Why is my boyfriend so friendly with other females?

[fiorenca]

I find him very flirty when he talks to females. He says I am jeaolus but I know his jeaolus face and caught him couple of times doing that while talking to others! he says he doesn't have a face like that.

[carenina]

Hey, dealing with jealousy and trust issues can be really tough. Here’s a breakdown of how you might handle this:

Communicate Openly: Sit down with your boyfriend and have an honest conversation about how his behavior makes you feel. Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, “I feel uncomfortable when you’re very friendly with other women because it comes across as flirty to me.”

Understand His Perspective: Try to see things from his point of view. Maybe he’s naturally friendly and doesn’t realize how his actions are perceived.

Set Boundaries Together: Discuss and agree on what is acceptable behavior when interacting with the opposite sex.

Trust: If you’ve caught him being jealous too, it might be worth discussing how you both can work on building trust and feeling more secure with each other.

Self-Reflection: Reflect on why his behavior makes you feel jealous. Is it because of past experiences, or is there something about your current relationship that’s triggering these feelings?

Address Jealousy Constructively: If jealousy is a recurring issue, consider ways to address it constructively.

Reassurance and Validation: Both of you need reassurance and validation in the relationship.

Focus on Your Relationship: The stronger your bond, the less room there is for jealousy.

Stay Calm and Collected: When discussing sensitive topics, try to stay calm and avoid getting too emotional or confrontational.

Professional Help: If the issue persists and is affecting your relationship significantly, seeking professional help might be beneficial.

[DishLady]

Some guys are just charismatic and attract women without even thinking about it. I had a guy friend in college who was like that. He was OK — easy in the eyes but also not Henry Cavil either, you know? Anyway, not one afternoon passed by without a flock of girls coming up to him — and some were very brazen little hussies climbing all over him without him having to do a darned thing. It was as if he had catnip in his pockets or something, very crazy.


You know? I was always a close friend and when I saw this happening is just get up and wave goodbye so he could enjoy whatever the heck that phenomenon was. He always shot me a sort of sad and apologetic look, esp the time I actually was in his hometown for one of our holiday breaks. We lost touch after that… I didn’t want to cramp his style but I also wanted to make plans with friends who didn’t constantly have a horny entourage trailing after them.


Years passed… a few months ago he called to ask how I was doing, to meet for a coffee because he was in town. And after all this time he said it was me he had hoped to spend time with all those years ago… that all that attention was nothing to him.


Now ladies… I confess my heart went pitter pattering for a few minutes. He aged really well, but I had to shrug it off because I’m the end there’s no way to know what you have with a guy like that is real. They’re used to women who will initiate because they’ve relied on their charisma and swag… and who knows why (~30 years later) this guy chose to find the only girl who didn’t fling herself at him? 🤷🏻‍♀️


I hugged him because he seemed to need a friend to hug him, but then unpaid for my coffee and left. There’s not much else to do with a guy like that — oblivious till his midlife crisis. 🙄

[DishLady]

(Thanks for the vote... Sorry for the Typos!)

[sage2021]

It makes me wonder if you are referring to girls that are complete strangers and he does this in public, or are these mutual friends of yours?

One of my boyfriend's used to look for women in public that had their 🐕 dog with them.

We would be coming or going out of a store or restaurant and there she'd be. Some woman with her dog on a leash. He'd go right up to her and start talking to her about her dog - flirting with her of course and I'd just be standing there waiting for him to finish. By then I had had enough and wouldn't speak to him for a while. Then he'd do it again, rinse and repeat.

Then one day I introduced him to someone I knew, and you could tell right away they were attracted to each other. I am convinced they were hanging out together behind my back. He never denied it either. She denied everything. Then she said to me "Everyone cheats". She is married but not happy. She told me she loves and hates her husband. What?
Not everyone cheats!! I want to make that clear!!
I have never ever cheated on a guy I was dating or husband. I wasn't raised that way. I was raised to be faithful to my man. My sister never cheated either and she was married for 50 years until she passed away a few years ago.
Yes, there is always someone you can find to have sex with. But like I always say, my cat 😻 does that too.

[Anonymous]

Exactly what is he doing that you think he’s flirting? A lot of women think that just cause a man is talking w a girl, that they get along well, they laugh, that he’s flirting. When in reality he may just be nice. Maybe the ones we do talk to, laugh w aren’t stuck up like a lot of women are. Very hard these days just to have a conversation w girls who aren’t like that. I talk to a lot of women at work. Some more than others. We laugh, joke. Doesn’t mean I’m flirting just cause I spend a little more time w one particular girl. They’re cool. I can be me w out worrying about her getting offended about something.

[Finchie40]

The fact that he is calling you jealous , is your answer to kick him to the curb where he belongs , because it has nothing to do with jealousy , it’s called Respect , and sadly your boyfriend has no respect for you , start talking to other guys’ in front of him in a friendly way , and see how your boyfriend reacts to that? If he gets jealous , just say Are you jealous? If he doesn’t get jealous? You are best to end your relationship with him because that proves he is messing around behind your back

[Summeroflove]

He may be gaslighting you…. It depends on his intentions and what your definition of flirty is. If you just don’t trust him. Maybe it’s time to break it off

[SotiCoto]

Have you accounted for the fact that you're looking for exactly that sort of behaviour, and are thus more likely to treat any potential evidence as leading to that particular conclusion, even if it is purely coincidental?

In other words, you see him talking to women and you construe it to be flirty because they are women and he is talking to them, and your guard is up.

In any case, we cannot directly answer the question as we don't know your boyfriend nor his motivations, obviously. We can only speculate.

[Asb_Samson]

He should be being a gentleman. Also you also be nice to other males also. It's not a big deal if you boyfriend is nice to other females also along with you. Yes if he is not friendly with you and his behavior is inappropriate towards you than it's not good.

[dustybiker2]

If he's with you trust him until proven otherwise. You'll push him away regardless otherwise. Some people just like people. I can't judge your boyfriend without knowing him.

[Radiate143]

Push him away? He's disrespecting her in her face. If her being upset with her objecting to that "pushes him away" she is the winner.

[dustybiker2]

We have different ideas of disrespect.

[liggang]

I've had girls I dated accuse me of flirting. The thing is I was a weirdo. I was shy. I had social anxiety so bad it was unbearable.

Now if I can be seen as flirting I know every woman must be paranoid when their man talks to another woman.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you tilted the question "why is my boyfriend friendly with other females" makes me think you don't understand what flirting is. If you can't handle your boyfriend having friendly interactions with women you're too insecure to be in a relationship.

[strateguy632]

because friendly is good n he is a good person. just relax. don't push a good person away.

if you accuse him he will think you are hiding your own cheating.

[sheikalana]

If they didn't do anything to him I don't see why he shouldn't be nice to other person woman or man. You seem a bit insecure with that.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like he is not totally satisfied with you and may be shopping around for a replacement?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Was he like this when you met him? Because if he was, I would have to question why it wasn't a problem for you then, but is now.

[Tamera952]

Maybe he’s just being nice. I wouldn’t dwell on it.

[DannyUk2017]

Sounds like he just got "bored" now he is trying to "catch" something "new/fresh"...🤷‍♂️

[laly520]

he is seeking other girls attention as it seems

[Radiate143]

Because he doesn't think you are the one and he likes female attention.

[handsomelad70]

He's probably a flirty dude. (Hopefully without eyeing a chance to cheat.) Some lads are flirty.

[Unit1]

Ah, the classic "talking to women is cheating".

[DrPepper12]

He's flirty. Your jealous. Neither is gonna change.

[DreamLife7]

Because he doesn't like you. But you're not getting it. Like do any of you chicks have brains?

[onedarkcloud]

Looks like he has you, now he is nice to other girls to try to get into their panties too.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, when did that become a crime?

[austinbooth]

I believe he’s cheating

[VV3ZZY123]

He doesn't appreciate you. I'd dump his ass.

[impalabill77]

He probably is very nicee.

[Freddie3456]

Gghhh