Search Results: buying drinks

I need advice please... I met a guy at a party in November last year, we spoke on the phone many times until we finally met up in the city on the 4th of January. I hadn’t been in a relationship for 8 years as I really struggled after being with my narcissistic ex... anyway this new guy was really flattering, he insisted on buying me drinks, food etc on every date we went on, then for Valentines Day he bought me an $800 ring and insisted I have it, I’d never been given a ring before so I was blown away! Only thing is he insisted that I must dye my hair black as he said he hates blond hair!! He also hates that I’m friends with an ex from 10 years ago and reckons I’m cheating with him, I am not!! So anyway he’s suddenly gone all hateful towards me in the last few days and accused me of being a shifty con artist for attaining the ring from him and that I must give it back! He said if I don’t that he and his mates will come to my home (I live with my elderly mother and 8 year old daughter) and get it back that way!! I’m terrified and anxious!! He honestly insisted that I have this ring and if we break up it will be something I can remember him with... am I an idiot for accepting his gift? He seems to be mentally ill and hid it well early on!! I also feel that he is most likely a casual ice user too due to his up and down emotions and paranoia!! I said I’d meet him in the city with a friend to give him back the ring but he said I must come alone or else!!! I’m not coping so any advice on what I should do will be appreciated...

I gotta start with this there is a language and culture barrier. I have known him nearly 4 years from a club where I dance with my friends. He consistently just talks to his male friends from Bosnia. I always tried to talk to him and it’s always small talk and he would sometimes buy me a drink. Talking was tough. Later through Facebook I reached out to him and he came to my house to fix a leak and my floor. But he gave me a hug and a kiss and said “how are you sweetheart” The floor needed to dry after the leak was fixed and he just had coffee with me not cause the floor was wet but because I asked him to come for coffee and he stayed and visited with my family and everything. We just had these coffees nearly every morning and he would come see me at night and have a drink with me and watch tv. He told me about his life the genocide the time he got shot in the jaw and his face torn open and when I was massaging him he told me not to us lotion on his legs because he was hit by a chemical bomb and it brings back the chemical burning feeling if there is cream and he told me about the bones that were broken coming out of his skin on his legs. Here he has sole custody of his kids his kids are his world. And his business. He makes time for me. And he drops everything for me and if my friends or family need help. He says he doesn’t really like a lot of people but he will help me and people close to me whatever they need. He doesn’t say he loves me. But I say it and he agrees the feeling is crazy. I feel like he will take more time to introduce me to his kids because of his life. And he indroduced me to his worker friends and we laughed a lot and I know obviously his bar friends but I feel like I need to just treat this differently because of all he has been through right? He hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend but I just feel it’s implied.

I don't go to bars because I think alcohol is disgusting & I'm afraid of drunk people.

But I saw some guy saying that in bars, women ask men to buy them drinks. Is this true?