I feel the urge to ruin some people’s day, so here’s another offensive take from the resident spitfire. Today, we will tackle a topic that is surprisingly common online, though not as spoken about in normal life.
Why is it that there is a strong taboo, or social stigma in the USA, against white women who date black men? Why is there such a large number of white men who will refuse to date white women who have had black partners, to the point the topic appears even on this fairly liberal website? Why do white women who date black complain they feel like they are shunned and get looks of venom when out and about? Let’s look at the main reasons in no particular order.
1. Dating is a zero sum game. A strong stigma discourages dating out.
What do I mean by that? There is a finite amount of women or men to date. This isn’t a pokemon game where if you just beat the bushes more will magically appear. White men strongly prefer dating white women over any other race, and for every white woman who dates out, that is roughly speaking, one white guy who will have to date out. Roughly speaking, given percentages.
Between whites being basically the smallest racial minority on the planet… combined with the strong preference white men have to date women of their own race, and the desire of other races to date white women, white men have a strong incentive to discourage such behavior. As with any other social behavior, if you inflict a penalty on people who do something, it will be lessened. Because white women are fairly aware of how dating other races of men, particularly black men, will impact their future dating prospects and their social standing, many white women are strongly discouraged from doing so.
Though, we can also include that many black women despise white women who date black. Given how hard dating can be for black women who can really blame them for getting upset when a woman from another race helps lower their romantic prospects?
2. Racial animosity.
In the USA, there is a strong racial hatred between white men and black men.
Simple example, consider Dylan Roof. For the reverse…
Consider Corey Bates, a black Vanderbilt Football player who raped a white woman and told her she deserved it for slavery.
Or consider Omar Thornton, who murdered 8 whites in the Hartford massacre in 2010.
https://www.murderpedia.org/male.T/t/thornton-omar.htm
Of course, these didn’t get much media attention, but they serve as examples. Or if you want to be classic, read Democracy in America and see that hundreds of years ago, Tocqueville said that because slavery in the USA had been limited largely to blacks, it was limited in damage, but that damage was much more focused. He said the shame would follow the black race as long as they existed, and if I remember correctly said the solutions was either separation, or intermarriage and making a race of mullatos. Or as we have seen in many nations, simply one group kills the other off. Ideally that’s not the course of action people take in the USA.
What does this boil down to? Just as many black men get upset or angry at seeing a black woman with another race, white men share the sentiment about white women. The women in any group are incredibly important, and we men largely have an instinct they must be defended and kept away from outsiders. Ask white girls who date black, and if they are feeling honest they will admit they feel a lot of coldness or outright disdain whenever they are out with their black date.
3. Huge Cultural Differences
Said picture is from the funeral of a black icon, mourned by many in the black community like a fallen hero. Alton Sterling, a convicted sex offender with a long history of violent crime.
If you're white and a convicted sex offender with convictions for assault, aggravated assault, illegal weapons, having sex with an underage girl, felony theft... https://heavy.com/news/2016/07/alton-sterling-arrest-record-criminal-history-rap-sheet-sex-offender-sex-offense-crime-baton-rouge-louisiana-police-shooting-blane-salamoni-howie-lake-shot-charges-video-youtube-facebook-watch/
If you have that record and you are white, you're a thug biker who will be looked at as probably a murderer by polite society, or white trash. Or Bill Clinton maybe? You don't get a heroes funeral.
Put in one number… only about ¼ black births are in wedlock. While marriage isn’t fabulous and perfect, it’s a nice indicator of whether a child is being born into a family or whether some girl just got knocked up by an idiot. One study claimed 92% of biracial births are out of wedlock. https://www.clutchmagonline.com/2015/10/study-claims-92-of-biracial-children-with-black-dads-are-born-out-of-wedlock/
While black culture is evidently fine for blacks, many many whites find it awful and view white women who date black as dating into said culture. Hence, we discourage it as much as possible.
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So why is there a strong stigma/disdain against white women who date black? Simple reality of dating and numbers means white men have a vested interest in discouraging it. Racial animosity between white and black men means women are viewed more possessively to be defended, or as trophies to be taken. Cultural differences mean that whites at large strongly dislike what they see in black culture and want to stop white women from participating.
Commence with the outcries of rage and "OMG you know this is 2016!"
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