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The guy I'm seeing is dealing with a loved one being diagnosed terminally, throwing him off in every way (previous post). Here's where things are now:

-I was the one who was initiating more convos since the news

-He asked me what I was doing the one night and when I answered with my non-important plans, he didn't follow up

-Turned out his friend had an extra concert ticket and he thought my response meant I was unavailable

-After giving him a (joking) hard time on the phone for missing out on the concert, I texted him after saying he should come over to make up for it

-No answer all night

-Next day I came across a relevant quote on IG, sent it to him and asked if we were ok

-He responded with paragraphs saying that this is why he tried to end things initially because he knows the state he's in is unfair to me, he doesn't have much he can give right now, but that yes in his mind we're good, he still cares about, enjoys, and appreciates me, he just hasn't reached any clarity in terms of what he wants in a relationship

-I apologized for possibly being too much in my attempts to be there for him, told him he knows where I stand but I'm going to be giving him more space

-He answered hours later saying "Don't worry about giving me too much or too little space, try not to worry about me at all, I'm doing what I'm doing and I don't want to have to feel apologetic about it. Right now my focus is me, it's selfish but it has to be. Work is demanding, my goals are close at hand, and I don't want my life to feel complicated"

-To which I simply replied "Aye aye captain" because that, to me, screamed that he needed space

-He continued with the convo as usual, asking how my day was

Since then he's been the one to initiate more convos again, seems more present, and after sending me a song in the morning, joking around as usual, then not talking for half the day yesterday, I get a goodnight text before bed. Could my attempt to give him space really be prompting this?

So it's happened a few times where my boyfriend will choose a movie and I just don't get into it and end up falling asleep on the couch. I don't mean to and I do try to stay awake but sometimes the movie is just boring and not my cup of tea quite frankly.

He gets irritated with me and says that I'm not open minded enough or that how can I say the movie is boring when I fell asleep and didn't give it a real chance.

We have been together 7 months and we also live together since 2 months ago.

I try to explain to him when this happens that I am pretty much a black and white person. I either like something or I don't. He knows this about me from the beginning. I'm the same way with music and songs, I will know within seconds if I like a song or not. He is the opposite of me where he isn't as fussy and is open to a lot more genres of music and movies. Therefore he tends to give those things a bit more of a chance.
He thinks that I should at least sit through a movie with him even if I'm not enjoying it because he thinks it's a way to make an effort for him as a partner. I agree with this for other areas of interest. So for example he likes rock climbing and I've never done it before but I would be willing to give it ago and if I didn't like it I would probably only do it occasionally with him as a way of making effort in the relationship. But a movie that is boring seriously wouldn't that send anyone to sleep? Am I wrong for not trying harder with the movie thing? I mean there are lots of movies that we both like and enjoy together and we have got at least 6 Netflix TV series that we both love together so it's not as if there is nothing we can watch together. I just think it's unrealistic for him to expect me to sit through something I just dont like and then try to make me feel bad for it afterwards.

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