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Let's be honest here it's not the actual abortion that offends us. When you get down to the root of it most guys that I have talked to admit this. The issue is sexual discrimination and ambiguity. As a man if you have kids and decide to leave them you're considered a horrible person. How could you do that to a human being you're a bad person they say. It creates this idea of right and wrong based on decisions. The issue with this is women are the only ones allowed to leave / hurt children. Hell if you got mommy issues women make fun of you and call you weak especially feminists to say you don't have any sex. Staying on topic between the two sexes women are not judge for aborting babies abusing their kids or turning them against their fathers. Their fight is not to be judged but control information so you can't judge them. You're not allowed to know how many abortions women have but if a man has one child it follows him to his grave. Both of our decisions that people make regardless of sex but women are the only ones who get to do this with no repercussions. I feel that the only way to fix this is for them to admit that men who leave their children are not bad people ergo losing the men's end. Or holding women more accountable or tightening it. The fact that we can admit this will always Crush feminism. And it's the elephant in the room or womb that women forces us to ignore. I would like to know however you're educated answer on this topic also remember if you're not willing to address the question that you're not willing to change anything and please don't respond yes or no what changes do you think should be made?

Here's the pattern in life:

drawn to older women since I was young. Ran from young girls. If someone is needy and hurt, I get drawn in to help (as long as I feel safe), help them find a way out and get better, soothe. Rescue them. A white night!

I've been drawn into wounded and needy women so many times lost count and some long term. Some men too, but men are not as interesting and a tough case. I enjoy the psychological challenge of rescuing a soul. I do this while keeping healthier ones and people at a distance, emotionally. Fear of intimacy. did that for a long time, getting better.

I feel good being a servant to others, a helper, and often would sacrifice myself, time, priority for someone else. For example, I might skim on food, but I'd give someone money to buy a car who is totally broke. I'll buy used to save, but give freely to those who don't love me back.

What I've summized on how I got here is this:
* Possibly a lack of nurturing as a child - my mom I think was distant at times, although I recall her being very caring as well.
* I was emotionally abused as a child and sensitive. just not strong, so I built up a defense to not let people in. I did not like people and stayed emotionally distant from them. After I turned Christian, I had strong empathy for others and turned my wound into a desire to help others... in effect nurturing myself I think. After I started to understand myself and people, I turned that to want to help others get to a better place. It's a lot of what I think about.

Understanding oneself is hard, hard to get perspective. Have you had something like this and how did you get to a heathy life balance?

Ladies, how would you tolerate being with a mate that skimps on themselves (penny pinch clothes, food at times, used cars and stuff) but can be drawn into other people/women emotionally to help them and give freely and happily? Assume he doesn't cheat physically, but others can get priority of his heart and mind easily.