He compared me to his exes, why?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for a few months and I really liked him until today. We like randomly sending each other faceless naughty pics sometimes. After sending him a pic of my boobs (no face), he said that I was in the top 3 for boobs and top 5 for hottest women he has ever been with. That comment immediately had me thinking wtf, turned me off, and gave me the ick. I feel like he could've just said,"Nice!" or , "Thanks!", or some silly emoji, not making it feel like I'm suddenly in some competition. Why would a guy do this?

[Orion84]

Yeah, that's kind of an odd thing to say.

I'm pretty sure no woman would want to hear, "Well, you're not the best, but you're still good." That's kind of a crap compliment. How would he feel if you said, "My last two boyfriends were bigger, but yours is good, too."

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Maybe he was so surprised to get a boob pic from you that it like disoriented him, to the point where he was saying stupid things.

Had you ever sent him a pic like that before?

Does he often say stupid/rude/insensitive things like that?

[Asker]

Yes, I have sent him a pic like that before. It's not like he doesn't know what I look like naked. This was the first time he has ever said anything like that.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Was he trying to be funny? I guess it can be hard to tell what his tone was through text.

Is he a fan of your boobs generally?

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Did he apologize or give you an explanation or anything?

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Hey just wondering if there was any developments if he apologized for what he said or anything.

[Asker]

Yes, he did end up apologizing and promised not to say anything like that ever again.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

I'm still trying to understand why he would say top 3 and top 5.

Are you kind of large in the chest area? Did he maybe mean you were in the top three biggest boobs he'd ever like experienced?

[Asker]

I think it was negging behavior which is a turn off. Yes, I am large in the chest area.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Maybe he was intimidated by your big boobs? I really have no idea. I'm just guessing.

Maybe he wanted you to know/think that he's been with OTHER hot, big-breasted women.

Maybe he doesn't like how other guys check you out when the two of you go on dates.

How are things between you and him now?

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Would it be rude if I asked how big in the chest you are? It's fine if you'd rather not say.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Sorry if that was a bad question.

[spartan55]

Because he's a douchebag? Who cares why? Focus on the fact that no guy worth your time would ever say that. The why doesn't matter.