. I have been online talking to a guy who lives far away for almost 2 year now. We are both young and still not fully independent. Due to many factors, we still didn't meet, but the relationship had been full of chemistry from the minute we started. It started very romantic and sweet- we would have conversations about casual topics for a few months before admitting the attraction towards eachother and getting more sexual. Since the distance is hard, we talk less often and mostly be sexual with eachother which was not a problem for me. Recently we were talking about finally meeting next summer and were both equally enthusiastic. However, recently he shocked me and dissapointed me by asking me if we will be having group sex when we meet. This took me by surprise and I got offended, saying that there is a misunderstanding how he views me and this relationship. At first it felt like he is assuming I am slutty- and I explained to him that the only reason that we exchanged graphic intimate photos, videos etc was because we couldnt physically be together. Since our relationship started with always having plans to meet and date i was so dissapointed. Now after reading on the topic about group sx being a common and normal sexual fantasy of young men, I started feeling guilty for my reaction. I dont want him to hide his desires from me and I worry if I ruined anything. On the other hand it still hurts me that he fantasises about being with multiple women as if the idea of only me is not enough. I did end up apologising for my reaction as I knew he didn't want to offend me, he says he understands me and loves me as a person - which i do believe. But i still feel this disagreement hasn't been as well resolved abd discussed as it should have. I still wish I would have reacted calmer as now i worry if i came across as controlling and insecure. Please help!!!
Group sex suggestion by boyfriend - should I have reacted differently?
