Why did he physically compare me to his exes when upset?

[Anonymous]

We were really upset with each other. We had an argument about me being super excited to see him. I expressed how people used to ask for my positive energy to see them like I do with my boyfriend, and how I don't get why he didn't somewhat appreciate my excitement for him. Anyhow he got upset about that (even though he knows that I don't have the same experience with him and that he is my most serious relationship since I was sa). But like I was saying, he was so upset about it that he physically compared mt to his exes to bring me down. I have never dine anything like that to him, and was only saying how I don't understand what he wants from me. I was so overjoyed to see him, and I mean to the next level degree. I was finally giving a man what all exes asked from me (because I was scared to be open like that), and my boyfriend completely shut me down and called me annoying for being excited to see him. I just really didn't get it. I am not upset by the fact he had better looking exes. I already know I don't look like insta models, or look anything like "societies expectations". I still have guys turning their heads when I walk past to look at my face, and guys hitting me up. I just have to accept how I look, and many men do call me beautiful (without referring to just my body). But the point is, I don't get why he did that? He's my ex now because clearly he didn't know how to fix the situation, so he just walked away. So many men have been treating me so well since the breakup, and I am actually able to have a conversation with a guy without worrying what my boyfriend would think. He didn't mind that I spoke to guys, but he also didn't have a positive attitude when I spoke with other guys (school colleagues etc). Was he just truly hurt by what IU said so he tried to bring me down? I want to understand his reasoning behind it before I forever forget about him. Perhaps I am hoping he's not just a jerk so I can think a positive to him. So men, why did he do this?

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I also forgot to mention that he said, "go be a whore, that's what you're best at", and then called me useless. This is not the first time he used degrading words and sentences like this to me, but it was different this time

[NikolasGLT]

That's one of the lowest, if not, the lowest thing he can do to you.
When he compared you to his other ex'es, this basically means that he thinks some of them were better than you.
This alone couldn't be anymore insulting and offending thing, and no one should do it.
I'm glad you managed to move on and find a man who would treat you better, having a girlfriend that is so excited to see her boyfriend like you are is an amazing trait and never stop doing that.
I personally consider this as one of the elite traits because over time the excitement fades away, but if for you it doesn't, then that is truly amazing. :)
Best of luck to you

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I honestly was confused. Just to think that he's older than me. It's crazy to think that him and the guy that sa used the same terms against me, even though he wanted to "treat me different". I also forgot to mention that he said that I was only good at being a whore, and that I was useless. All because I said that other men wanted to have the excitement from me, like I was giving to my boyfriend. He then said to me that if I left, things will never go back to how they used to be (making me feel like it would be my fault), but then walks away. Not even a goodbye. He said he would leave me alone, so here I am thinking he'll leave me alone for a bit like I asked. But nope, just gets up and goes. He doesn't deserve my love. It's not even the fact that he doesn't find me as attractive as his exes because I see so many pretty goals all the time. I'm not surprised if he dated a beautiful girl. I already knew I wasn't his type at the start of the relationship when he said I wasn't usually what he went for. It's the fact that he chose this as a way to fight with me. He said, "you think you're prettier than them". Like wtf no. I just didn't give two shits. Why would I be worried about exes? But how stupid was it to be excited over "your man". I am not perfect, but I know I deserve better than this. And I thank you so much for your support. No new guy yet, but just randoms are treating me like a queen. Men are looking at me like I'm a person, and not just a "whore". I feel valued. And just to think he thought that no man would treat me better. Like okay than

[Guy13]

I’m sorry. That’s puts him in the official Asshole category. That’s totally uncalled for.. damn cruel as far as I am concerned.

[Asker]

Thank you. I loved him and was going to give up everything for him. I'm talking about moving away to him, giving up my plans etc. I obviously am not perfect and I have always reflected on times I could be better in the relationship. Sometimes I wish he understood that him and I have two completely different experiences. He has a ton of exes, and although he says they weren't serious, I don't believe it after this. There were many great aspects to him and many times he helped, and supported me. But this was just wrong. I wanted him to understand why I was hurt by him shutting down and calling me annoying when I was so purely happy to see him. He said he thought I was making fun of him, but we were both laughing, but I was just so insanely happy to see "my man", that I was laughing a little more. I told him how people use to ask for this energy, and I don't understand his negative energy to it. But he completely shut me down and made me feel like crap for being happy to see him. then he compared me to his exes physically when he couldn't understand my pain.