Don't be like this douche bag above, please
Okay, so you've read all the dating tips online: from pickup artistry to how to double your dating to how to get your dating profile to shine. Everyone says the same thing: "be kind of like an asshole" "be cocky and funny" "compliment a girl and then insult her" "dress like Mystery, the douche bag, and wear a velvet hat and eye liner"
Okay first off, if you aren't David Navarro from Jane's Addiction, Johnny Depp, or Prince (rest in peace) you can't pull off the eye liner, I'm sorry. (Is it a coincidence all three are Geminis?)
Anyways, here the actual real tips on how to be charming with women and become a CHICK MAGNET without shelling out 100's of dollars on useless dating guides and forums.
1.) Be confident
Learn to love yourself and change your thoughts to positive ones. Keep a smile on your face, be energetic and fun to be around. Befriend everyone and take interest in other people in general. When you come across as a person who is happy, sure of himself, filled with interesting things, people, events, etc. in life, women will naturally be drawn to you. In other words, have high social status
The man above has a quiet confidence about him, no wonder he played James Bond
2.) Understand that flirting is mostly body language, maintain good body language
Most guys make the classic mistake of not making enough eye contact, not smiling and not holding themselves in a graceful manner. Make eye contact, smile, keep your shoulders back, chin up, and tummy tucked in.
3.) Be a good conversationalist by not talking much and keeping the attention on her
Most guys make the classic mistake of talking too much about themselves in an effort to impress: they'll go on and on about their cool jobs, their salary, the car they drive, how much they can bench press and so on and so forth. It's better to flaunt all the goodies you have without saying a word about it. Keep the attention on her instead: ask her questions about her that pick her mind, and sit back and listen to everything she has to say. Without saying much, you become a good conversationalist by simply learning to listen. Also, when she asks you questions about you, don't always answer directly, give playful answers that'll make her laugh out the words "you're impossible!" The trick is to keep the attention on her, but don't go about the date like it's an interview either. Find out what she's passionate about, for instance, and then reciprocate by telling her what you're passionate about and if she asks questions about you, just be playful an don't be so direct. Remember, you want to be a bit mysterious while getting to know all about her and at the same time bonding with her.
4.) Convey interest in something more than friendship early on without letting her know you like her
Tell her you like her too early on, and the seduction is over before it even starts. Don't let her know that you like her early on and you end up getting friend zoned. From the beginning, you have to convey interest in her. Girls are different than guys, they have to be in a certain mind set and mentality when dealing with you. You have to be seen as a potential sexual partner from onset in order for the sexual tension to build like it should over time.
5.) Be unassuming, chivalrous and very nice when you first meet her
When you meet a girl, you have to be polite, nice, chivalrous, and modest. You can be confident without being cocky, and you can be a gentleman without being a pushover. Contrary to the crap that you read on dating articles; how you have to be a dick, use backhanded compliments, neg a girl....being nice actually means that she will be nice in return. I mean, doesn't that make sense? Some girls however, are bitchy when you first approach them to woo them (mostly because they are used to creeps or meek men going up to them and they are testing you to see how you will react), so you can continue to be nice without getting all flustered: just stand your ground, respond to a woman who throws curve balls at you with some wittiness and just keep that sure smile and coolness on your face...like you have "zero fucks given" written all over your face. Eventually, the bitch shield will fall and she will open up.
6.) Use your friendship with other women to make yourself appear more attractive
Women hold each other's opinions of men in high regard. If she sees you constantly talking to women, she will wonder what it is about you that is so interesting to the opposite sex. By being friends with a lot of women you provoke a woman's jealousy and curiosity to want you all to herself.
7.) Tease a woman playfully, flirt as if it's her chasing you, be witty and learn how to compliment
This goes back to a prior tip of being a good listener. When you get a girl talking, the more she talks the more likely she will say things to contradict herself, or fumble her words or say something out of context. Learn to spot these blunders and then use it to tease a woman. Examples: "You mean - make - peanut butter jelly sandwiches, not - cook - peanut butter jelly sandwiches, you have some pretty low standards for how to be a good cook" "Oh so you mowed the driveway with a snow blower? Really? Does snow grow like grass or something?" Yes these are some things from personal experience I've teased women about sarcastically. When you flirt, you have to flirt in a way that subconsciously makes her feel like she's chasing you. For example "I like your dress, you look dashing...but please, you don't need to get all dressed up just to impress me" is an example. "You want to go for another round of beer? You're trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me huh? Well, I won't fall for it" are good examples. With compliments, find things about her that most people miss: she always gets complimented on her looks, so find things that make her unique, spot them and then compliment her on it.
8.) Be unpredictable
Don't always call and text when you say you will. When the sexual tension is extremely high, pull back a little. Pique her interest and then balance it off with a sudden change of behavior into aloofness. This emotional roller coaster ride you put a woman on will get her plucking flower pedals trying to figure you out. Women are emotional creatures, and also like to do the chasing and are super analytical, so if you can get them to invest emotional energy in you, getting them to think about you, then you'll come off as more intriguing than all the guys out there that end up clinging to women and stalking them.
9.) When you ask a woman out, be direct and have a confirmed date
When it comes time to ask a girl out, do it in person: not over the phone or via text. If it's not possible to see her, do it over the phone, but never over text. Be spontaneous about it, not contrived like you spent all day planning to ask her out. Don't say "would you like to go out some time" and then be all like "some day". No, just be like "hey, I'd like to go out with you and see you..." if she says yes, pick the date right then and there, a time, day, date everything. And then, plan the date out completely and when it comes time to go out on the date, take the lead with everything from picking where to go to eat, to what activities will be done, to where you'll sit in the restaurant or movie theater. During a date, women don't like to be the decision makers, so plan everything out and let her just go with the flow. You can also build the conversation up to the date, by visualizing in conversation things that are fun to do, like, talk about what she likes to do, and then be all like "hey speaking of bowling, actually you know what, I was thinking about bowling this weekend, would you like to go out and go bowling? I'd like to see you this weekend if you're free" is a good way of getting a date.
Also, be into her during the date and show good etiquette, not like this tool
10.) Don't ask permission for a kiss or dance or a phone number, also - touch her casually
Don't ask her to dance, just grab her hand and lead her to the dance floor. Don't ask for a kiss just lean close to her face and scan hers for if she is ready for it. Don't ask for her number, just tell her to give it to you. Even when asking out a girl on a date, don't even ask, just make the assumption like she'll say yes. Also, throughout the date, make sure to touch her when you talk to her, like a quick pat on the shoulder, or a quick touch to the knee, or keeping you hand on her lower back and guide her through a door when you hold it open for her or a quick hug when you pick her up for a date. When you touch her, subconsciously, you build physical rapport with her.
And that's it, over 3,000 dollars worth of dating advice condensed into one sweet article. Got any tips of your own? Share them below.
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