So I've been wanting to cover this topic for sometime now, but I've been putting it off. Well after reading some things here and also talking to some people, I think it's time. Having been cheated on twice, I will totally admit that I may be biased. With that said, come. Let's talk about this.
There are two types of cheating, EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL.
Emotional Cheating
My number one rule is this: if you have to think about if you should be doing it, then you shouldn't be. When you're in a relationship, there are certain things that you just shouldn't do. Getting someone else's number is not cool. Hanging out one on one with someone and not letting your partner know, is also not cool. Now I'm not saying that you have to run your entire itinerary by your partner everyday, but some things are definitely necessary for them to know. And some people don't see the harm in these things, but think about it. You exchanged numbers with YOUR partner when you guys first met right? And what did you do then? You probably talked on the phone and texted each other, getting to know one another. Feelings started to develop. I'm pretty sure that the next step was to make plans to hang out, ONE ON ONE. A few more of those one on one meetings (also known as dates) and those feelings have grown substantially. Say hello to your relationship. 9 times out of 10, that's how they start. Now that you're in this relationship, think about those steps. Now think about your partner doing those steps, but with SOMEONE ELSE. Not cool right?
In my opinion, emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. Why? Because you're cheating with your heart. You're growing close to someone outside of your relationship. You're developing an emotional attachment to this person. It's eventually going to take a toll on your relationship. Because you'll start to be distant. And cold. You'll start to find things wrong with your relationship to make yourself feel better. You're heart won't be in it anymore and that's all without ever even being physical. Which brings me to my next point.
Physical Cheating
This pretty much speaks for itself. In my opinion physical cheating is kissing, touching in ways that you also touch your partner, giving AND receiving oral sex, and then the act of sexual intercourse. Again, if you have to think about if it's wrong, then it probably is. I've seen the argument that receiving oral doesn't count. Uhh, wrong. It counts! No one but your partner and your doctor should be seeing your genitals once you enter a relationship.
There's also the argument that physically cheating doesn't always happen because feelings are involved. I agree, but that changes NOTHING. If anything that makes it worse. Because you're just doing it to do it. Which to me means that your relationship means nothing to you. In which case, you shouldn't be in it.
At the end of the day, when you make the decision to be a relationship than you're agreeing to be with that person and that person only unless otherwise specified. People love to make excuses about their partner not doing something they wanted or them being lonely. And while they are legit problems, they're not reasons to cheat. If you're having issues then what you should do is COMMUNICATE. Talk to your partner about it. Let them know what you're feeling. And if nothing changes, then YOU END IT. It's that simple. And if you don't feel like you can be faithful then you shouldn't get into the relationship in the first place.
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