Internal Racism in the Black Community - Dating and Relationships

[Anonymous]

Premise:

It isn't easy being black. Hell, it's probably not easy being Asian, Indian, Hispanic or White; however, the black community seems to have a lot of internal issues that make being a black person a lot harder these days.

So, if you haven't guessed it already, I'M BLACK! Surprise! When I tell you that "I'M BLACK", what's the first thing that comes to mind? A muscular black man wearing a do-rag and sagging? Maybe a "thugged out" black guy with a pistol and tattoos and grillz in his mouth? Well, I am not like that at all. I am 25. I have my Bachelor's degree. I have a great job. A nice car. My own place. I don't sag, and I dress preppy and proper (blazers all the way!!!). I am articulate. I am well groomed. I am a gentlemen. I also listen to a variety of music, not just rap and hip hop. That's me in a nutshell, and people are constantly telling me that, "I am different from MOST black people".

You know what really sucks about being a black guy these days? DATING!

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History About Me & Dating:

https://brobible.files.wordpress.com/2014/07/black-guy.jpg?quality=90 (note... that is not me in the picture... but that is what it was like for me).

I grew up in a mid-upper class family, and I lived in a small area where 97% of the population at the time was white. So, when I went to school, I was one of the only few black people at my school. So, when it came to dating, I could only date white women. That is all I had at the time.

Skipping ahead, I moved to Texas in '09, right after high school. Let's just say I was shocked to see other races of women besides white women. Since moving to Texas in '09, I have dated all races of women; however, I AM REALLY ATTRACTED TO BLACK WOMEN.

However, I talk to black women, here is what they tell me:

- "Sorry, I only date white men."

- "I'm not interested in black guys."

- "I like white men, and I don't normally date black men."

Hell, I have even had black women tell me, "I usually date white men, but you're different from the average black guy." Do you know how insulting it is to hear that? I sometimes feel like I'm in the 1960s trying to get a white woman to like me, because those are things white women would say to black men back in the day. However, in this day and age, black women are now saying this to black men, and it's hurtful.

I've been in situations like this before with black women as well. Some black women will stop dating black men forever, if one or two black guys cheat on them or abused them in the relationship, and then they will hop on the "white guy train".

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Why Black Women are Turning to White Men:

https://enterghana.com/man-calls-beautiful-black-women-dating-white-men/

Media Influence - The media has a big influence on everyone, whether you believe it or not. In a lot of TV shows and commercials these days, the are promoting black girl and white guy couples like it's a trend. Need proof? Look at this post - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3107288/board/thread/262674697

Bad Experiences With a Black Man - This has to be the lamest excuse I have ever heard. If you need proof on this one, look at the video above. So... a black man cheated on you? So... a black man abused you? You're going to put all black men in a box, just because you had one or 2 bad experiences? That's not right. All black men are different. Stop dating the wrong ones. White men also cheat. White men also abuse women. It's the same for all races.

They Think "White Is Better" - I have heard black women tell me that white men are gentlemen, know how to treat women with respect and don't crave sex as much as black men. That's funny... because every time I act gentlemanly with my women, treat her with respect and wait on sex... I get deemed as "weak" or "not interested in the girl" or "friendzoned". Race doesn't matter here either. All that matters is how you were raised.

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Conclusion:

My dad married a black woman, hence I am obviously black. Growing up, my dad used to tell me that I should date a white girl and that they are better. However, I don't see color when I date. Even though I am attracted more to black women, I will date anyone of any color, as long as there is a genuine connection. I am not the type to go out of my way to date just black women.

However, I felt the need to write this take, because this is what I have experienced trying to date a black women, which I have still never done. Black women say that "prefer white men"... but if you are knocking down black men and showing disdain for them when they try to talk to you or saying things like, "I don't normally date black men, but..." that sounds racist, which is internalized racism.

On the other end, I know that there are black men dating white women. However, as a black man, I am attracted to black women and it would be nice to find a black girl who actually likes me and doesn't see my skin color as a problem.

[G-Daz]

I can't help but feel when reading this that the main issue the US has is their focus on dividing everyone into sub groups and racial colonies. I live in England and the media, culture doesn't really emphasise a distinction when they come to people. They just refer to them as their deemed name. If someone openly comes out saying they prefer X race, they'd be stigmatised as strange and looked at weirdly.

Whereas, in the US. it seems as though people place their pride and worldview within the context of their race. It's your race against every other.

Don't you forget either, the leftist media loves dividing people into communities and the left are probably one of the worst caused of a large amount of the problems in the "black community", helping endorse and support "black lives matter", replacing a black father with the state and making sure that there are particulat victim groups which means there are problems developing certain sub victim groups that can't even safely produce their own businesses to grow. This is the worst kind of racism

I notice that in the US there is an emphasis on seeking said race. precisely because they have a bent worldview that prioritises the values of so and so based on their race. This is the biggest problem and the reason i believe this question had to be wrote

[kxera]

Hey! A lot of us black women feel this exact same way. It's the other way around as you described where I live (black guys not really being into black girls). I really do think it's a big issue on both sides in the black community. A big part of that is due to us literally being taught to hate ourselves, our skin, our heritage, everything (unless it's on someone outside the race, making that person "exotic"). The same thing goes for the standard of beauty primarily being Eurocentric. We really need to unify. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. I've had to as well, but that's life. It's just up to us (as black individuals) to work to unify the community.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

please ignore the idiot below. I don't think he knows the difference between racism, self-hate, his brain or his dick.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

*Self-Love

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well the reason why Eurocentric beauty standards are prominent is because 63% of the population is of European descent, you can't really fault people for that, they are the majority. It would be like accusing the original poster of racism for liking some one of the same race. Personally as far as I can tell its blacks who hate themselves and every one else doesn't care. It seems they are trying to hold themselves to "Eurocentric beauty standards" not every one else. I think the biggest problem is that blacks don't embrace their own unique looks, I mean you do not see people disregarding Hispanics or Asians, I think its because they unlike blacks embrace who they are.

[kxera]

@hellionthesagereborn Blacks are criticized and often at a loss for career and educational opportunities because of their features. If you wake up everyday and are told by the majority that your features are ugly on you, it makes sense that you would try to fit in. Insecurity with looks is a universal thing. Asians, Non-White hispanics and other non-white people all get criticism from the "majority" about them not being beautiful, so obviously that'll make some people insecure, but at the same time, you've got white people getting plastic surgery to match their features with those naturally occurring in people of color.

If you truly think most blacks all just hate themselves, then you have a very limited viewpoint and fail to analyze individual and societal situations. Right now, blacks are embracing themselves more than ever in a long time, but again, if you're told that you're ugly everyday and pressured to assimilate into the majority, then it's likely you will.

[kxera]

@TokyoGhoulLover No worries. I do believe he is a bit confused and has a very limited perspective on life outside his own box.

[hellionthesagereborn]

How are they criticized in such a way that it prevents job and educational opportunities? As for others no, no one is criticizing any one as far as I have seen in the media, in life. Why did you put majority in parenthesise? So where are they criticized for their looks? Now, behavior yes but again, I have never heard any one criticize blacks on their looks, at best I have seen indifference.

[RainbowFanGirl]

You just said everything I was thinking.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I think your missing the point, if their is that many issues within the black community then saying its hurtful or racist or what have you ignores the facts. If the black community has that many men for instance that seem to abandon or mistreat black women, you don't solve the problem by being pissed off about it, you acknowledge that problem, that's the only way it gets resolved. She says that black guys cheat, you show her that not all of them do, you set an example don't simply demand that they accept you simply because you know your not that way because they don't. You don't date a person you think is going to cheat, yet it happened to these women (or they where mistreated or used or what have you) so you coming in and saying your not that way doesn't mean a thing because the other guys probably said it to. You admit that yes their are problems but your not one of those men and you will prove it through your actions. Yes it means more work but given time you can help turn things around, that's the problem if you don't acknowledge it then it doesn't get resolved people are not going to change because you want them to, they are not going to accept you simply because it would benefit you for them to do so, you have to earn it and when many people who share similar characteristics act in a negative way it becomes all that more important that those who do not act that way step up and call them out. You don't see a white person defending the behavior of a white person purely because they are white, if they do wrong we call them out period, we don't tolerate it. That has to be what happens with you, she says those things about black men and you acknowledge that yes unfortunately some black men do act that way but I am not one of them and if you do not give a man a chance then you will never find one who treats you right. Again yes its more work and yes its unfair but its also unfair to demand that a woman simply accept you based upon nothing but your assurance that you are a good guy. You should also empathize with them more, look at your own post, the statement by Tommy Sotomayor who advocates for black men to date white women and then rips into black women all the time, it seems like that happens a lot, would you want to subject yourself to that? That's what a lot of black women have to deal with. And the hair comments, I see that from blacks not whites, it seems blacks are more obsessed with it then any one else.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I mean I find the black community is incredibly racist towards whites and themselves, just look at again the statement made by Tommy Sotomayor. Its nothing but hate against black women and hate against whites. My friend is dating a black woman and his girlfriend's mother has said some very racist things about him so its also not even black men its white men/women dating black women/men and vice versa. But again unless you, and every one really, starts acknowledging the behavior, pointing out that its wrong and learning to accept themselves (seriously I don't understand why blacks seem so obsessed with their hair, my friend's girlfriend refuses to wear it naturally even though my friend prefers her hair that way).

[hellionthesagereborn]

Thats how it gets resolved, calling it out and changing things by your actions rather then simply demanding things just fix themselves. Persistence will also help, just let them know that your not like the other men they dated and be willing to show it because unfortunatley your going to have to work through all the bullshit that these women have gone through, you actually have a lot in common when you think about it. And yes I know I will probably be down voted and blocked for being a racist asshole or something as absurd for stating this but hopefully some one will listen and actually help things change for the better. This self exile thing blacks seem to be doing along with the self hating is just highly destructive.

[Elarra]

I wish black men would understand that they turned to white women first, and not only that, they have their own standards of black women. The dark skinned ones are ghetto, the light skins are trophies, the mulattos are stuck up but get a chance because some part of them is white...

I've been turned down more by black men for being light skinned than any man of any other race. White guys love it and find me exotic and attractive and this idea that white men don't want us is completely absurd. If it had any merit, my cousin and sister would not be married to white men and my last two boyfriends wouldn't have been white. I think media and black men in general want to put black women down and want us to feel unwanted which is why they always go for white women and then call their own women ghetto. Even history shows that white men desire black women. Maybe you should read up on slavery a bit and see what I mean.

Also, just from my experience, white men have treated me better than black men. I'm not sure if that's a regional thing, but it's true for me at least.

I say date who you want despite the ethnicity. That's such a trivial reason to not be with someone.

[Anonymous]

I'm a white guy and I feel for you. I've tried dating black women before out of curiosity. Truth is I'm really not attracted to most of them, but I wanted to try something different. Almost everyone of them told me they only date white guys. Considering the fact I've met some good black men (one of my closest friends/confidants is a black pastor) I can see where you are coming from.

The real ironic thing is I usually find that women (especially white women) usually act real "PC" is public but are WAY MORE picky about dating outside of their race (or even within) compared to men of all races. It's one thing if they aren't attracted to a particular race but it's another if they are avoiding a particular race for prejudice reasons.

With that said I find it sad that you are encountering internal racism issues. I personally get pissed off at white progressives who have this self deprecating "white guilt" attitudes. Yes we all know what happened in history. It should be acknowledged, but not dwelled on. That doesn't mean I'm not against racial equality, I'm all for it. I personally believe that although race will always be an issue it doesn't have to be THE issue. You just need to take a deep breath, talk to someone and get past that 5 minutes of preconceived notions. It's takes an open mind and spiritual self discipline to do that. However that person of a different (or same) race could be one of your closest friend or even a romantic opportunity.

If you got your act together like you described above I imagine you going to find a decent woman sooner or later. She may or may not be black. However not all women are superficial.

I'm in a interracial relationship right now by the way (girlfriend's asian).

[NyomiMcClinton]

It takes time to find someone your compatible with. It doesn't just happen overnight. You are going to get females who may not like you. And some who will. Everyone likes what they like. You should try dating sites and actually getting out more to meet women instead of reading media and blogs about the negative things you are hearing. a lot of the times those things can cloud your judgment and you become critical on yourself and others. Trust me, you will be so much happier when you stop reading those depressing blogs about black people and stereotypes. I do understand your frustration. But it comes at point, when you have to let it go. It sounds like you can be a bit hard on yourself and that in returns reflect on how you will treat women. Noone wants to be around a guy like that.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for your feedback. Just to clarify a few thing you mentioned:

"You should try dating sites" - I have, actually. Black women on there actually prefer white men more and state so in their dating profile.

"actually getting out more to meet women " I do, every Friday and Saturday night.

[Curlybeauty17]

Yeah I've seen this before on both sides. This happens to black men and black women by other black men and women. I really don't think this is anything new, this is a part of a deeper problems in our community. But black love still exists if you truly want to marry a black woman and I implore you not to give up on that. When it comes to non-black women, often black men are fetishized by them as a sex object, so unless you are okay with that I suggest that you be careful when dating them. I wish you the best of luck in your love life.

[emailme]

It's very intentional by white people for blks to hate themselves. Not only did they separate light skinned blacks (house) from darker skinned blacks (field slave) they taught hatred openly without regret. If someone follows this model today it's not surprising. A lot of people forget slavery wasn't that long ago and many publications, art forms like black face, newspapers and books very clearly describe how black people should be viewed. It's still not over. Look at the most beautiful black women in Hollywood... all with very European descent fearures. But then look at Halle Barry and how her white husband didn't want those features in his 1/4 black daughter! I mean... Halle is gorgeous but too black for him

[TokyoGhoulLover]

Well, though I find the article about white men and black women extremely hurtful and not true I respect your feelings brother and feel your pain. i too hate it when we cannot love ourselves as a people and have made it my lifelong mission to build us up long before reading this article. all that i can try to say in a comforting sense, is that do not lose hope because there are many black women who are nothing But down for our Black men. and that is a fact. You should try Caribbean women. An educated, kind intelligent African American man is all we pray for.

[helloitsmethere]

YESSS CARIBBEAN WOMEN ARE AWESOME!
lmaoo I'm sorry I had to lol

[TokyoGhoulLover]

@helloitsmethere Hello-chan!! Q-Q Please hug me! this website is a horrible place and I want to quit. for real. maybe i can just get u and some of my friends' emails and leave? It's so not worth 20 dollars with all the racists here.

[helloitsmethere]

-hugs- I completely understand.
I just saw one of the replies on this thread.
After I get my second $20 I'm also leaving.
I WILL MISS YOU ON THIS SITE! You're mostly the reason I'm still on here. :(
I will PM you my email address.

[BubbleBoy69]

Caribbean woman are the worse. The entire Caribbean borderlines on colorism discrimination when it comes to people with whites being looked at as top. Don't believe me? Look at the way people always treat white or light skinned people in countries a lot better than dark skinned people.

[BubbleBoy69]

To clarify when i meant they are the worse it was in reference to going after white men not them as a person. Again Caribbean culture suffers heavily from putting whites on a pedestal even to this age and many people look down on black even if they make up a sizable percentage of the population.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

@BubbleBoy69 Oh bullshit bro. I don't know what islands you've been to but Dominican Republic doesn't count. Im talking the West Indies and I know what you're saying is bullshit/ your trolling because I'm FROM the fucking Caribbean. I've lived and breathed their air, I know my people and I know their thoughts. We think the Exact opposite of what you just said. and I take these lies as an offense because we Love our dark skinned Men and Women more than any outsider. So you can go Fuck yourself and should Check your facts before spouting bullshit from your mouth like this.

[BubbleBoy69]

Ah no. I'm from Caribbean too and even in past questions have been brought up with other islanders which confirm there is indeed colorism.

[helloitsmethere]

@BubbleBoy69 There is colourism (I have experienced it myself), but we still love our black men like cook food... we really do.

[rjroy3]

There are some issues, but some black women wanting white guys isn't one of them. I've dated more white girls than black in my life. America's population is mostly white people. Chances are there are going to be a great deal of white people dating within other ethnicities. Purely on a statistical standpoint.

To limit yourself to one race is shortsighted and to think black women don't want black men based on your experience alone is shortsighted as well. Girls in general are pretty flexible. Even racist women lol.

[metalinjected]

Feels like you've been reading my mind, man. Due to my unfortunate fears of approaching most non-black women (due to a prejudiced experience) even finding black girls to just talk with are hard because even some of them now don't like black guys. It's almost made me feel forced to do the whole MGTOW thing but I wish not to. It's so confusing that how these are the same individuals who probably claim to be against racism but have racist tendencies themselves "but that's different" for some magical reason.

[Negrodamuss]

Just change your tastes. I changed my tastes away from black women a long time ago, in part to adapt to the new reality. Limiting yourself to this one group of women, especially when they aren't even into you, is foolish. There's a whole world of women out there, from cultures that you may even come to view as superior... depending on what your own belief systems are. Of coarse, the moment you start doing this outside dating, be ready for certain levels of chastisement from the same groups of people who weren't into you from the get go because... well... thats just how people are. If you reeeeeally must date a black woman though, try some countries in Africa where they don't come with the same sort of baggage you'll find here in the West

[Negrodamuss]

Oh and P. S. I wouldn't call it internal racism. Having a sexual preference isn't inherently racist. That all depends on that particular person's views, which you generally have no real way of knowing

[lumos]

Liking almond milk with your latte is a preference. Making a preemptive decision about someone based solely on their racial or ethnic identity is racism.

[Negrodamuss]

@lumos I disagree

[lumos]

It's racism whether you disagree or not.

[Negrodamuss]

@lumos it's not racism. It's fine if you think that it is, but this doesn't change the fact that it is not. Certainly not for me

[lumos]

What is it about making a preemptive decision about someone based solely on their racial or ethnic identity that isn't racist? When literally you're rejecting someone *because* of their race?

[Negrodamuss]

@lumos Take this from a minority who has actually experienced racism first hand. This isn't it. Here is the definition:

" prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. "

The choice to have sex with one race over another doesn't inherently mean you feel like your race is superior in any way, or that you feel like another race is inferior. It usually means that aesthetically, one race simply isn't as appealing to you in a sexual manner. Going by your logic, I could accuse you of being homophobic for not being interested in dating women, or ageist for not dating old men. Your choice to not even consider dating these whole groups of people gor something they have no control over doesn't inherently make you sexist or ageist. They simply are not your particular sexual kink. It would be silly to assume otherwise

[lumos]

How can you generalize an entire race like that? Race is multi-faceted and it's not always just inferiority vs superiority. And how do you know that completely excluding an entire race isn't based on someone subconsciously feeling more superior than said race?
There's a difference between not dating someone because you're simply not attracted to them, and not dating them because there are underlying racism/racial biases going on.

[lumos]

racism is multi-faceted*

[Negrodamuss]

@lumos
" And how do you know that completely excluding an entire race isn't based on someone subconsciously feeling more superior than said race?"

I urge you to reread what I said, because I chose my words very carefully. No where did I said that in 100% of cases, racism had nothing to do with it. That would be a retarded point of view for me to have. What I said is that having racial preferences in dating is not inherently racist, meaning that the act itself, absent of all other information, is not racist. However for a select number of people, it will be. The point is that calling the person right out of the gate a racist is supremely ignorant, absent of any additional facts... just as it would be supremely ignorant for me to label you as homophobic for not wanting to date women... without knowing what your reasoning is. It certainly could be because you're homophobic and don't want to be around them period, or it could be that you just aren't attracted to women in that way

[somebodysaycheese]

Yea , im not black but that facebook post was so damn wrong. I find it funny the same black men who complain about black women and all their kids are the same black men who have unprotected sex and create all those fatherless black kids and are also responsible for the high HIV rates in black women. can't keep knocking women when you aren't doing what you should be doing.

[NyomiMcClinton]

I agree

[Elarra]

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas

[helloitsmethere]

Damn... it seems like it goes both ways in the Black community.
Don't worry man, there are PLENTY of black women who would LOVE to have a black man like you. You just gotta find them. You seem intelligent, kind and educated. What your dad said isn't true, no one is better based on their skin colour... hell, my dad was telling my sister and I the opposite once (he said, " always stick with your own", DESPITE the fact that his mother was the product of race mixing... I hope he was joking when he said that and I also hope race doesn't matter to him, more than likely he was joking lol) and as @TokyoGhoulLover (BESTFRIEND :) ) said, you can try Caribbean women. Trust me, we love our black men lol.

[RustlingJimmies]

The reason is media all around the world promote pro white as beautiful and anything that goes in contrast to that by a lot as ugly. So blacks are often look as the lowest on the totem pole in terms of beauty and therefore black men/woman often see each other as repulsive and look for someone outside their race Does this apply to all? No.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Funny, growing up the younger white community was given the exact opposite impression because of media/hip hop/rap revolution bull s*** which was pushed by Christian, bleeding heart whites. And honestly, when it came to racism, blacks were the most vicious. Blacks were advertised as cool criminals on TV but a lot of them in day to day interactions turned out to be f***ing racist a**holes. Probably because most of their parents were racist c***s. Sadly, I actually learned a lot about racism from them. Point is, you're not going to find much sympathy from a lot of whites. That's the backlash of pushing propaganda. I was kept in the dark and friggin shocked to learn how much interest black women had in white men late in life.

[Rawrzz]

According to okcupid stats, black women were 3 times as likely to accept messages from black men than other races.

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[myTake Owner]

These okcupid stats are old. Try getting an updated one and you will see that the tides have changed.

[Rawrzz]

7-8 years is not old for stats. If it were a peer reviewed scientific article, it would be considered "recent". I hardly believe that an entire sexual preference of a race would change in 7 years, much less simply on your word. People naturally date within their own race. This is common sense. People naturally prefer those who are like them, gravitate towards them. The only exception is black men who as a whole, according to those stats, prefer Latinas and Asian women, mostly Latinas.

If you are basing this idea on your own experiences, then that is the truly unreliable estimate. But, if you do have any stats, I would love to look at them. I'm always seeking to update my information.

[Ratiocinative]

Whites are better because they make better decisions. 3 of 4 black kids live with 1 parent while only 1 of 4 white kids live with only 1 parent. Until black people get their shit together then of course most people, including blacks, are going to prefer dating non blacks.

[Library]

I hope someday you find a black girl who likes you back :) I'm sorry you went through this.

In my experience so far, all of the black women I wanted to date told me that they only date black men. They didn't like how I was white and too tall.

[Elarra]

I didn't know there was such a thing as too tall lol

Whatever, I like white men and I'm black. My last boyfriend was white.

[myTake Owner]

@Elarra Do you only date white men?

[Elarra]

No, I didn't say that.

[Saoirse_Nua]

It is hard call - Is having a preference just that or some form of racism - Obviously if you are going around saying all X/Y/Z are this or that, it is a form of racism but if it is just a preference, we have to live with it like say a White woman who would say she prefers Black or Asian men - Ideally we probably should not have set in stone preferences and meet people as individuals to see if we have a connection.

[John_Doesnt]

I don't know what to think about racism anymore. The definition keeps changing and after taking a psychology course I found out that prejudice was beneficial to a lot of our ancestors. So maybe we should just be happy with the way things are now until we fully understand the science behind racism.
Science is the answer to racism.

[zagor]

I think there are a LOT of black women out there who would like to find an educated black man with a good job. If you look at the stats the number of black girls in college is a lot higher than the number of black men.

Now how to meet them, I can't help you with, as I seem to have trouble finding ANY single females hereabouts (who aren't eligible to receive social security already).

[August00]

To give you a truthful response to what you said about black women dating only white men, for me it is the same thing in SC, I have found many white women saying the same thing " sorry I don't date white guys." It is hard to hear something like that, like you are least then some one else.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TokyoGhoulLover So the original asker of the question is racist as well since he said the exact same thing right?

[joahnned1oo6]

@TokyoGhoulLover Great, an 80-IQ inferiority-complex sewerbit calling "skin heads" and "racists" people who speak of whites and blacks the same way.

I'll mend it: 75IQ.
And yes, you are right to be mad at it, life mustn't be that easy.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

Exaaactly, it's called sarcasm for Your Own stupidity~

[TokyoGhoulLover]

@hellionthesagereborn Dude I was being sarcastic and proving a point to August00 who somehow doesn't know the difference between trying to have pride in our own race, and hatred. I would say mind your own business, but clearly you haven't read August00's original comment and only have half the story.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

@joahnned1oo6 Oh no, did i make you butthurt? I was proving a point jackass, and being sarcastic by correcting August00 on his original comment. I'm not even angry at this point at your IQ comment, I'm just rolling my eyes at the immaturity. And by the way, since IQ has a racist history in and of itself i really dont give a crap what you think it is. so why don't you try getting the whole story before jumping to conclusion mr. 'hedurr iq 70'

[TokyoGhoulLover]

plus holy hell, i know imma nerd but u got me beat, :P u even tried to calculate my IQ, ugh Im touched <:)

[hellionthesagereborn]

@TokyoGhoulLover "To give you a truthful response to what you said about black women dating only white men, for me it is the same thing in SC, I have found many white women saying the same thing " sorry I don't date white guys." It is hard to hear something like that, like you are least then some one else. " is that the comment? Because I fail to see how your response is reasonable for such a comment.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

@hellionthesagereborn Nope.

"Hey! A lot of us black women feel this exact same way. It's the other way around as you described where I live (black guys not really being into black girls). I really do think it's a big issue on both sides in the black community. A big part of that is due to us literally being taught to hate ourselves, our skin, our heritage, everything (unless it's on someone outside the race, making that person "exotic"). The same thing goes for the standard of beauty primarily being Eurocentric. We really need to unify. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. I've had to as well, but that's life. It's just up to us (as black individuals) to work to unify the community "

"Oh great a racist bitch. This is GAG not the black panthers"

"Ignore him, he clearly doesn't know the difference between Hatred and Self love as a whole"
And I Quote. So yeah. I'm not apologizing for being Pissed off at this comment. Sorry for making you defend your boyfriend but he's garbage

[TokyoGhoulLover]

Plus, I think he deleted it, but you can ask kxera for confirmation as it was her comment that he wrote that troll-fodder on. Later.

[August00]

@TokyoGhoulLover how the fuck can you say to unify, with a name like "TokyoGhoulLover"! Last time I checked " and I do check" there were not many black guys in Tokyo.

[TokyoGhoulLover]

Invalid argument, just because i'm a fan of an anime (that is if you actually check facts Tokyo Ghoul is a tv show) doesn't make me a sell out like you. There are plenty of people who grew up watching Dragon Ball Z, Power Rangers, and Naruto soo suck it :)

[TokyoGhoulLover]

And the premise is similar to black plight as well which is why I find it appealing. It's about Ghouls being misunderstood simply for how they look to regular humans and being grouped together with bad ghouls and all they want to do is live while being violently hunted down by Ghoul Hunters. Similar to my experience as an African American. Good show with a deliciously awesome Morally gray area, High recommendation. Here's a photo

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[TokyoGhoulLover]

lol and thus the argument is over, thank you for the lovely game ;) sayonara~!