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My brother was arrested for drug possession on December and he got out of jail on February and was sentenced to one year in rehab. He was in rehab for only 5 and a half months because my uncle (his therapist there) thinks that he is ready to socialize with people. Long story short before he got back home he was very calm, loving and he helps a lot at home (our maid past away and we fired the other one cause she was stealing, so we only have one maid). Back then we had police special force guarding our house because there's a person who's terrorizing us (the person who framed my brother as a drug dealer, he's a user).

My brother changed a lot since he started seeing this girl that he said he wants to marry. He started lying, being overly sensitive, he doesn't help at home, he lied about going home at certain time (we have cctv so we can check if he's lying or not). He has been out of rehab for 2-3 weeks now and lives with us.

Today he screamed at me cause i told him "i prepare the food, i give the maid his meal, i dry the dishes and put them back to their place" when he told me that i need to wash the dishes (this is my sisters job, she told him already before he started screaming at me). He never screams at me when he was off meth (he screamed at me once few months before he got arrested)

Is it possible he's using again? Or is it just the bad influence of this girl he's seeing? Or is it cause he's self esteem is down (he uses meth to boost his confidence)?

We scheudled a date but I had to cancel it as I was down with a severe case of allergy rashes. I shot him a text saying that I was sorry but I won't be able to make it the day before our date (early hours of the morning)- I had to be home for quite a while. He was really nice and sweet, saying that he is so sorry to hear that hopes I get well soon and would be well cared for. I then thanked him for his well wishes.

He sent me a text to check up on me 6 days later. I thanked him for asking and told him I haven't fully recovered though I feel much better. He said that was good to hear and said to hang in there. I never replied to that text.
I also didn't mention anything about a raincheck/rescehdule on both occassions though I fully intend to.

I had a relapse conditon and took longer than expected to recover. I texted him 17 days later asking him if he'd like to meet sometime and he hasn't replied (though I know he's abroad). I'm wondering if he thought my sickness was an excuse and that I lost interest and was treating him as an option?

He has been really sweet and considerate thus far and I don't want him to think I'm just bored. Should I call him to apologize or calrify things?

I'd appreciate some comments as well!

Cheers.

So I invited this guy I had hung out with twice at the bar only talking and drinking. I invite him over to get away from my obnoxious friend that disrespected. So we hung out and he sat in my hammock with me and met my chickens and talked about family and he complimented me on how I keep up my yard well by myself and how I need to buy my house cause it is perfect. He told me to sit back and he ran around my house getting things ready he found his way around the kitchen and my room and got my window AC set up with an extension cord. He was like let me handle everything. I was impressed. And it led to us hooking up but I told him he could crash where ever he wanted the couch or the other room. He chose to sleep with me. And it was beautiful!!! I felt adored. he was like I am in no hurry to leave in the morning. Long kiss goodbye. He said "everything was just awesome". He says since we were up all night he was going to sleep and recover and I will hear from him. Then he was gone. Nothing for like a week I was sad. I intentionally did not ask his number I wanted it to be up to him. Then he calls and says he needs to explain that he is not ready for a relationship. He is saying I am awesome and I deserve it but he is just not ready. He says if we meet up I need to know it is just a friends with benefits type thing because he has to work on himself. I tell him it is ok but I was happy to hear from him he is like are you sure u can do this I can't huRt u. I say it's fine he came over and again it was amazing. And he saw me at the club the other day and called me over to meet his friends he had me do my comedy with them he has me meet his best friend specifically. Then jerk friend sees us kissing and touches my ass. My guy holds my hands and pulls me close to his chest and gets into a verbal altercation with his dumb friend. I felt in awe of his protection. He was like she is a lady and you don't do that to her ever. He tells me to head home and he will meet up with me.