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Before we start I wanna say thanks to you guys who answered the last question! 😊

If you haven't read my last question, I'd do that before diving into this one!

So my crush let me tell you about him, he's a sophomore he's super sweet to me and so funny. We have a ton in common and I've known him since like August maybe? We started talking because I found his account on ig and followed because he was at my high school. I started to comment stuff on his story that I found relatable, we like never really talked back then. (At this time I was just getting out of a 1+ year relationship and I also want talking to him in person yet) I was leaving a class and during crossing period he actually opened the door on me and it bumped my head and he was so concerned if I was okay. He is also in the band and that night at our break he asked me if I was okay and kept apologizing. Honestly I never really had a guy treat me like that 😂 but it was a new school so I didn't really think anything because people are more mature ig. But we started talking more and more and we started to become good friends (and still are) we meet during 6th-7th crossing period and asked how each others day is n just short little conversation, sometimes jokes and slight teases but those are rare. When we are at the game I sit near him and we end up talking a lot and he does funny faces and movements and I like to imitate him as like a tease. When we are at practices too me and him like to talk. I've never liked anyone who was a grade ahead of me so I'm really nervous to try anything. Like I make (what I think is) little hints like touching his shoulder and tugging his hair (not hard lol) and stuff like that. (If you guys read the last question) he kept looking at me at the restaurant and I just gave him a little smile and was talking to him throughout the night (his friends we're also there so I didn't want to talk to him too much)

• a client of mine keeps making statements like “in this point in time.”
• she told me she enjoys my customer service because it feels “new, exotic and refreshing for her”
• she wears clothes that are very sophisticated in a neat way (artificial leather, patterns, thick clothing)
• she says she met most of her great grandparents when she was a child
• she says that her great grandmother is half black and half white and showed me a very high quality color photo of her as a child and her great grandmom wearing sophisticated clothes but in a different fashion style from my coworker. most old people don’t wear that! it seems that the great grandmom was very old but had tons of face lifts.
• all her predictions about who won the presidency and trump’s inability to accept defeat is right
• she makes warnings about what else will happen in the future

I came across this movie in which the description was that the main characters were learning to survive in a “post relationship” world. So I looked up what does post relationship mean and after diving deeper into that, I started looking at the topic of “relationship PTSD” I eventually landed on this article letting you know if you have relationship PTSD. There were a list of all the side effects one might expect from being hurt. I guess the key difference between regular sadness that your relationship ended and relationship PTSD is that the relationship in ITSELF brings the “victim” a great sense of paranoia. It all sounded so familiar. But the thing that stuck out to me the most in his article was that apparently, if you have relationship PTSD you can hardly remember being happy in your relationship. I can relate to that very much. When I look at other people being happy in there relationship I feel one of two things. Either I have this daunting concern that I am somehow different from women who are clearly more able to exist in a relationship-or I suspect that the love I witness isn’t real. I mostly see my last relationship as just one big painful memory held together by a few happy memories or moments. But when I actually stop to recall the times where I felt happy in my last relationship, I realize I wouldn’t have been happy AT ALL during the entire length of the relationship IF I knew the things that my ex boyfriend was concealing from me or even IF I knew the outcome that would come out of being in love with a man who cared so little about me as to ghost me after an entire year just to be with someone else. So in its entirety, the relationship seems like a fake to me. And it causes me to have a continued sense of paranoia even years later. And while I refuse to let my ex win any more and I think that I have recovered a lot of myself, I haven’t yet recovered the sense that when I meet a new guy I can accept that “this is reality” or “this is genuine.”