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I am almost 28 and have never been in a relationship. I'm starting to feel weird. I don't really get invited for stuff because either the events my friends host are "for family" (i. e. with a partner) or because they don't feel discussing certain topics in front of me. To be honest, even I don't feel discussing those topics with them because my lack of knowledge becomes obvious or because the problems they are having are not relatable.
My colleagues, all of whom are married to people that used to date, are confused about this and keep on suggesting I get an arranged marriage. Does that mean they don't think it is possible for someone like me to get a date? If someone who had an arranged marriage suggested it that would make sense, but all of them have had love marriages. Why are they all suddenly open to the idea for me specifically. Hearing that advise from them is both confusing and depressing. It hurts my self confidence.
After hearing it so many times I'm considering the idea but I feel like I'm going against my beliefs by doing so.

What do you think?

In light of the lastest black person gunned down by a non black person, and ensuing social disruption from the incident, I'll ask. Should all/most black people (or anyone for that matter) be trained in how to respond to confrontation to avoid these situations?

What the training consists of would be another matter. I've seen people "de-escalate" tense situations and was impressed... and that would be the key to handling these matters. Dealing with pissed off A$$holes (justified or not) is not easy for anyone, no matter the culture. We all have to deal with them at times. It is tougher emotionally when it is white confronting black because of the reality and perceptions of the past. The other aspect is knowing your rights, being confident in your sense of security and legal defense, rights, etc. etc..

This might seem extreme, but lots of kids go to martial arts class, lots of kids learn self defense. Black kids... given all the media focus on incidents, likely don't see a good option. They should know defense... verbal, physical, legal, and have confidence to do so.

I am not suggesting everyone be armed nor that the public pay for it. Words are more powerful than swords.

I was confronted when young more than once. I wish I had training.