My boyfriend of 4 months and I got into a big fight over a misunderstanding.. I was trying to explain this to him but he refuses to speak to me in person or on the phone and is forcing me to text him.. I explained to him so many times throughout our conversation that texting is a bad idea.. but he wouldn't answer my phone calls and would just text me...
The fight was over another guy.. he keeps insisting that this guy I have to work with is flirting with me.. I told him that he isn't and he should stop worrying about it.. I'm not sure if my colleague is flirting or not I just think he's being nice.. but I don't want to think about it and I don't care. I have zero interest in this guy and I'm a very devoted person.. I've never cheated and would never. I explained this to him already the last time he had a fit about the same guy..
So it turned into a huge fight spanning over two days. Still he refuses to speak to me on the phone.. He broke up with me 3 times.. Actually the first thing he did when he first hung up on me was text me to break up with me...
After fighting with him for 2 days I realize that maybe he just wants to break up with me? And is using this as an excuse.. so I just told him that if he wants this to be over then it's okay it can be over.. I didn't really know what else to say or do.. I'm really sad because I really liked him and a few times I actually thought we would work out... It's like when it's good it's really good and when it's bad it's really bad.. it's just way too extreme for me... I'm a very sensitive person.
I'm not sure what I could have done differently.. or what else to do now.. thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
The guy most likely WAS flirting with u. Guys usually aren't that "nice" fyi. But still, he souldnt threaten to break up with u even though u werent cheating. If u WERE cheating, or even flirting back, then it would be different. This guy is insecure, and doesn't trust u. If u r willing to deal with that though, and still want to be with him, then the only thing u can really do that MIGHT satisfy him is if u told the guy at work off. Maybe u could just subtly fit that u r in a relationship into the conversation and see if he backs off. Then tell your bf that u told the guy off, and if THIS doesn't make him happy, then nothing will and u need to let go. If he does take u back tho, and this kind of thing happens again, u should break up with him regardless of the situation. I wish u the best of luck, hope this helped :)0
Most Helpful Girl
Guys make up their mind if you are relationship material at the 3-4 month mark.
You probably didn't make the grade.
Plus guys who use you for sex get rid at 4 months. It's a player thing because this is when women start to demand things off of them. They don't want that, hence the dumping.1