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In my opinion, it's definitely a luck factor because no matter how much attractive, humble, caring, adventurous, fun, mature, responsible, honest or reliable you become, it's not guarenteed that you'll find someone who will love you and stay with you forever.

I've seen so many great marriage material people get abused, cheated on and taken advantage of.

What's the point to modify yourself for something that you don't even know will happen or not?

Isn't love about being loved for BEING THE REAL YOU?

You can work on those flaws that may hurt your bond.
But apart from it why do you need to change yourself?

In a world where people gossip, I wouldn’t answer just any question in real life, not even my partner. I like to be a closed book and let people assume the rest. I wouldn’t answer questions like
Questions about politics...
“What are your political views?”
“What are your views on interracial relationships?”
”How do you feel about gender”
I don’t want to be making enemies within this political divided country and lowering my chances of finding the right guy... Or people to think I’m a liberal, racist, trashy or etc. based on my answer.

Questions about who I would or wouldn’t date...
“Would you date outside your race?” or “would you date ____ people?” or “what is your favorite hair/eye/skin color on a significant other”
Even if the person, who has a trait I don’t like, isn’t into me, it could make them feel bad about themselves if I answer these kind of questions. For example, if my partner has brown hair, I wouldn’t want him to feel bad knowing that strawberry blond hai is my favorite hair color on a man.

Questions about my family
“What are your parents like as a couple?” It’s no ones business about my family’s whereabouts and who they are.

Questions about my health
Again, no one’s business

Questions about my sexuality
Again it’s no one’s business. I’m a virgin and I keep that a secret in real life because it’s embarrassing for someone my age to be a virgin. I don’t like virgin hunters that much either. I don’t want people to be confused about my sexuality either just because they know I liked a masculine girl in high school. Or to think that I am more likely to cheat on my partner just because I crave sex a lot.

There are a few questions though, I wouldn’t answer on here or in real life either.

I was introduced to someone (they) that either has low self of esteem or is a narc. I believe the mutual friend knew this somehow because it slipped that they liked and wanted to be with the mutual first!! I was never interested in getting with anyone but the mutual would not stop hyping me up about potentially finding a partner before an event where they'd be there. They were very needy/touchy with me from the jump I feel for it, thought I'd take them under my wing but dating and gifts and ily's were pushed on me way to fast. Before that though the mutual, they, and I would be hanging out and the mutual would push they to get my number. Meanwhile there were times where the mutual would get annoyed that they would be texting too much and would tell me to tell they not to text or they'd be blocked. Either way I knew they still liked the mutual and the mutual would flirt back knowing we were 'dating'. Like make up your mind do you hate them or want to be with him. They and the mutual have hung out together while we were dating but certain events would slip out that seemed minor but they reacted as if they weren't supposed to say anything and would change the subject. Meanwhile the mutual would not text me to ask about they as much as other relationships, say what happened when hanging out, and wouldn't seem surprised or would seem dismissive over anything I brought up about they in person saying "they did that to me too". Either way I believe that they was bothering the mutual so much that the bone was throne to me so she could be left alone but once she saw the outward things they'd do for me the mutual became jealous or changed mind about throwing the bone and knows that the bone can easily be taken back because they like the mutual first. Both they and the mutual are gone from my life because I don't trust them. I just want to know if that sound right or similar to anybody