought of being responsible for another human being does not sound enjoyable to me. Im also a very lazy person as well…

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm rolling my eyes at some of these comments, particularly from the men. So much ignorance.

No, it's perfectly normal to not want kids: and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!! Like yourself, I've NEVER wanted kids. I didn't play with baby dolls growing up- my mom tried and would buy them for me, but I was never interested in them for long. But of course, I had all these people swearing up and down I'd change my mind when I got older or, "meet the right guy to change my mind..."
36 years later, I still hate kids and have no deserve to have any! LOL

Kids are a major responsibility and commitment, expensive (yes, so are pets before anyone goes there; but some of us rather deal with fur children!), and in most cases, they are NOT for everyone! I've seen people have children that honestly, should have not have kids. But did so because they wanted to "continue the family tree," or, "have someone to take care of them in their old age..." Uh huh.

Just because you're a woman, you are not obligated to have kids. Some of us don't have maternal or paternal instincts- and that's okay. Don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise.

[Brittanyroseee]

Thank you!!!

[Brittanyroseee]

Im more career driven. Being a stay at home mom sounds like hell honestly

[Brittanyroseee]

The men in the comments are absurd. Calling me selfish because I don’t want to push a human being out of my vagina lol

[Cynicaldreamer]

Don't listen to them. Apparently because we have the capability to have kids, means by default, we're all expect to want them. Yet if they don't want kids, it's "cool," or "they're being responsible"

... double freaking standards. Focus on your career girl, and when/if you do find a good man, make sure he shares the same views as you about not having kids!!!

[TrueConfection]

I don't think it's weird. I didn't want kids. I couldn't stand to be around other people's kids. I didn't have $250k sitting around waiting for my chance to spend it on a kid either.

Once I met my husband, I thought it wouldn't be so bad. We decided not to prevent, but we weren't going to try for a baby. Anyhow, I got pregnant the first time.

I loved being pregnant, loved having babies, love being a mom, love all kids now really, and the financial part is heavy but it works out.

by the way, kids love pets too and you'd be a great person to teach them how to be kind to their animals. ☺

[Phoenix-gb]

I think it's more an indictment that a field a skilled as Veterinary Medicine underpays just like everywhere else if you're struggling to sustain just yourself. Your choice is yours, but any job should allow someone the option to make that choice and not have it made for them by income.

[exitseven]

Having kids is not for everyone, They are a huge responsibility anbd if you are not ready to be 100% committed then you should think twice. Having a kid because people are telling you that it is weird not to is not a good idea.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Bluemax]

No, I don't think it's weird. Nor do I think it's wrong. You do you. It would be wrong to have a child when the parent doesn't want that child.

That being said, I'm not exactly sure why you keep mentioning that you're career driven as a reason you don't want kids. My mother? She was career driven. My sister (herself a mother)? Also career driven. My aunts? My grandmother? Career driven. My friends who are mothers? Career driven.

[ShadezMcgee]

It's your life and your choice, so why do you give a shit about who else cares? You are the only one who knows what you want. You don't want kids? That's fine, there are both men and women that don't want them either, doesn't mean they aren't normal.

In short, you are normal.

[Squaresquirrel]

No, it is not weird. I don't want kids either and I wish a lot of people wouldn't have one.
If it was down to me, I'd make it compulsory to do a one year course on parenting, psych evaluation included, before I let anyone to have children.
(Don't tell me what about the population, we are more than enough on Earth. Depopulation wouldn't hurt.

[Tornado92]

Say it to the Duggars

[Xhuy_006]

Not at all, i believe modern society has severely and thankfully disillusioned many to the idea of kids. Its just not very appealing. High five for not wanting kids tho! Ayyyoo

[Brittanyroseee]

Right?😂😂😂😂being a stay at home mom does not sound fun to me whatsoever. Sounds horrible. I wanna work, make money and use that money for myself…

[Brittanyroseee]

Someone on my comments told me its fun to be at home with her kids. Like ok? For her yeah😂but I don’t wanna be stuck 24/7 with screaming crying demanding children. I don’t wanna spend everyday with them.. taking them to school, shopping, sports, events, etc. Like i want to live my life 😭😭my privacy bro ME TIME

[Brittanyroseee]

When you have kids, say good bye to your social life and working fulltime…

[Xhuy_006]

I feel ya on a deeper level. Like me personally, I'm still very much irresponsible with money and time management. I'm still figuring out a ton about myself and how I deal with situations. Very much still growing. Can't bring a new being into that kind of mess. Much less with someone who I've only know for less than a half a decade. Besides... Adoption is a real thing. If I ever do settle down, which I hope I do, why be so selfish raising something from nothing, when so many wish they had an opportunity for a home. If I'm ever married for about 6ish years and I'm financially and emotionally stable, yeah definitely i (we) might adopt. But brand spanking new mini me's? Thats a big no

[Brittanyroseee]

Oh yeah what annoyes me how prolifers, and moms say shit like “how dare you? There are so many people who want kids!” Like fucking go adopt one!!! Im adopted myself!!! GO ADOPT IF YOU WANT A KID THAT FUCKING BADLY. I can’t with moms and prolifers.

[Brittanyroseee]

Im not a breeding machine and it annoyes me how people tell me “well there's couples out there who wish they could” ok? They can go adopt either an infant through a private adoption agency or they can go to an orphanage and adopt a foster kid who would DIE to have a family.

[Xhuy_006]

Truuueeeee... My sister worked for a foster academy, and so many just becoming statistics. Personally, a foster home would be great thing to create with a wife who shares these thoughts. Personally, I wouldn't even wish a kid on my spouse. Like 9months of ups and downs, only to end up in the hospital to get either permanent (even if slight) back damage, or a caesarean? Like i was in much pain after an umbilical surgery and that was small incisions. These doctors go full out across the belly. Thats INSANE. no thats trauma waiting to happen. Its no wonder post partum depression is a thing. Adoption :drakeyes:

[megabamse]

I never wanted kids, and the babymama never wanted kids. Now that we do have one, wops. It's a fantastic experience, don't regret it. How ever that don't mean anything. There are so many people in the world that we don't really need everyone to have kids. So if you don't want any, then don't get any. It's fine.

[ConfusedGinger21]

I don't want kids right now, I avoid that as much as I can. But, you won't get a motherly love unless it's yours. You have it for animals cause you take complete responsibility for her love. You have nothing to worry about overnight

[Tornado92]

Please don't have kids.
Ur hott

[Alwayreckles93]

Woman go threw a lot during pregnancy and I mean a lot like you have no idea.
Preclemsia , You never know how it is going to go at times we must follow doctors order for example I had to get an emergency cesarean in other words C section. The woman body goes threw a lot. Also risk of getting deabetes. Yeah it's not easy , So you have plenty of time to think about it. Not trying to scare you speaking from experience lol

[ConfusedGinger21]

@Alwayreckles93 ohh God I know! I've been through it, just terminated a few times. But I try to not mention that, it upsets people. I'm glad you made it through yours! Our body's barely work somedays I swear 😂

[Anonymous]

No I am 29 not 21 lol , Not to get you discouraged you even more but pregnancy can be complicated. I had both of my kids in a cesarean the epidural hurts like a b**** on your spined. Chances are you can get preclemsia, deabetes. Normal delivery from what my Friends have said it feels like getting electrocuted. After having the baby you can get prospurtam depression. Yeah it's a lot.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope, I don't wan't kids either, I'm not lazy, but I would not enjoy any aspect of parenting, and I don't want to spend any time doing stuff I don't enjoy.

[Brittanyroseee]

Same😂😂😂i enjoy my privacy, freedom, ME TIME, and using MY MONEY for MYSELF.

[Brittanyroseee]

Im
Lazy, i hate responsibilities. So imagine a kid? Yeah no😂😂😂🙄i only wanna be responsible for myself, rent, bills, and pets. LMFAO

[Anonymous]

I totally get it. I just can't deal with kids throwing tantrums and crying in public... it's embarrassing and I don't have the patience for it at all. In my 20s having a kid shouldn't be and isn't my priority either... maybe when I'm 29+ that attitude will change but for now I'm definitely better off without one.

[Brittanyroseee]

EXACTLY! Dude, they are annoying!!! I don’t have patience for that shit either!!! I will be so embarrassed if my kid acts out in public. I don’t need or want that!

[Brittanyroseee]

Im also lazy af. I hate responsibilities

[Brittanyroseee]

I only want to be responsible for me myself and I..

[Sixgunsound]

If you know you would resent them for taking away your option to choose to be lazy selfish and broke then it’s probably better for you not to have them. Something tells me you aren’t going to opt out of a social security pension that the kids I had are funding for you but that the kids you didn’t have aren’t funding for me in your old age though, which is the problem I have with it. Look up how ponzi schemes like social security which in that case are enforced by armed violence that I can’t opt out of paying into work.

[Brittanyroseee]

Having kids would lead to me being broke buddy😂

[Brittanyroseee]

Yep i guess im selfish for choosing to be lazy and not wanting the responsibility of a child

[Sixgunsound]

It seems like you are anticipating zero resources or help from a potential father. Why would that be? Are you assuming that you would choose a worthless waste of air and space as a father or that you would be using a donor? It is reasonable to expect some kind of assistance and resources from the father. You don’t have to do it all yourself and any man who makes you is less of one in my opinion.

[Sixgunsound]

That may have been unfair based on data I don’t have access to. On the strength of that possibility I apologize. It just gets me upset when I have to pay for people who take from a resource when they aren’t contributing what I’m legally obligated to, surely you can understand where that comes from.

[Sixgunsound]

Nobody is saying anyone has to have kids, what I am saying is the ethical thing yo do if you don’t want kids is forfeit your claim to the resources stolen from those of us who do have kids who will be propping up the bottom of the ponzi pyramid when we age into the top. It’s not complicated, but something tells me you’ll still be cashing the check.

[Brittanyroseee]

I don’t fucking want them

[Brittanyroseee]

Id rather work, make money. Have a career!

[Sixgunsound]

As is your right to do so. Benefitting from armed robbery is not, however. Since you don’t seem interested in addressing my actual point there doesn’t seem to be much reason to continue. I hope you have a great day.

[Brittanyroseee]

I don’t understand a damn word your saying but once again im not a breeding machine to pump out children for people who can’t have them. Sorry!

[Sixgunsound]

It’s not weird you do you but the ethical thing to do in the event you don’t have kids would be to give up your claim to social security benefits in retirement because your non existent children aren’t paying the taxes that fund those specific benefits for the two previous generations.

[Deathraider]

Yeah, I don’t want kids. Not only would I lose a lot of independence and freedom, but also I don’t want to be responsible for another human upbringing.

[Brittanyroseee]

SAME’

[Brittanyroseee]

I hate responsibilities

[OneNineZero]

Bringing one more entity in this world to struggle everyday for the rest of its life is a not a good thing
It's normal to not want any kids
That's knowing you won't leave anyone behind to suffer after you

[ChrisMaster69]

There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids, it’s a personal decision.

my sister has always been adamant she will not have kids.

it’s up to you really.

[Sonorous]

My unpopular opinion is that it makes you morally superior to anyone who willingly would have them. I think it's weird that people take creating beings that are capable of experiencing the worst sufferings the universe has to offer so lightly.

[Brittanyroseee]

If someone wants a kid they can adopt. Im not a breeding machine lol

[Sonorous]

But sadly, if we keep this up, the big corperations just might start raising kids of their own.

[Brittanyroseee]

That ain't my problem sorry bud

[Sonorous]

I literally called you morally superior

why u trippin

[humanearth]

Thank God, someone understands

Good for you

[Brittanyroseee]

Yep. I’d rather make money. Have time to myself. My freedom

[whereismyjohnny]

It's completely normal. It's okay to not want kids, and everyone has different reasons for it. You don't need to justify yourself when it comes to that. It's your decision and no one else's.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Your mother instincts kick in after you have a child, never before, it's not weird to not want kids tho cause there's plenty of people that don't and won't

[alance99]

Its not weird at all everybody has their prefrences and your SO will respect it too

[Brittanyroseee]

Yes, I only want them if it works out between me and my ex in the future. We are on talking terms again but i mean yeah if we ever do work out, yes I’d have a kid with him. But in general, that isn’t like my goal. And im not even thinking about being with anyone else

[alance99]

I hope everything falls in place for you 🙂

[England4eva]

I’m with you sister. I just prefer my “me time” all the time.

[Apulu_3]

You don't have to if you can't take the responsibility and raise up the kids in a great way.