Yes, Racial Dating Preferences Are Racist

Yes, Racial Dating Preferences Are Racist

I'm just not attracted to black girls.” “Asian guys aren’t my type.” Hearing phrases like these is incredibly common and, by and large, accepted. You’re not super into black guys, though, but that’s just another preference, right? On the other hand, if someone were to comment that “I just don’t like working with Hispanics,” they would be called out for racism. So why do we accept it when people say, “I’m not really into Arab girls”?

Preferences for people you’re romantically or sexually interested in can be wide-ranging. Sense of humor, height, freckles, muscles, taste in movies—all of these are valid preferences. Saying you don’t find a race of people attractive, however, is racism. If you view an entire group of people as “not your type” and the only thing they all have in common is their race, then you have a problem.

Not everyone of a certain race looks the same

Yes, Racial Dating Preferences Are Racist

When you say you don't like a certain race, you're denying everyone from that race. Every race has diversity. Not everyone looks same. An example of it is Singer Bjork from Iceland, though it is easy to assume she is East Asian because of her features, yet she is Scandinavian. She doesn’t fit the stereotypical view of how Icelandic/Scandinavian women are supposed to look like.

Not everyone is same

Not everyone in a race is same. Consider Asians for example. Their population is 4.3 Billion. Is it even possible that more than 50 percent world population is Identical? They're nerdy is a common stereotype which is false for many

Race is a social Construct, Not Genetical

This is commonly known fact. If a white man can satisfy you then black man can do it too. As I 've mentioned in point before, it is possible to find two people with same emotions but different races. Yet if you choose to date a person based on his Race then clearly you're RACIST

Our Selection isn't "Natural"

Our so-called natural personal preferences are not truly natural or personal. We are not born with such a narrow scope of what is attractive. What we find attractive is culturally created and culturally enforced. Social conditioning governs this arena. We are all taught from a very young age what we should find attractive in others and this is reinforced through culture, the media, and the advertising industry (e.g. Fairness creams)

By declaring that you won’t date a certain race implies that you think a certain race has something universally in common that you don’t like and since the only thing they have in common is socially constructed categorization, you’re uncomfortable to a significant degree, which is RACIST.

Yes, Racial Dating Preferences Are Racist
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  • CubsterShura
    I agree. However I have these things to point out:
    1) Usually it is not the race itself that I don't prefer. It's rather the culture. I find Arabs attractive but I will wouldn't like to be with one. I find East Asian guys hot too, but I don't prefer their culture as well. However if anyone ends up sharing the same values with me, I would love to be with him.
    2) The nature thing is absolutely true. It is never about the nature, it is about hierarchy.
    3) Again, when I say that Bengali guys aren't my type, I don't mean I hate my own race. I don't like the nature of our men. If anyone proves to be different, he's a definite catch.

    I hope this explained a bit.
    Is this still revelant?
    • And your brain is just as whitewashed as you are.

    • At first I thought you are brain dead but now I see you got none. Get out.

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  • OlderAndWiser
    There are many attributes which may make a woman appealing or unappealing to me as a romantic interest. I refuse to date a smoker, so I am tobaccophobic (even though all smokers are not alike.) I refuse to date a woman who is not intelligent so I am stupidphobic (while some are not as stupid as others.) And I am not interested in dating a woman less than 5' 0" tall so I am midgetphobic (but mot all are munchkins.)

    The essence of the SJW's sword is to tell me that my preferences aren't valid because. . . the SJW has decided that my preferences are not valid. Then, I am called a name - racist - as a means of trying to shame me into altering my preferences (and these are the same SJW's who rail about "slut shaming!") This demonstrates that the SJW has a far better social conscience than do I, and we should all throw roses at their feet. Hopefully, some day, I will learn to be as good a person as they are.

    This same SJW strokes his own ego for being such a tolerant person; yes, they are accepting of everyone in the world of diversity. . . except those with whom they disagree. Their is no tolerance for disagreement with the SJW. Why shouldn't they call us names? After all, they have decided that we who disagree are motivated by hate. But from whose lips spring forth the disparaging words?

    I grew up in the Old South. I remember water fountains labeled "White" and "Colored." I remember restaurants in which there were no black people other than the employees. But there was never a time when someone came to me and said, "OAW, you must agree to never date a black woman." When I reached puberty, I did not sit and contemplate whether I should be attracted to black girls. That was never a conscious decision. I also did not contemplate whether I should prefer big boobs or small boobs, blonde hair or brunette hair, tall girls or short girls. I cannot control my lack of attraction to black women and more than I can control my strong preference for petite women. There is no conscious process of deciding to reject a black woman because she is black. I am simply not attracted, and concluding that my lack of attraction proves a conscious, racially-biased attitude is absurd.

    However, I do want to extend my thanks to you on a slightly unrelated subject. While Mr. Trump was not my first or second choice for the Republican nomination, I was a never Hillary voter. The absurd SJW mentality really motivated conservative voters and helped defeat Ms. Clinton. Thank you!
    • bente2

      You had me until the politics.

    • @bente2 It's okay to not agree. I am a tolerant conservative.

    • bente2

      Good on ya. I still agree with most of what you were saying, so, no hate intended or anything haha.

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  • PrincessPie
    No it IS NOT, you can not help who you're attracted to period.
    • markxcds

      Bollocks comment, attractiveness is a social construct, people are conditioned by society to who they like, during the ages people were attracted to beards, then they weren't, now they are again because society once more thinks it is acceptable to have beards. If natural selection existed, women would either like beards or not. Hence it does not exist.

    • So you think attraction can be helped?

    • Feminazi because I don’t think attraction is racist or a choice 😂😂😂 lol you’re either a troll or nuts.

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  • Logorithim
    I am open to women of a races and ethnicities, but not everyone is. It's no big deal, they just have a different opinion with their preferences. Other preferences can be body type, personality, hobbies, education, etc., and race/ethnicity is just another preference. If a woman isn't interested in me because of my race/ethnicity, I can live with that.
  • splashofyellow
    So, this has nothing to do with the take itself but Iceland is not a Scandinavian country. I think you meant Nordic.

    What comes to racial preferences, I disagree to a certain extent. If having a racial preference means that you have a type (as in you tend to find people from certain races more attractive), I wouldn't consider that racist. This is what I consider racial preference.

    However, if having a racial preference means you will refuse to date outside your "type" without even giving a chance to someone because of their race, that's racist. As you said, you can't group people together just based on their race.

    But even if our personal preferences aren't natural, what can we do about it? We can't exactly pretend to find someone attractive, can we? Obviously attraction is about more than just appearance but it's still a major part of it.
  • juicyjessie
    I prefer brown eyes to blue eyes.
    Is that racist?
    I prefer brown hair to blonde hair.
    Is that racist?
    I prefer white skin to black skin.
    Is that really racist?

    I treat ALL people the same, except my boyfriend gets preferential treatment as he is THE special one!

    I think you are confusing colour with race. They are not quite the same thing. Do you really think I should have sex with a black guy just to even it up, as my first guy is white?

  • Rissyanne
    People should be able to date who they want without someone screaming racism at them. I dont date outside my race. That is my preference. You wouldn't date a 80 year old woman would you? By your logic if you didn't... you are an ageist. You can't go around shaming or bulling people because they dont want to date someone.
    • Krumpir

      Ageist hahahahaah

    • Rissyanne

      @Krumpir its the same thing.

    • Krumpir

      Yeah, I know. I left comment here. In one particular race (won't name it) I just dislike facial structure. And 90% if not more of that race has that same facial structure. And then I am racist for not liking it? That is the same of someone called me carist, because I dislike for example Fiat...

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  • Bandit74
    And what exactly do you plan to do about it? Force people to date people they don't want to?

    People who share your viewpoint are in the minority so it doesn't matter how much you cry racism, you aren't going to be able to change anyone's dating preferences. Even if it did become socially unnacceptable to say you aren't attracted to a certain race people would just lie about their preferences but still avoid dating the people they find undesirable.
  • vishna
    I think it's batshit but more selection for me <3
    I 100% agree with this "By declaring that you won’t date a certain race implies that you think a certain race has something universally in common that you don’t like" and this is messed up because there is so much diversity within each ethnicity. Basically it's like, if it's not white, Indian, black, etc it's not right. And that is prejudiced.
    i think those of us who are not brainwashed by the media are often driven by primordial instinct which has to do with genetics.

    i know that i've only ever gotten wet when i saw and was near certain men who all happened to be east Asian. that has never happened to me with men from any other race and i lived in a western country for many years.

      i didn't have any bad or traumatic experiences with other races of men, i just wasn't attracted so i didn't feel like doing anything with them so i followed my instinct. my father is caucasian and i love my father more than anything and we've always been close. that's why i'm secure enough to know what i want and follow it.

  • Chrysis
    So it makes me racist I prefer pale skin a lot over not-pale skin? Doesn't matter where a person is from- if they're not pale, the chance I might be attracted to them drops significantly.

    But well, if this makes me racist... then I guess I am? Lol.
    • This is just more SJW crap designed to antagonize and divide. Because of this BS if you still say you have a sexual preference you can be attacked as racist. A powerful attack for the left and as contrived as anything.

  • EpicDweeb
    So... let me ask you this... if you don't like red hair are you likely to consider dating and are you likely to fall in love with a red head? No? Is that then assuming that there's something all red heads have in common? No two people are the same so... obviously that's racist against people with red hair right? Now let me ask... if a white girl only finds black guys attractive... is she racist?

    Do you see where the logic falls apart? Racism refers to perceiving someone as genetically superior or inferior based on certain physical traits. If a girl only finds black guys attractive that must mean she sees other guys as unattractive so... based on a certain physical trait, she has concluded that white guys are inferior to black guys right?

    Say there are two girls I'm considering asking on a date. Say one has black hair and the other has red hair... now let's say I ask the red head on a date because I don't think black hair is very attractive... is that racism? It's a defining physical trait and I've decided to make a judgement based on it. Am I racist for it? Maybe I am, maybe I'm not, but no one would ever assume that I am.

    I think the only reason to assume racism is because that's the context of the world we live in. History has displayed racism so we assume people are still just plain racist (and obviously some people are), but... if a girl thinking she doesn't want to date skinny or fat guys isn't racist because she wants her guy to be buff, then in what way is she be racist for thinking a black guy is more attractive than a white guy? I'm using this specific example because it's harder to argue against. Obviously there are probably white people who will only date white people because they truly have something against anyone who doesn't share their ethnicity, but to say it's objectively racist to have skin color, or ethnic preferences in terms of what one finds attractive is naive at best and foolish at worst. If you can't say I'm racist for liking redheads more than brunettes, then you can't say I'm racist if I prefer black girls either.

    Now to clairify... again there are obviously those who claim "racial preference" when really they're just racist... there will also be people to call those who just have an ethnic preference racists for doing so. Never make such a broad judgement if you're trying to fix an issue... precision is the difference between a butcher and a surgeon.
  • RolandCuthbert
    I don't know if they are necessarily racist now. They might be weird, nonsensical and stupid. But racist?

    I say this because a lot of folks do not know what race is or how it is actually defined. So I kind of give them the benefit of the doubt. They really do not mean race, they may mean they are not attracted to certain phenotypes.

    There are plenty of "White" women here who may not be attracted to dark skinned men. But maybe they lighter skinned African-Americans are okay. Someone like Jesse Williams.

    Or take for instance, me, I can't say I am attracted to very pale skinned women. I am just not. Now unlike other folks, if I had found a woman who was really special, I would have to look past skin color. I just would find it hypocritical to dismiss a woman who had a personality that I was strongly attracted to.

    But I know all about simply not being attracted to a certain look.

    As for people who actually are trying to use the weird crazed standard of race of deciding attractiveness well. . . okay maybe they are racist.

    But I think the vast majority of folks who talk about racial preferences are just ignorant and really mean skin color or phenotypical traits.

    Get me?

    Jesse Williams. . .100% brother.
    • No skin color bias is more within men. Women aren’t crazed over looks like men are. In Michigan a majority of dark skin black men are with mostly white thicker women here. With children. I rarely see light skin black males with white women unless he’s mix.

      Don’t get how some of the black men that bash they race don’t want black women and look for black women genetic features in white women. That would be bias and colorism and also a dumb ass preference.

      But colorism is mostly place in males. Men are more visual then women

    • @LoveableBreak Madam, there are plenty of "Black" men who love "Black" women. Maybe what you are talking about is possible among young "Black" American men. I have met a few here who are kind of messed up in the head when it comes to race and culture. But all I can do is seek to educate.

      Jesse Williams is a "Black". . . young one. He was married to a "Black" woman and has two children. They are separating now, but I think my point is proven.

      As for men and women in general. You are wrong again, women definitely have "racial" preferences when dating. It just works differently. Asian American women are almost as likely to marry a "White" man as they are to marry an Asian man.

    • I know that black men love black women and yes the younger generation are more likely to see colorism but when men are older most of them start to go by personality and not just looks itself plenty of guys I grew up with were so sure they wanted a fine light skin thick mix chick. Happen to marry a dark skin skinny beauty so attraction exsist yes but sometimes love over powers those racial attractions no one ever knows when their preference changes or anything

      I think the post created itself is dumb we are humans and we attract what we attract to rather it’s certain races or not to me attraction isn't stabilized

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  • heavensgift2girls
    It is 100% okay to have any standards you want, when it comes to who you choose to let touch your genitals. Trying to shame people by accusing them of being being racist for their preferences, is not going to change those preferences. If anything, these false racist accusations, are starting to make people stop caring about being called a racist. If everything is racist, then nothing is racist. Quit trying to control the sex lives of everyone else around you.

    This is no different than only dating people that share a religion or political outlook that you find compatible. Would you find it acceptable to shame Muslim women into sleeping with men outside of her religion as well? Maybe you could organize a protest against such women to ruin her reputation and make her lose her job, until she decides to give it up to some atheist guy to prove she isn't a bigot.

    It comes across as really rapey to suggest that women should not be allowed to have full choice over the kind of guys they date, which is exactly what you are doing right now.

    Even if it was racist not to date certain races, and I don't believe it is, so what? Even if you could prove that it is a form of racism, that particular form of racism, would be more of a technicality, than some horrible wrong that needs to be fixed. The civil rights movement had nothing to do with shaming people into having sex with people they didn't want to have sex with, because it simply is not an issue that needs to be addressed.

    If a woman doesn't want to date me because of my race, I am not so pathetic that I would attempt to shame her into dating me by calling her a racist. She wouldn't be violating my rights at all. No one owes me a relationship, just like I don't owe her a relationship. It isn't like they are refusing to hire me, or that they are using violence against me. In fact I knew a woman that didn't want to date men of my race, that I was still friends with. It simply isn't an issue.
  • ScarletAngelic
    No, I don't think it is. Though not everyone in a race looks the same. Each race does have certain characteristics that are different from one another., and I do have preferences for certain races, like I prefer Asians for their cute body types and faces as well as white people because I find pale skin attractive, but occasionally there will be an acceptation, like a really cute dark skinned girl. I'm just more drawn to certain races.
  • maiave
    For me, I am not attracted to Indian men. Not just because of the way they look, but the whole country and their beliefs and how they treat people. That doesn't make me racist since I still respect them but just wouldn't date them.
    • Gypsy_x

      It does indeed make you racist, because you are stereotyping half a billion people. If not racist, ita ignorant and intolerant.

    • anniisa

      Lol what are their beliefs?

    • So what you're saying is that all Indians are backward savages with an inferior disposition?

      Any you say you're not racist?

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  • MikeAndMolly
    You completely missed addressing anyone who's racial dating preferences didn't include the word "all," implied or otherwise. I think the problem you're addressing isn't very common the way that you address it, and you're argument is basically against a straw-man you constructed.

    There are plenty of very, VERY attractive women of all colors and ethnicities. I don't think it's fair to call me racist because I objectively recognize that I have a preference for lighter skin tones (to a certain point) and certain physical proportions that are more common among white women than woman of most other colors and ethnicities.

    I don't care what race you are. But how you smell and how you look affect how attracted I am to you. I didn't decide that.

    The question you should really be addressing is, does it make me racist if it turns out that the smells and looks I find most attractive are much more common among white women than among the woman of most other races?

    What if I've figured that out about myself, and I use racial language to help describe the phenomenon, not as a rule for its own sake (I. E. I'm not attracted to black people) but rather as a general observation (I. E. Hey, turns out I'm not attracted to many black people).

    I think most people mean to describe their preferences not based really on socially constructed categorization, but end up using racial language because it happens to generally correspond (in many but not all cases) to their natural preferences.

    I'd be very interested to hear whether people think that the sort of racial dating preferences that ACTUALLY EXIST for most people are racist.
  • Random_1
    You say "Race is a social Construct" (which I happen to agree with, by the way). Then you say that anyone whose attraction to others is based on race is racist. Do you see that if race is a social construct, so is being racist? Being "racist" is simply to discriminate against someone based on their race. If race doesn't truly exist, then being racist cannot either. And the word "racist" has taken on such an ugly, knee-jerk reaction effect that it is counter-productive to having intelligent discourse. Let's just use "discrimination." It widens the net, and is just as true:

    Discrimination is the treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person based on the group, class, or category to which the person is perceived to belong rather than on individual attributes. For or against.

    Modern psychology has determined that people in general tend to be attracted to others who are like themselves, with men taller than women. Tend to, but it is not absolute. Sometimes people are attracted specifically to someone because they are different; it makes them interesting, exciting, exotic, whatever. But this is not just for physical appearance, it is for all the types of discrimination.

    To say that everyone of any group, class, or category is the same is an over-generalization, and over-generalizations are hardly ever accurate. However, there might be some commonalities. The culture of the U. S. is very different from the culture of, say, China, or Iran. Most Americans will share cultural norms, and in some ways will be different than all Chinese, or Iranians, who have their own cultures. And each has its own sub-cultures.

    "Race" really used to come from nationalities, where cultures were different. The U. S. was a mix of many immigrants from many places, creating subcultures. These subcultures, "racially" different or not, might have different beliefs, behaviors, and practices. Some could include food choices, personal hygiene practices, clothing choices, all of which could also affect the sense of smell. All these various things could make them more, or less, attractive to others. Differences can be good, or bad.

    And, it is still true that if a "race" has genetics that tend to make the man shorter than the woman, the woman have more masculine features, or eye shape or skin/hair color different, it can affect attraction. Finally, prejudices based on ignorance can hamper attraction. Exposure and knowledge can allow it to flourish.
  • MayBlythe
    I didn't even need to read this, the truth is its not racist even in the slightest because dating is SUPPOSED to be discriminatory, I'm sorry but you're gonna have to accept that
  • WynterWarrior
    The stance is foolish. Nobody is obligated to date or have sex with anybody.
    It is wrong to force homosexuals to have heterosexual sex. It is wrong to force heterosexuals to have homosexual sex.
    But what makes it insidious is the coercion being used to force others into sex and dating.

    You have the likes of Riley Dennis that pushes the: Not having sex and dating trannies makes you a transphobe. message.
    Then you have others that pushed the August Ames pornstar to suicide. Bullying her on social media and branding her a homophobe for not wanting to do a porn scene with a bisexual male pornstar that has had sex with men.

    Now they are people like you that push the: fuck or date X person or you are a racist.

    Race is real. Not a social construct but an observable reality. The ethnic groups are different to each other. Hell Anthropologists are able to tell the ethnicity gender age and more of people from their remains bones and skeletons when old graves and ruins are discovered.

    Final point. People do not have to fuck or date you. Deal with rejection like everyone else and move on.
  • Electric_Dreams
    No. Employment is supervised by civil rights laws. It is illegal to discriminate against an employee or potential employee because of their race. There is no legitimate argument to be made for personal preference, or say.. sexual attraction, concerning how people are treated based on race in employment.

    Sexual attraction however cannot be racist, unless it is blatantly caused by a racist attitude or mindset. For example a person who will say something like "I ain't gonna' have sex with a n** no way!" even though they may actually be sexually attracted to black people, would be making a conscious decision to racially discriminate in their sex life.

    If it is unintentional, not at all a choice or a conscious decision, then it is not racist. It is simply a case of someone not finding a certain race attractive. I am very rarely attracted to non-caucasian girls, and I detest racism. MLK jr. is one of my idols. The guy was an absolute inspiration. It so happens though that my sexual preference is a pale skinned lass, with dark hair and blue eyes. Very rarely I may find myself sexually attracted to black girls who have that beautiful chocolate coloured skin (chocolate love), similarly so for latinas and Native Americans. This is very rare occasions that I'm attracted to these races, and never anything else. I am not attracted to Asians at all.

    I am not racist. I have a sexual preference.

  • inlovewiththesun
    I need to disagree with you in that point. If homosexual people aren´t attracted to the other gender, are they automatically against this gender? of course not. Same thing with the race thing. I´m not into black guys, or southern types. It´s just not my type and if I had they choice between two good looking guys, one black, one white (only concidering their apprearance), I´d choose the white guy. We can literally not choose who we are attracted to, it´s nothing our brain controls. We cannot change it, period. (still, only considering people´s apprearance)
    • JDavid25

      Race is a social construct though.. Whereas we are naturally attracted to a certain "gender"..

    • radovid

      @JDavid25 No, that's nonsense. Just because race is a social construct doesn't change the fact that people of the different races look distinctly different with overtly different facial features, hair and body proportions. All blacks have Afro-type hair, so if someone doesn't' like Afro hair, they will never date blacks and won't want to pass that hair onto their children.

    • @JDavid25

      So if race is a social construct, how can you be racist?

  • LoveableBreak
    Don’t agreee sorry, if you find your own race only attractive it’s an normal attraction. Dosent mean racist it’s just preferences and If your a person who find all races attractive (most guys r like this that I know lol) then they just find every race attractive.

    With that being said, I LOVE MY RACE and only date my race because I am attracted to my race only but that’s just my personal attractive and prefence.
    • Well Said!!!

    • JDavid25

      There is no "own race".. It's a group of people who happen to share physical attributes with you.. It's not natural cause you ain't actually born with it.. LOL.

    • @JDavid25 oh stop with the bullshit, you know what I mean if that was the case racism wouldn’t be exsisted. I don’t care I prefer what I prefer I am attracted to my own race there is different groups of people in that case white and blacks are the same people. I am not against interracial dating or anything I don’t even mind trying other races but my main attraction is my own race just like most guys like lighter skin toned women or some like darker women what’s the difference? I can’t like what I like?

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  • lilaqua
    I do disagree with you to an extent. I've always found that the distinction is actually this: If you're just not generally attracted to people of a certain race then there's nothing wrong, it's a preference, but if you are attracted to someone but won't date them for the sole reason of their race that's actual racism. Telling someone they have to be attracted to someone they're not is kind of ridiculous.
  • godfatherfan
    You are completely full of shit. Sorry, but you sound like one of those people that try and find racism in anything and everything even though you have never actually experienced it in your life. I only date white women. I don't find any others attractive in a sexual way at all. I have no issue with them as women. I would be friends and have friends of all races. not racist, despite your racist comments.
  • BonnieBunny
    I'll just explain this in an analogy

    Say you love ice cream. All flavors. If it's ice cream, you'll love it.
    But let's say that of you were given the option to pick between flavors. You pick vanilla. Everyone gets upset because vanilla is a basic flavor. But you prefer vanilla. That doesn't mean you don't love all the other ice cream less, you just prefer a few flavors more than the others.
    • markxcds

      I can't believe you are comparing this to ice cream, you just want vanilla ice cream don't you.

  • silverqueen
    You’ve compared two very different things. Work and attraction towards a person.

    If a person doesn’t want to work with someone because they’re Asian (or of any other race), there is already a prejudice held by that person; they might think Asians are (for example) too annoying, too picky, too whatever. THAT is when it’s racism. When you think one trait (especially a negative one) applies to the whole race.

    When we’re talking about attraction, it is totally different. Firstly you can’t choose who you’re attracted to. Secondly, every race has a “general appearance”, otherwise they wouldn’t be categorized as Asian, Black, White, etc. If the world really was as diverse as you portray it to be, there wouldn’t be racial differences at all. But they are. Because different races have distinct features, that the rest of the people within that race share. Some people are simply not attracted to these general features.

    Simple as that.
  • Cosytoasty
    I refuse to believe anyone who says an entire race is physically unattractive, it’s simply untrue and impossible. Which means people associate race very strongly with culture... and having a cultural preference is NOT racist.

    I will not date a Muslim for example because I do not like religion or more specifically their religion. But there are seriously attractive Muslim women out there.
  • NeglectedChild
    It depends.
    If you say you don't or won't date a certain race because you find that entire race to be unattractive then that is racist or prejudice because like you said you're generalising.

    But if say you don't find a certain quality such as skin colour desirable or you have a higher preference of some qualities over others purely on an aesthetic basis and assuming you've not been conditioned into having those preferences then that isn't necessarily racist.

    Race is not objective, we just made it up and it's definitions are constantly changing. Mexicans were once considered to be white in the US for example. Some Eastern Europeans and Central Asians are considered black in Russia.

    You can't deny the commodification of certain ethnic groups (just look at porn categories) and also the subsidisation and elevation of Eurocentric standards of beauty. So called "white" features are seen as superior to others, thanks to colonialism and imperialism, it's why people bleach their skin and put toxic chemicals in their hair.

  • Justacatlady
    Interesting. I had always thought it was just a preference but I do like the points you've made here.
  • bellybuttonlint
    This is an example of an SJW who was probably rejected by white women.

    Sorry bud, but people are free to pick who they want to be with... it is no different than picking the color of your outfit. It's just a preference... not a treatment or another race.
  • Johvendi
    Not necessarily. Automatically assuming that someone who isn't attracted to say black girls is racist, is in my opinion racist, not the fact that they're not attracted to black girls. I only see women, no race. Some people don't like blondes, tall girls, pale girls, tanned girls, big chested, small chested, black girls, Asian, white girls,... We all have our preferences, it's not because some one has a preference for a certain colour of skin, that that person is racist. You don't call a person who doesn't like brunettes a "brunettist" either, so why would you call a person who doesn't like a certain race purely from the esthetic, taste, pov, a racist.
    I for one am usually not attracted to coloured girls, but from time to time I see a black, Asian,... girl who's looks just blow me away.
    BUT, if some one's racial dating preferences are solely based on the fact that some one has a certain colour of skin, regardless of the fact that they like her/him, think that person is beautiful or not. That's racist.
    So if someone from another race turns you down, don't just assume that (s) he's racist. Chances are that that's not the case. You might wrongfully judge someone, which isn't nice and you'd needlessly make yourself sad by thinking everyone's a racist.
  • Elise_Art
    It's a fine line in my opinion, you aren't obliged to be attracted to someone you aren't attracted to. The reason however, I wouldn't say "because he's black" because that is every black person. Writing off the entire race. I think it's acceptable if you keep it to the individual, just like people here (Netherlands) prefer a tan skin over very light skin.

    I also think it shouldn't be a deal breaker, looks are definitely not everything.
  • readywriter
    This racist word is just used to support personal conclusions and to try labeling someone you disagree with as a evil person. Lets get something strait. Almost all of the assumptions made in this take are opinions. A keep homosexual practitioners out of this. Gender is a element of any species. It is not a race specific item. As a an example, will you allow me as a black man to be raciest if I say that I prefer women with light colored hair, blue and green eyes, a nose brow that is narrow and thin lips. I when I date I seek these women, who will most like be white or some olive skinned races? Do I have to be anti black to just prefer what does it for me?
    My buddy Bill, says that he likes women with a big booty. And he means big. He is very black in color and he only likes very black woman with big butts. He says that there are no white woman who could ever please him and he never wasted his time. If that is racist, it doesn't seem malicious. Even in nature differing species will not mate with albino of its own herd. They prefer not. I have racial preferences and while I may work with you I may not want your personal gene traits in my pool. But it doesn't mean I am against your race. Certainly the Jewish people have racist attitudes in many regards. But I would not be hurt if Orthodox Jews believe I am racially unacceptable to continue their gene pool. This is enough. I am sick and tired of people trying to start a fight about race when there is so much to agree about. Always race. Find a new topic. The world is not against you.
  • PellakaWurm
    I disagree with almost everything in here.
    - Not everyone of a certain race looks the same - while this is true there are some features that they share which can be the reason why someone doesn't want to date someone.
    - Not everyone is same - this is the same point as the first one right?
    - Race is a social Construct, Not Genetical - this is false. it is your genetic make up that determines what you are. from your skin colour to your tailbone structure it is all in your dna.
    - Our Selection isn't "Natural - we are born with a natural instinct to take the best possible mate. as we mature we develop our own interest and point of views, from this point on the best mate is one that fits best with our point of view. so selection is natural, it just narrows as we grow older.

    in the end I think the most hurtful thing is that calling things like this racist is actually normalizing racism. if you want to stop (not possible but we can lower it) racism, stop talking about it. don't freak out over things like preference and the f-ing H&M ad. be angry at the person who calls for genocide of certain group of people, call them racist, homophobic, sexist and shit. stop freaking out over the smaller things.
  • screwup32
    If choose Black or white OVER black or White makes you racist...
    Then choosing men or women OVER men or women... is sexist!!!

    Racism is a word that is used FAR too much recently!!!

    if you prefer skinny over fat, or fat over skinny... Does that make you a bitch or a jerk?

    The only thing we really need to be concerned with when it comes to sexual preference is " adult or child"

  • cavmanier
    "So why do we accept it when people say, “I’m not really into Arab girls”?"

    I don't understand why you want to control other peoples sexual interests. That reminds me of churches 50 years ago with homosexuals.

    Who other people want to love and have sex with isn't your business, regardless of why they feel that way. You're using the extremely overused racist label to try to get your way.
  • HungLikeAHorsefly
    Regardless of whether it's a social construct or not, people do not choose who they are sexually/romantically attracted to. If you were to say "I don't date black guys" because you think all black guys are thugs, then that'd be racist. If you don't date black guys because you don't find people with black skin attractive, well I don't think I could fault someone for that.

    * Just using black people as an example here; it could apply to anyone.
  • taylor1098
    I don't think it's racist. I'm African and I am always attracted to white guys mainly but once in a while some African boys catch my eyes. it is just my preference.
  • AynonOMouse
    Then if you aren't all bisexual, you must be sexist. And if you don't have sex with animals, you are prejudice against animals.
    Such a nonsense opinion. Having preferences isn't racist. I'm not attracted to Asians either, but I am friends with them.
    But when I say I'm not attracted to Blacks, then OH NO! Must be racist if it is anything that doesn't support/favor Blacks.
    This is such BS.
    • N192K001

      Exactly what I was thinking!

      Not everyone is a zoophile or a bisexual, which I'm sure they'd still consider sexist since they tend to believe there are more sexes than 2. They probably want us humping anything that moves, plus plants.

  • SinghSong
    Next up- "Yes, Sexual Dating Preferences Are Sexist". Because "Not everyone of a certain Sex looks the same!", "Not everyone is same!", "Sex is a Social Construct, Not Genetical!", and "Our Selection isn't 'Natural'!" And the award for the most retardedly redundant Shit-Take of the Week goes to...
  • AndyOh
    I totally disagree with you. I am fine with every race. I have worked with and been supervised by people of all different races. I have friends of all different races as well. And every one of them I treat as a friend and family.
    But, I reserve the right to have a preference as to who I will date and be intimate with.
    How you treat people and who you prefer to date are really separate kinds of views.
  • FatherJack
    Who else here , and in general life , is SICK of " RACIST " being constantly thrown around , nearly always aimed at those of European extraction. I have friends of many races , attraction is totally different , I believe this is hard wired... I have always had a liking for the Mediterranean / Latina type look since I was a child , my ex wife is of Italian descent and my daughter looks a little Latina lady.
    • Rissyanne

      The word racist doesn't mean what it suppose to. Liberals misuse it all the time.

  • Afrochick
    I wouldn't consider it racist...

    But I feel like people hide behind the word "preference" most of the times.
    • sexxxyboy

      I like black girls, but sometimes their pussies are loose because they have had too much BBC.

  • Topaz171
    I disagree. You can’t force attraction nor can you help who you’re attracted to.
    • jacquesvol

      @Topaz171 if that atttraction is motivated by racism it's racist.

    • Topaz171

      @jacquesvol so saying I’m not as attracted to black guys than I am white would make me racist?

    • Topaz171

      @jacquesvol but I see what you’re saying tho by the way.

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  • Guardian412
    Sorry kid, but you can't enforce and tell people who to love. This is what you SJW idiots can't realize. Love works different way. It won't ever work the way you psycho whiney snowflakes want.
  • Wolframium
    Anonymous and stupid. So…trolling?
    If not: So you say I'm racist, when I'm attracted only pale skin, tall, skinny, long-haired girls. OK.
    I'm sorry, am I supposed to care about your opinion? You must've mistaken me with someone who cares.
  • FakeName123
    Typical authoritarian left-wing mentality.

    It is still buffling to me how authoritarian mindsets are only associated with right-wing ideologies when the majority of dictatorships in the last 100 years were left-wing ones.

    Honestly - if you think I am racist for my preferences than I am a proud racist and don't give a shit.
  • JDavid25
    I agree with you entirely.. Although I don't think every person who has "racial preferences" are racist, but that those type of "preferences" are most likely based upon racism.. This goes over most people's head as they think they can't help who they've considered attractive for much of their lives.. But you can help it, even if it takes a while.. People don't realize how messed up in our ideals this society made us..
    • radovid

      That's rubbish. People don't have to have biracial children if they don't want to. It doesn't matter if they have racist reasons for it. Their reasons are irrelevant. Do you want every white couple to go to court and explain to a judge why they are in a same race relationship as opposed to dating blacks and making mixed babies? I bet you do. This whole argument over whether sexual preference is racist is just a way to intimidate white women into sleeping with blacks and browns.

    • JDavid25

      @radovid I didn't say people had to have anything.. Ain't nothin wrong with two "White" people bein together.. IDC... I'm sayin that people are seein it the wrong way based off the racist ideology of race period.. People are so focused on "race" when it comes to datin that it's ridiculous.. And I don't care about sleepin wit "White" women.. LOL.. I love all women, or human women period.. I'm just sayin that ultimately racial preference is or can be a result of somethin stemming from racism..

  • NerdInDenial
    A preference is not an absolute exclusion. It just means there are certain attributes a certain person has attraction towards. Is it wrong to not like Asians if you do not find almond eyes attractive? It’s not. It’s natural to select your mate based on physical attributes.
  • SweedyPie
    I agree 1000%
    'Preference' my a$$
    Hiding under that word, said with respect to an entire race...
    Is blatant Racism.

    How can an entire race be unattractive? No two people are exactly alike, even twins! Personalities differ regardless of the color of skin as well as bodily features. To me it says a lot about a person who makes such statements. I don't judge, I just understand where their minds are. And your last point hit the nail on the head. Society has taught people to think certain ways, to have particular perceptions of what is beautiful for decades. So the people who deny it, I feel some pity for, they do not even realize they have been 'brainwashed'. It is a sad but true phenomenon but at the same time we know and understand that ignorance is bliss. Smh. I hope that time brings them wisdom.
    • Kkaos

      Every race has certain features that are distinct to that race. Some people might not be attracted to those features. Pretty simple.

      Nor is someone's personal attraction anyone else's business.

    • Guanfei

      Cry me a river. No one will ever foce me to date anyone I don't want. Don't like it? Well too bad for you, sweetheart.

    • SweedyPie

      @Guanfei Actually nobody will be crying any rivers here hahaha. I don't know what made you think you're the most wanted commodity on earth lmfao. I simply made an objective and truthful statement. Which also has proof, actual evidence to back it up. Get over yourself man.

      I feel sorry for your lack of education about this matter. Which I also mentioned in my response "people don't realize they have been brainwashed" Good luck with life! :)

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