He is the same way with me. But I notice unlike other abusers its not just his significant others he's abusive towards. He's the same way with his best friends, his brother, his 4 year old niece, his dog. These are all people he claims to love. He's very controlling and demanding of all of us. Its almost like he wants to control our lives and if we don't do as he says he gets upset. Moreso with me and his brother and niece, not his friends. But because he says we mean the most to him so he reacts violently (either physically or with anger) when we hurt him or do something he finds unacceptable.
He says the reason he doesn't hit or yell at people he's not close to is because he doesn't care enough about them to yell at them or fight them.
Is this a result of his childhood?
I notice with most men who are domestic abusers they reserve their abuse for just their signifcant other or their children. But with my boyfriend his abuse is towards others close to him as well.