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boyfriend and I have been together going on 8 years and see each other only on weekends. He had asked me to ride with him to Lowe’s and I agreed. After we left, I asked if we could go to an antique shop about 20 minutes away we had never been to. (We live in a small town with not much to do). I thought it would be fun since last weekend, we did something similar and he said he had a good time. He told me I needed to help with gas. His argument was that it was 20 minutes away and he wasn’t interested in going. I was confused, since it takes at least 20 minutes to get anywhere from our town, he said he had fun the last time we shopped for antiques, and he never asks me for gas. He has also expressed to me multiple times he’s fine with going somewhere with me at least once a week.

He is not financially strapped by any means. He has over $60,000 in his bank account and I have nowhere near that much. I also have asked him for help with food (he has a tendency to eat up what I buy & won’t ever replace it or offer to) and weed (we always smoke with one another on weekends and he’s gotten into the habit of chipping none in when we used to always go halves, and just expecting me to smoke him out and then getting mad and exploding on me when I don’t).

I brought these things up to him and pointed out I felt it was unfair to ask for gas when he told me himself it was fine and since I contribute so much in other areas. He ended up exploding on me, talking down to me and calling me entitled and I ended up crying. I feel like it would be different if there wasn’t such a deficit in contribution on his end. Am I wrong? What are your thoughts? I also have aspergers if that helps.

Tl;dr: boyfriend of 8 years asked for gas money, I felt like it’s unfair since he said it was cool and he won’t help me with food/weed, even though I’ve asked him to multiple times and he has way more money than I do

My boyfriend was a few years ago (4 years ago) in a relationship with a girl for six years. They were on and off almost the whole time. Apparently great sex and he worshipped her. A lot of things he told me in the beginning that has stuck to my head still and I really wonder if I’m a second option after her since he’s bragged and spoken so extremely highly of her. She is very attractive so I don’t think he was over doing it either. I do think he really does find her extremely attractive perhaps much more than me.

There was a girl who wrote him once which he replied to mentioning me which is nice. I said he should block her. He said no I want to know if she’ll write me again. I took it as he wanted to keep the door open and I was upset about that for a long time. He said if I really think she’s something then we should all meet for coffee and I’ll know there’s nothing there. I was taken off by that and thought wow ok there must be nothing then since he’s so confident.

Another time speaking about the ex he was with for six years. I asked what he’d think if I wrote her, he got really pissed and said I’d never see him again if I did.

I find it weird such two different reactions. Would you say he’s protecting the ex and hopes to keep that door open just in case for another setback?