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Many say otherwise, but I feel it becomes more superficial. Here is why.

When you fall in love the first time (likely in your teens), it didn't matter if the guy had a job, a fancy car, money, or an education. All that had to happen was that you found him attractive and he returned those feelings back. Some of the most intense, passionate, and memorable feelings occurred with your first love. It was spontaneous, youthful, free, and an important milestone of your past time. It was a time of innocence. A time of fun and exploring each other's feelings and bodies.

Next time you fall in love, it is not as new. You are a young adult at this point. You begin to guard yourself a little more. You don't give your heart as easily. You don't form as tight of a bond with that person. If he breaks up with you, sure you may feel a little sad but then you are like "eh". He is neither your first nor your last.

Then you start to form other expectations, like does he have a job, does he have money, can he provide financial security? The love is not as pure. You have been there, done that already.



Research has shown that there is a 75 percent chance of reuniting with a love from your youth. Research has also shown that the bonds you form under age 25 are some of the strongest.

I mean doesn't it sound better to spend the rest of your life with someone you shared your youth and innocence with versus someone you didn't?