Why is my boyfriend flirty with female friends?

[Anonymous]

The other day. My friend (who is a mutual friend) asked where my boyfriend lives. He replied asking “why? You wanna come visit?” I️ felt this was subtle flirting and felt awkward. My friend also paused for a second before replying with “ummm no”. I️ have also seen conversations between my boyfriend and his female friends. Where once he made a tweet “my attention span is as long as my d*ck size” or something like that. His friend then commented “both are short”. And my boyfriend replied “which do you wanna see first?” Or something to that extent. There was also a meme that was going around during Mother’s Day. Where a guy wished a girl happy mother’s day. The girl replied “thanks but I’m not a Mom” and the guy replied with a picture of a scene from a movie where the guy says “I️ can fix that”. My boyfriend told me he wanted to send that to his best female friend from childhood. I️ just felt that was weird... sometimes he is subtly flirty and I️t bothers me. He also knows this. Why flirt wit others when in a relationship?

[atul_kumar]

Yes. Why to flirt when you are in a relationship. This is even one of my friends problem. So, coming to the point, what do you think. I mean on a serious note, does he love you? Really? Do you have that bond? Or it's just that he is something else in your life.

Flirting is sometimes good but this kinda flirting is hell. This is not something good. It could be bad for your relationship. He would get any other girl with his flirting skill but the one who would be left alone is you. Try to express your true feelings to him. If he loves you he will understand. The problem with the world is that we don't find our ideal match, we find a shitty personality ( sorry it's just for making you understand ). Keep it light and go and talk. The results would be better afterall he is your boyfriend right? He won't do anything wrong but remember what I said.

[matt0082]

Some guys just joke around and don't mean any harm... Most women over think these things due to insecurities, just talk with him about it if it bothers you that much, if he still does it then he's either a ass or a typical guy or just really doesn't care about you or your feelings

[Asker]

But why flirt around like that? I️ feel I️t creates sexual tension that doesn’t need to be there when you’re in a relationship with someone else :(

[matt0082]

You have every right to feel that way, he also may be just relaxed around your friends and think of them like one of the guys.. Don't read to much into it until you have positive proof he's flirting in a way to actually intend for something to happen. Best thing to do is approach him and explain the situation,,, you must be open and honest with your significant other, communication is key for any relationship to work.

[Asker]

Yes. I’ve been very open about my feelings towards I️t. He’s told me “our friend has a boyfriend. Why would I️ even try and flirt with her? Or be serious about her visiting me?” (I️ knew he was joking about her visiting. But it’s just the joke in itself was flirty to me). Yes, he said he considers my friends his friends. He hasn’t done anything as far as texting them/hanging with them alone, or giving them the same attention he gives me.

But, we have been together for 1.3 years. I️ guess he believes our bond is strong enough to withstand baseless banter and jokes.

I️t just hurts. I️ don’t want to imagine my friends joking back in the same way.

[SlowRoast]

I guess he likes to have options ready in case you guys break up. ORR he's a natural flirt, if It worked on getting you he definitely likes to try it out on others to see if he still has it. Guys like to feel desired and a little flirt here and there keeps them in check. Or he's just immature and grew up with that flirty mindset. He'll always be like that, it's who he is, it will never change unless he himself truly wants to.

[abarker]

I always felt the same way but i've always been the sensitve one getting fucked over and never been taken seriously
she's living with a 38 a year old dude or whatever now and it's like took her out to dinner tried talking to her and she just stops responding and we used to date on and off she always is back and forth she's worth the time and i love her more than anything but sometimes if you try to make compromises they still just dont give a fuck about you so if he doesn't agree to the compromise might be worth looking into some new guy because love should be equal and if my ex always considered me her soul mate then why am i always the one fighting to keep her in my life but she has never fought once. i've never cheated but she has multiple times

[itsaniaks]

He maybe a natural flirt. He may not be realising that you are getting uncomfortable with that. Just make him sense this sitiation and soon everything will be okay. Even though if he doesn't leave flirting, it's not a big issue unless you smell something cooking.

[Iamaguy4real]

He is keeping his options open.

[Asker]

Why though? He always tells me how he isn’t here to hurt me.

[markscott]

He's being disrespectful of you.

[Reincarnated_sóul]

It's a natural behaviour!🤒