Throughout my quest for a girlfriend I have noticed many attractive girls but so far very few I would say were compatible with me. In the beginning of my search I assumed that all I needed was an attractive girl otherwise there would be no physical attraction.
I would go out of my way to try and get the attention of girls that weren't interested in me. I've always thought that if I could get an attractive girl, that not only would my biological needs be met, but that I somehow magically would be able to have a relationship with her.
I came across the idea on the internet that "nice guys finish last" and for a while I believed it. It seemed very convenient to have a simple explanation that attractive girls only go for big muscular guys with crappy attitudes since they are just as superficial as guys are.
There was a girl that I was infatuated with when I was in elementary school. For all of her personality flaws I only saw her external beauty, but eventually after I left for high school I started to realize what type of person she really was. She wore a push up bra every day to school, and even though another girl mentioned it, at the time I didn't know what one was. She was also a heavy drinker, partier, very religious and kind of sadistic. I personally abstain from drinking, rarely go to parties and am an atheist.
Another girl from the same elementary school I was interested in I met again in high school. She had become a massive druggie due to her excessive use of marijuana and didn't seem to care about school in the slightest.
Later I learned the term JAP (Jewish American Princess) which was a perfect description of the above two girls.
It finally hit me 2 months ago when I approached an attractive Arab girl that I was going for the wrong girls. During our conversation red flags would keep popping up but I would ignore them in hopes of getting laid.
First it was her taste in music, I like rock and classical but hate rap while she loves rap. Second was her comment of being like the "typical White girl" and third was her lack of engagement in the conversation. Now I made mistakes while talking to her as well by showing how nervous I was, especially asking if she noticed it, but what really proved she wasn't into me was when I got her number and she didn't respond to my texts.
I thought long and hard about how it is that I failed with this girl and what I could have done differently, especially why these random guys who acted very ghetto were very close friends with her. Finally I realized that we just weren't compatible and that her rejecting me, was doing me a favour.
I've noticed that the best way to determine the compatibility between myself and a girl is to first look at her friends. If these are the people that I wouldn't mind having as friends than she is the girl for me, otherwise I'm just wasting my time.
Jenna Marbles actually explains the compatibility concept pretty well. I wish I saw her video earlier instead of coming to the conclusion on my own.
For now I've decided to take a break from girls since they cause me a lot of headache. I've decided to work on myself to become the best person I can be both physically and mentally since women are a huge distraction. I'm sure eventually I'll find the right girl if I just open my eyes and go for those girls with great personalities. This song below is actually a good way of putting it.
I hope you enjoyed myTake.
Have a nice day :)