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Let's be real, we all have our good features and bad features about ourselves but I like to believe that for most of us our plusses outweigh our flaws. However, there's a lot of people out there that struggle to get dates and into relationships despite being all-around good people. We all know there are two sides to the attraction coin; a physical and emotional connection are both needed to create or sustain attraction. But unlike physical attraction, which develops pretty quickly, emotional connections take longer to develop because you need to see multiple aspects of the person's personality to really get a feel for them. Something that can't really be achieved in the span of a couple dates. And yet people are dismissed as potential relationships because there was no "spark" in such a short period of time, and because of this, a lot of great people are either dismissed or never given a chance in the first place.

So back to the question title: why do you think people don't want to date you?

A) Do you think it's because people are too impatient and don't want to try to see your great personality through all the initial awkwardness and nervousness that often accompanies getting to know someone new?

B) Or do you think its because you don't put yourself out there enough and allow other people the chance to see what a great person you are?

C) Or do you think you're just ass ugly and no amount of a great personality could ever compensate for the utter lack of physical attraction?

Obviously these aren't mutually exclusive but I just wanna get a feel from everyone. For me it's definitely A and B. My personality's the type that grows on you gradually over time instead of being immediate. I just think a lot of people don't have the patience for gradual and want immediate.

Anyways, give me yo answers.

Might be a dumb question. I'm well aware there isn't a blanket statement about this what so ever. I am just curious where many women land on the subject of being friends with guys they have no apparent romantic interest in.

Would you make friends with a guy you're not romantically attracted to while you're in a relationship already or is this some kind of taboo to you?

Also how much do you feel biased towards a guys intentions? I mean especially if you're very attractive. Does it ever get old getting hit on a lot, or make you suspicious of people?

A story for context!: I've been kinda friends with this girl, on a professional level for a couple years. She's weird and random in a way I am, and don't see often in people. Seems like the kind of person I'd hang out with, possibly steal other cool people she knows to be my own friends. Even though I'm not really attracted to her in the romantic sense, she's really damn attractive and I feel like I'm stopping myself from hanging out with her further just because of physical looks. And I know she has a boyfriend, even though I'm not attracted to her that way (She strangely looks like my crack-head cousin! At least enough I see my cousin at certain angles). Possibly it's just because I assume no matter what my intentions to her it'll likely appear I'm just into the hot girl. So I don't bother. But I think if she wasn't so attractive I definitely woulda already tried to be better friends.

So how dumb is that? Sexist even?
At least I'm fine with things how they are.