He tried to make me jealous with his ex?

[Anonymous]

I asked about her. He tried to make me jealous with his ex (He said she's verryy hardworking etc)

What to do? How to interpret?

[Anonymous]

Girl, to be honest. And this isn’t to pop your bubble…

Most people do still have feelings and love for their ex.

Love and Attraction isn’t something people can just SWITCH OFF. Like a light switch. Usually.. Usually.. people still miss and love their ex.

Even though they’re separated and know that the other person is bad for them or doesn’t match them.

Usually they still keep some sort of love for their past partners. It’s just is what it is. 🤷🏻‍♀️ That person had a past with their ex. And entire past & experiences.

Obviously your now partner won’t tell you he feels this , because obviously he’s trying to move on and be with someone else. Otherwise he would still be with the ex. 🤦🏻‍♀️

But you need to understand this and keep this in the back of your head. You can’t become insecure over this.

Many people will die. Still loving and missing many of their exes. Even if they never tell anyone. Even if they are 90 years old, with a wife and several sons and daughters. 🤷🏻‍♀️

That’s human nature. And if this man of yours is more experienced than you. Obviously he gonna have more baggage and more traumas attached to his exes.

You need to start learning NOT TO CARE. That’s the only way you’re gonna make it work with him. Because otherwise you’re gonna have to find some inexperienced virgin boy. Who’s never seen a woman’s boobs in his life.

I don’t think he’s making you feel jealous. Because if he were he’d do this constantly and constantly talk about his exes or previous partners or that woman a lot. A whole lot.

[Asker]

So what he's trying to do then?

[Opinion Owner]

He’s just mentioning a fact.
Or , he could be trying to lowkey tell you that you should be a hard working woman.
It could be his way of telling you that you shouldn’t be a lazy slob.

Not make you jealous. Cause to make you jealous he’d mention his ex body, and features, her hair, her eyes, her weight even. Her skin color. The color of her eyes. etc.
Usually usually this is the case when trying to make you jealous. Along with constantly bringing up his exes.

Like I said he’s probably just mentioning a real fact about her. Or telling you that you’re a lazy slob (not hardworking).

[Asker]

Lol He's doctor. I'm not. If he's thinking I'm lazy slob there is no point of establishing relationship then. I should be with someone who loves me for who am I

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have a 9-5 job or kids.
Because if you have kids, and you want to be a stay at home mom.
He should already know that. Unless he doesn’t want kids.
That’s a you & him conversation. Best of luck 🍀

[smashleyy]

i don’t think his intention was to make you jealous. You were the one who brought her up, don’t ask questions about someones past partners if you’re too sensitive or insecure

[Asker]

What was his intention?

[smashleyy]

To tell you his honest thoughts on his ex. It’s not his fault you felt threatened

[Finchie40]

Just say You speak so highly of your ex , she must of been an amazing person , that’s ashame she is your ex , come to think of it , my ex was amazing as well , thank you for making me realize that , I am going to reach out to him and see if we can patch things up and you should do the same as well and walk away. Do yourself a favor and dump this douchebag , People that hold on to their exes and speak highly of their exes should not be getting into relationships with someone new period. it’s disrespectful and a manipulative tactic that shows their true colors. Cuz the truth is , when a guy values a girl and wants a girl to be by his side , he doesn’t speak highly of his ex period , He will simply say she was a bitch or she was selfish etc. not put her on a high pedestal. So kick him to the curb and find yourself a man that will only speak highly of you. The girls I have dated that spoke highly of their exes to me became my ex as well , Don’t tolerate that disrespectful behavior period

[Asker]

You gave the best helpful answer!! Yes if he would want my by his side, he could simply say "I only respect or love her as a friendly way" etc. People told me I'm insecure because it made me uncomfortable. No indeed I'm not insecure but I know when I'm with him he supposed to make ME feel valued.

If he still values his ex inside of me (which is woman right next to him) he simply should go back his ex! And leave me the hell alone. It is disrespectful

[Finchie40]

You aren’t insecure what so ever , I hate when people say oh you are insecure , ummm no asshole , I am being disrespected period , if this girl truly valued me , she wouldn’t be comparing me to her ex period , the same way I don’t compare her to my ex , and ex is an ex for a reason , exempt them from your life , if your ex was so great , then why are they your ex to begin with? They are your ex because they don’t give a rats ass about you period they dumped you because they met someone they think is better than you period , Someone that truly values you , isn’t going to compare you to anyone period , and try to make you jealous , they are going to be happy and excited that they finally met someone that should already be a 1000’times better than their ex , The only time I will say anything about an ex to a new girl , is if she questions me about her but I sure as hell don’t put her on a high pedestal like she was this amazing person because if she was so amazing I wouldn’t be dating someone else period , I would be putting all my energy and time in trying to get her back , I am not going to sting another girl along weighing my options if I still had deep feelings for my ex , and that’s the God honest truth , after my ex and I broke up I was devastated and other girls were trying to get with me , I told them I am flattered but I am still not over my ex so I still need time, so I am sorry but I am not ready to date because I know I can’t give her a 100 percent , people that jump from relationship to relationship are selfish people that only care about themselves , I take relationships seriously , I don’t get into a relationship to be single or to praise my ex period , the fact that this guy is praising his ex to you is your answer to kick him to the curb because he is clearly not ready to give you 100 percent , he just likes the convenience of you while he is weighing his options, Realize you deserve better than that , someone that can give you 100 percent

[Finchie40]

If a girl is praising her ex to me like he was this amazing person , I am going to throw it back on her face that my ex was amazing as well because the way I look at is , you aren’t ready to be dating and you are clearly showing your true colors that I don’t really matter to you , so I am not going to waste my time with a girl that can’t give me 100 percent , if she just wants to fuck , be honest about it but don’t fuck with my heart , I have dated girls’ that spoke highly of their exes to me , thank you for a good time but not a long time , cuz I am not going to give my heart to a girl that can’t give me hers period

[Asker]

There were other things too so I dumped him. He doesn't even worth of another 10 minutes of my life.

[Finchie40]

You did the right thing , never be with someone that can’t value you the same way you value them , something I learned about relationships that I wish I knew earlier in life , but glad I can help others out , Life is too short to stand by someone’s side that can’t give you 100 percent , value your self worth and realize you deserve someone that is going to make you their top priority , never settle for less , you will just be wasting your time , For any relationship to last , both partners need to make each other their top priority and to be able to remove selfishness for each other, that’s the only way love grows , if you are not your partner’s top priority , you will not be able to make them yours period , understand you can’t always be right and they are wrong , accept each other’s flaws and understand we are all imperfect people. But realize you deserve someone that wants to bring happiness into your life , not misery , We can only give what we want to receive , Making each other your top priority you will see Love grow

[Gent207-2]

Hoist the red flag and RUN

Or don't and stay here drowning in this endless cycle of bullshit

[dolllface]

are you worried he still loves her? because you’re not gonna get your answer by asking him about her without being specific. im sure he said she was hard working in a very platonic way but you can ask how it ended and how it went, i think its veryy valid for you to ask just tell him you wannna know because you wanna see how he dealt with the break up and how it effected him just to get to know him better

[kylee2437]

So you are mad he didn’t shit talk her when you asked about her? I’m confused here? Maybe don’t ask questions where you don’t want the honest answer. He is in for a very toxic relationship with you.

[Asker]

Is he Toxic or am I? He smirked etc. You don't need to compliment your ex if you're over them. This gives me vibe either he tried to make me jealous or he's not over her?

[kylee2437]

Why can’t he compliment an ex? You sound abusive. You ask questions and then get mad when someone is honest with you.

[Asker]

Abusive? You want your guy to be all of you. It made me uncomfortable if he still loves her?

[kylee2437]

You asked him the question, he didn’t start talking about his ex. This is man a favor and leave him alone, delete his number. He deserves someone better than you.

[kylee2437]

He didn’t start talking about his ex out of no where *

[boggboss]

Why ask about her what did u expect him to say ir ehat answer was u looming for

[Asker]

I askee what does she do. He smirked she's very hardworking etc. It made me uncomfortable

[boggboss]

So u was uncomfortable because u asked a question u shouldn't

[boggboss]

This is ridicules u asked a question hoping he would bad mouth his ex all he did was say she is a hard worker and u are equating that to him loving her how are u this insecure sorry

[Asker]

He didn't have to compliment her

[kylee2437]

@asker so if this man said “my ex is a piece of shit that can suck my dick” you would think he’s a real panty dropping charming guy? You don’t see an issue with that?

[dolllface]

@boggboss i agree with u but u didn't have to call the girl insecure she's probably not that experienced in relationships

[kylee2437]

@dollface that is called insecurity and she needs to take accountability for it. If a man said this exact thing, you would say he’s insecure

[Anonymous]

Well for one thing you picked the wrong man. You should be 100% accountable on ypur part.

[Asker]

Why wrong man?

[Opinion Owner]

That's my point.

[Asker]

Why wrong man? Will you explain

[Opinion Owner]

Women have 100% accountability by picking small groups of men that will treat a girl like shit instead of an average guy who can give everything to a woman.

[Asker]

Why do you think he treats me like a shit?

[itsalyssaagain]

I would run away lol.

[Asker]

Why?

[itsalyssaagain]

Because there’s no need in the world to be talking about your ex with someone you’re seeing, especially complimenting them. I’m also a romantically jealous person. Altogether it would just piss me off.

[In_Trance]

who is he?

[Asker]

We just started dating

[In_Trance]

Lame
Move on

[Asker]

me or him? Lol