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This question may be controversial, so I want to preface it by making abundantly clear that I do NOT condone or excuse any form of child abuse. This is a thought experiment regarding hard limits to protect the well-being of everyone involved in sexual activity, but social norms would still apply, and they would likely continue to be more effective than any law at regulating this behavior. That said, let's begin.

In the U. S., the age at which a person can consent to sexual activity is typically between 16 and 18 years old, and various nations across the globe stray even further from this range. Assuming there is a "correct" age of consent, this discrepancy must mean at least one of three things:

1. some places set the age too low, leaving naive children vulnerable to abuse;
2. some places set it too high, prosecuting people who are effectively innocent; and/or
3. the same act between the same two people can magically become more or less ethical depending on geographical borders.

Option 3 seems a bit unlikely, meaning that either 1 or 2 is true (if not both), either of which has very real and harmful impacts.

In order to address this issue, many jurisdictions make an exception for minors and adults close in age, known as "Romeo and Juliet law" — such a law allows, for example, a 19yo and a 17yo to have intimate relations without consequences even if the age of consent is 18.

Still, 18 is a pretty arbitrary age to use for defining adulthood or any of the rights, privileges, and responsibilities that come with, as is 16, and 21, too (the legal drinking age).

Objectively speaking, it makes more sense to either lower the age to about 13, when most people hit puberty, or raise it to 25, when the brain is fully developed.

Another solution is to measure the ages relative to each other, as in the widely used formula for what's socially acceptable — half your age, plus 7 (14 & 14, 20 & 17, 30 & 22, etc. would be okay).

So, what do you think it should be, and why?

Yesterday night I was landed into the hospital due to seizures. As I was in my assigned room and bed, I saw my crush come along asking me questions about the medications I was taking.

I didn't ask for her last name or anything but that's only because I'm a polite person. I only know her first name. As I got out a few hours later, I started doing some research using her first name, the city, name of hospital I was in, and there were only two women with the same name publicized on the hospital directory, but they are both pretty old (>40) and this one looks like she is 20 to younger than 35.

I used only the first name and city name this time around and did find a LinkedIn that shows that she apparently works at ANOTHER hospital in the same city.

It's SoCal, so many Registered Nurses are going traveling and stuff. I did find a public Instagram of 'that' cutie and I swear it looks >80% like her.

Question is should I, the next time as a patient, ask a RN out on a date?