Should I worry about this misunderstanding my boyfriend and I had?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were laying on his bed while watching funny videos. I can't remember what was happening beforehand but we were using his laptop and I deliberately clicked a bit hard on one of his keys, but not like that hard. He then asked me not to click like that on his laptop because it could damage it. I was resistant and told him it wasn't that hard and he just kept on saying he didn't like it. I asked him what the big deal was and he then said that I went like "this" on his key. He proceeded to tap my hand like I tapped his laptop. It wasn't hard but I didn't like the physical demonstration on my hand. I asked him why he did it physically and he said that he did it so that I'd understand. I kind of took it as a threat, thinking that he was implying that I would understand something if he did it physically. I immediately got super pissed and jumped off the bed, saying I would break up with him because of that thing he said. I asked him if I should be afraid of him demonstrating a "hit" on me some day. He was looking at me in a very confused, calm and tense manner. He said no. He also said that he didn't mean it that way, not as a threat. We had a conversation and he kept telling me that he didn't mean harm by the comment and I calmed down but I don't know. It sounded kind of bad. I asked him not to say things that could be mis interpreted and to be more careful of how he expresses himself. He said ok and then we kept on watching videos. Should I let this go and accept it was a misunderstanding?

[Gismondi]

If this is a one-time thing, then you should let it go. I have a quote in my native language “It’s raining somewhere else.” Essentially what it means, is that probably something else happened in his life that you don’t know about which irritated him and then such a simple mistake you did of pressing the keyboard too hard caused him to lash out. Happens to all of us.

Every couple goes through arguments every once in a while. However, if it’s a constantly recurring thing that you guys start arguing over silly things, then perhaps it is worth talking to him about it. Communication is key. If you talk to him about it and he still keeps doing it, then at that point it is worth reevaluating your relationship.

[Asker]

ok, he usually changes things when they bother me. It's just difficult because he was raised with very different values than me and he's told me he never wants to hurt me, like his dad hurt his mom. I've heard the stories and they make me scared, of him sometimes. He's never happened, he's never been violent with me nor abused me, he's just been very playful sometimes overly-playful. I asked him to stop because sometimes he'd end up hurting me and feeling bad, so he stopped. The thing is, I feel like i've gone through so much with him, and every time I ask him to stop he does, but new little things always appear which later I have to tell him to stop if it bothers me, and he does. I'm just worries stuff is gonna keep happening and one day I'll explode because of the build up. There's so much he's yet to learn because of the way he was raised, and he's always open to change but its been a ride.

[Marilynjuana]

Asker, if things such as HIS computer keys make you upset then there are some deeper issues you should worry about. Yes keys can get fucked up if you press them hard, the fact that you took something that I'd see as common sense as some sort of an attack or that you got defensive at all, is an issue.

[Dragonstarterplus]

The question should be "should he let this go" cause you sound like you went off the deep end about a bunch of nothingness that you caused

[Dragonstarterplus]

I mean just the fact that you admit you"deliberately" clicked hard on the key then when he pointed it out to you you became obtuse about clicking hard just really makes it seem like you wanted him to call you out on it so you could lash out at him

[Miredda]

Darling, he was making you understand not to deliberately hurt you. i know for sure this comment would be misinterpreted as being a hater but ill say it anyway. You are being overly sensitive to his actions. something as petty as that should never be considered as a threat to your relationship. this shouldn't even stay in ur mind as an issue. If your as old to have a boyfriend, you must be as mature in dealing with tiny misunderstandings with a laugh and apologise on ur part for getting angry. After all this he was patient with you and made peace with you, even though u got pissed off. He's a good man on that part. you have so many endeavors to deal with together and this shouldn't be one of them.

[Iron_Man]

Let it go

[Anonymous]

No, it's no big deal