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I've always been a genuine good person. My kindness and strong intuition and belief of good in people have always been aspects of myself I'm grateful for. That said, when it comes to dating and men.. I've always gone after men who may not be financially stable or "clean cut" but have genuine souls or I see something in them that I guess others don't? My family and friends think I lower my standards. My cousin told me because I'm gorgeous & classy, and well-educated, and he thinks I should have men begging to be with me.. Which I mean, I do get guys after me often... But they aren't what I'm looking for because many of them are either players or don't view life as I view life. I have a very artistic vision to life. I'm currently interested in a man who is a musician and lives on the road... He has a very punk/hippy, unclean maybe disheveled look to him overall, and maybe he's average looking.. Small framed and scraggly beard and hair... He doesn't have a job otherwise, or a car, and he's 26. But I honestly don't see him as my friends and cousin see him? They were in shock I wanted to be with him bc they think I'm "out of his league" but I don't believe in "leagues" at all. I think a person is a person and I'm after the heart and what's inside.. And I just really think this guy is a good guy, and he's into making music.. And I think he THINKS about life as I do. My cousin told me I must be desperate if I'm after him, and that i need to get more confidence in myself and find men who are "clean cut" and shop at fancy stores and have an actual job and education. Am I being delusional because I'm looking past that?

I'm just wondering... Are guys different in styles of how they pursue women? Perhaps based on their experience with women and how they are overall? Or is it as easy if he likes her he will be all over her and message her every chance he gets and ask her out right away? It seems like I get a lot of confident players that go after me and they have no trouble asking me out right away or responding in seconds... Which has made it easy to detect players. But recently I've been interested in a guy who is DEFINITELY NOT like that.. Like he's reserved, into his own life, and is shy.. And probably not as attractive on the outside as most guys that pursue me.. But his insides are pure.. That said, I don't know if it's disinterest on his part or if he is just taking his time and is nervous. How can I tell? If he responds to my messages, but does so sometimes a bit later like a day or two, and sometimes within minutes, is that bad? We have yet to meet in person but I am trying to do so but he seems hesitant. My friend thinks he's intimidated by me and will come around if I just keep showing genuine interest. I have had guys tell me they were nervous to meet me before bc they think I'm out of their league or I'm different... It could just be words though, most likely is lol. But it's nice to hear 😅