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A healthy relationship is focused on you and your partner and not giving a damn what other people think. But let's face it, most people worry about their reputation and having an ideal partner can be a reflection of your value and desirability.

Stereotypes single women face (gets worse as they age):

- too neurotic
- too feminist
- lacking feminine wiles
- doomed to be a childless spinster from the ovaries drying up
- selfish

Stereotypes single men face

- socially awkward
- creepy
- loserish
- gay (this is a bigger insult to straight guys than most women know)
- immature

I feel like both single men and women sometimes feel driven to dating to avoid these stereotypes. Admittedly I stayed in two long-term relationships because I noticed more respect among my colleagues, family and friends that I was seeing somebody. I was thrilled to change my FB status to taken. The most disgusting result is I noticed LOTS more attention from other women. I fucking hate that, because I'm loyal and was wondering where the hell these women were when I was single and lonely.

I'm currently single right now after many frustrating, money wasting, time wasting, effort wasting and heart wasting dates. But I do have friends with benefits going on. I do still get laid.

But it dawned on me a month ago the biggest motivator I had to keep dating was because I am sick of people judging me. My family is the worst, but my friends and colleagues have in the past too. Fuck what they think.