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I'm dating a girl. We doesn't call ourself girlfriend and boyfriend It's too early for that.

We have been on several dates. But she already thinks I'm too fat. Well she doesn't say the word fat. But she gives me hints she think i'm too fat. Like "I think you eat too much food.", "You would be a great santa claus.", "Maybe you should have one or two days per week when you don't eat any food."

This girl is skinny and yes I am a little bit overweight. I am trying to loose weight but it's not easy. And the eval words from her mouth are not helping.

We started talking to each other on Facebook, before we met each other for the first time She had (and still have) many pictures with great texts. Like "age and height and weight are just numbers."
She already knew when we met I was not skinny. She was fine with that. But it's easy saying that on internet.

All of her ex boyfriends are skinny.

She said I'm the most adorable and wonderful guy in the world, really funny guy who makes her laugh. When we are not together she said she miss me a lot. But we are only seeing each other one day per week. I don't think she miss me as much she saying. We living in the same city and can see each other anytime we wants.

I want to have sex with her, but she doesn't want that now. She wants to wait until we are official boyfriend and girlfriend. I think she only saying that because I doesn't turn her on.

Yes I can keep loosing weight but it's not easy. And I don't want to be skinny as her old boyfriends. But she like skinny guys. I actually don't know why she wants to be with me. Sure she likes my personality. But I wants to turn her on.

She always had skinny boyfriends. I am the first guy she's with who is a little bit overweight. But she doesn't want to have sex with me. And I don't like how she talking to me about my weight.

One side of me is saying "date another girl who likes you as you are." and one side is saying "date her and see if I can turn her on."

When I was younger, if I met a girl, I was either immediately attracted to her or it was never going to happen. She did not need to open her mouth and say one word for me to know. I just looked at her and I knew I was physically attracted or I knew I was not physically attracted. Of course, physical attraction is only one part of a relationship and there was much else to discover.

As I got older, I actually dated a woman to whom I did not feel an immediate physical attraction and after dating for a few months, I realized that I was strongly attracted to her. When I looked at her, I realized that most other guys would not consider her to be attractive, but I thought she was cute and I wanted a physical relationship with her. Ultimately, the relationship failed but not because of the physical attraction.

Have you ever dated anyone to whom you did not feel an immediate physical attraction? Did that attraction develop over time?