I’m going to make this as simple as possible. A lot of guys may disagree, but this is what I learned from dating super hot 10’s. It’s fair to ask how I got to date super 10’s, the answer is rather simplistic. I was a photographer who worked in the modeling industry, so I met a lot of hot girls on the regular. But, that is not what this is about.
I read a lot of questions referring to looks, or “do hot guys/girls…” and see repeating opinions left saying that guys need money to get the beautiful girls. That has to be the most shallow opinion left on those questions. Seriously the comments left look like:
A worthwhile opinion
There are a lot of other opinions/comments left about women that are also shallow, if not outright offensive.
So, I’m going to shed a bit of light on what it is like to date the super hot 10’s, and what life looks like for some models and actresses. More than likely a lot of guys are not going to like this take because they are not going to be able to take the bubble burst of reality I’m about to inject into their universe.
First I’m going to explain that models don’t make a whole lot of money. Unless, they really make it in the industry, and come in demand they, make next to nothing. On average they might make $75 per shoot. If they get regular bookings they might take home $1,500 a month. That kind of money is actually considered being somewhat successful in the industry, if they are booked regularly. Most of the girls are referred to as slash models. Meaning she is a model/waitress, or model/temp worker, or model/bottle service girl. Their life is super crazy dealing with agents, work, and maybe school. Not to mention every guy under the sun trying to get with them.
Now I’m mainly talking about models, but it’s not much different for some (SOME) 10’s that are out there who are not in fashion or acting. The girls who are models come with a cost to keep up their looks. It doesn’t really stem from their insecurities, it come from idiot agents and photographers and other girls telling them what they ‘need’ to do to get more work. A girl I dated for a while had a cost of about $3,500 a month to keep her looks up to the “standard” her agency suggested. That was an average cost, without any surgeries.
Think about this for a second. She underwent procedures that included the risk of death, a slight risk, but still a risk, to maintain her looks every month. That $3,500 was the cost of a regular month, not a big event. A big event cost even more. Risk of death to look good, for the possibility of maybe, maybe, getting more work, and maybe being discovered.
Also, most of the models think that age 30 is the death age. They will go to sleep at 29 being a hot 10, and when they wake up the next day at age 30 they will look like Yoda from Star Wars. Some of the models think age 25 is the age in which looks takes a dive. I’ve also realized it’s not much different for the some (SOME) of the 10’s who are not in the industry.
The Money And Girls
A lot of guys on here think money is what it takes to get the super hot 10 girl. In one regard it does hold a micro-truth. The reason is because some of these girls need a way to get money in order to survive. However, if you talk to these girls you will find out they don’t like the guy. Most of them actually despise the guy, but stay with him only because he is their primary source of support. Sounds shallow, but she is doing what she needs to do in order to attain the dream that that she sees is within arms reach. I am not saying she is trading sex for money. She is relying on his generosity to meet her financial needs.
Why do they hate, or despise guys with money? Well, lets look at who they end up with on a regular basis.
Guys with money who treat them as trophy, are boring, insecure, care more about their reputation than her, and in basic terms just acting like he owns her. But, she stays because she actually needs the money, the support, and she hates every second of it.
Guys who are good looking who dumps her at a moments notice for the next girl who catches his attention.
In either case, she’s left worse off than before she met him. She now has find a place to stay, and figure out how to pay all her bills.
Sometimes you find a lot of these girls will live together in some of the worst dives imaginable. Scraping by on whatever cash they can pool together. Ask them about the life, and they would say they wish they could do it different, but this is where they pay their dues. Surviving off mac-and-cheese, going to modeling classes, working a shit job, getting procedures done, hoping the next gig gets them noticed.
Hopefully, I am showing you that these super 10 girls lives are not all roses and champagne like most guys seem to think. Then you get what I call the “guy catch.”
The “guy catch” is when a guy goes to school and slugs it out for four years in a university trying to get a degree while working his fingers to the bone trying to pay for the education. He looks at this girl working as a bar tender a few hours a night at a college town bar taking home a few grand in tips on a decent night. He then gets pissed because she is making money because of her good looks, then gets jealous of her because she really isn’t “working.” But, he, along with every other guy, wants to be with her. To him, and “average” girls, her life looks so easy.
What that guy doesn’t realize is this super 10 girl is acutely aware that every year she is getting one year closer to death age. Every year guys don’t pay attention to her as much. Every year her income, based off her looks, goes down. Every year it takes more to maintain her looks. She knows that if she stays in the cycle of relying on her looks, she will become more and more dependent upon some guy supporting her later in life, than being able to support herself.
This choice of relying on her looks to make a living makes her feel like her life is out of control. She literally feels that she has no control over her own life, and it gets worse as she gets older. A guy can go work a little harder to make more money. These super 10’s can’t get more attractive, and a 10 to one guy is a 6 the next guy. So, she has to rely on some guy to earn more money for her. It’s a screwed up way to live. But, this is a reality for a lot of the models guys on here pine over.
So, now you know some of the realities some of these super 10 girls live. If you want to take it in for yourself, just go to the Mecca of model and actress heaven - Los Angeles, California. I lived just south of there for 6 years doing semi-consistent fashion photography. Hit up the Skybar, Lure, Sayers Club, Emerson, or Greystone Manor over a weekend. Dress well, and have a wad of cash. Bottle service is required at many of these places, if you make it past the front door.
I’m not saying these super 10 girls are stupid, or shallow. Many, if not most, are highly intelligent. The shallow one’s don’t last very long as the industry will chew them up quickly, and discard them even faster. The intelligent one’s who eek out a meager existence in the industry will have some sort of higher education degree, or trade skill. The problem is a double edge sword of getting a regular decent paying career in that education field or trade, and meeting the demands of the industry. The irregular travel, photo shoot scheduling, set calls, and everything else required to be a model or actress makes it near impossible. Many try, but eventually have to make a decision between their dream, and a regular job.
There is also another consideration you need to take into account when dating a model or actress. Can you handle their lifestyle? Pick your favorite actress then ask yourself if you can handle her occupation. Most of you might say “Hell yeah I can.” Really? You can handle four months prep work, three months filming, a month of post production, a month of promotion, multiple film premier parties, and another few weeks of post premier promotion. All done, all over the world. Flying from city to city for single day events. Sometimes multiple cities per day. Don’t forget the magazine interviews, and photo shoots. Also, the fact you may not be able to attend all of this stuff with her. The meetings, fittings, and people calling at all hours. Oh, and don’t forget the paparazzi popping up to snap a few candid photos.
What if she has a kissing scene, a nude scene, or heaven forbid a sex scene? Your friends and family are going to see that. I was dating a pretty famous actress, at the time, while visiting my parents. I came into the living room and saw her on the television, and the very next scene was a full nude sex scene. There I am in the living room with my parents watching my girlfriend in a full nude sex scene, with another actor, with my mom and dad. The film was done before I met her, but it was quite shocking, and something I had not really considered. A few of my old school day friends also saw the movie, and had given me a hard time over it. At first I played it off like it was no big deal, but the razzing got old real quick.
Don’t think it’s much different for a model, it’s not. Imagine being at work and have one of your co-workers bring over a magazine ad with your girlfriend modeling barely there lingerie. Yep, I’ve had that done to me as well. It’s frustrating when they pin her picture up all over the office as some type of joke.
Now ask yourself again if you can handle the lifestyle that modeling and acting requires of her.
How to be her 10
Now that I got that part of reality out of the way. Here is the second dose.
Most guys want the super hot girl as some sort of validation. Show up to the high school reunion, or work party, with the hottest girl on his arm, and be able to say “yeah, and all of you who keep laughing at me can now suck it.” I know how it goes. I used to be that shallow, and then you grow up.
It’s great being a super hot girl. But, this weird thing happens about a month or so into being with her; she becomes a human being. You start to refer to her as your girlfriend as you notice her flaws, insecurities, quirks, and strange habits. She’s no longer this strange being sent from another dimensional plane of existence.
You realize that sex with her isn’t any better than sex with other girls. It could actually be worse. You realize dating her isn’t really any different than dating any other girl out there. Aside from the additional inconvenience of attending her required parties, and the drama between her and other girls, and the agents, and photographers. Oh, and don’t forget the drama of other guys constantly hitting on her at those parties.
Something I need to mention before I continue. If you are able to get a super 10 once, you can do it again. I need to mention this because it is a trap you can fall into. Don’t be that guy. You can be out with your girl and see another girl and realize that you could get her, if your girl wasn’t there. This normally happens when you actually get used to being surrounded with beautiful women. Don’t fall into that trap, it will destroy you mentally and emotionally.
If you are on the quest for the super hot 10, or really any woman, you need to be her breath of fresh air. To do this is very simple, but it does require effort on your part.
First thing you have to do is take inventory of yourself. You have to know that you can give her more value than she can give to you. Why? Because you need to offer emotional stability in her life. You need to be her sanctuary from all the crap she puts up with on a daily basis when you are not with her. In return, she will give you everything she has to offer. But, only if you are sincere in being her sanctuary.
To do this you have to be comfortable in your own skin. You know your strengths and weaknesses and you are comfortable with them. You don’t compromise your morals. You can be reasonable in negotiating a disagreement. You are able to actually listen to what she is saying.
What she wants is someone who will be there for her emotionally. Someone who is reliable, and trustworthy. Every guy under the sun tries to either impress her, or show her how big of a man he is. All she really wants is a guy she can talk to, and relate to on an intelligent level.
Second - This doesn’t mean you can walk up to any 8, 9, or 10 caveman style, and get the time of day with her. You need to put some effort into understanding grooming, style, and mannerisms. You are going to have withstand about 2-5 minutes of a gauntlet of shit tests from her and anyone she is with, before she is going to see you as someone of value, and someone who can handle her lifestyle. Now you see why I said you need to be comfortable in your own skin, and why I asked the lifestyle question.
Guys, you need to study up on grooming - everything. Walking up to a super 10 with the “style” hair cut coming from the latest pop star is going to get you laughed at. Pay attention your fingernails, learn how to properly trim and maintain your beard. You need to get grooming right if you expect to get within five feet of her.
You need to study up on style. This isn’t hard or difficult. There is a proper way to pull off jeans and t-shirts, and then there is the “is he still in high school” mistakes. If you are looking for the 8, 9, 10, or super 10’s and you don’t look like you have your shit together, she is going blow you out before you open your mouth. Especially if she is in the fashion industry. There are 30 other guys behind you, she isn’t going to waste time on a guy who can’t even dress himself. At least learn the basics. Most women, regardless of what number you assign them, are aware of how things go together.
Mannerisms are how you walk and talk. If people keep asking you repeat yourself in a quiet room, how is she suppose to hear you in a club, or at a party? If you can’t speak a sentence without using your hands, learn to stop using your hands. If every other word out of your mouth is um, or uh, practice taking pauses to collect your thoughts. If you walk hunched over, head down, or like you are bobbing in a pool, practice walking with an erect posture. These are extreme basics you should have. She doesn’t want a guy with the mannerisms of a meek little child.
Last is going to be paradigm shift for many guys if you have read this far. Get past her looks. She knows how she looks, she hears it all day, every day. If you are there just because of how she looks, she will know, and you will tossed aside just like the 100 guys before you. Be her breath of fresh air, be there because you genuinely want to know who she is. Do more by being with her, than she will by being with you.
When I say I don’t care what a girl looks like, I sincerely mean I don’t care. I went through my phase of going out with super 10’s. What I realized is going out with them wasn’t fundamentally different than dating a girl who is considered average. Truth be told, I would take a woman who is average and has the traits I’m looking for, than a super 10 with only half the traits.
Once you remove how the girl looks, you discover freedom. Looks are no longer intimidating. You are able to be yourself around every girl you meet. You are able to speak to women whenever and where ever you are. You are never at a loss of words because you see them as a person, and conversation simply flows. The girl is comfortable and she can open up to you and stop looking for ulterior motives as to why you are talking to her.
I’m not saying that looks don’t play any role. Yes, some type of physical attraction is present for any relationship. For myself, I just say she needs to be fit and healthy. That’s all I look for, if she fits that criteria I’m good. I have a few deal breakers, but we are talking in the realm of dog collars, and spikes through the nose.
Get past her looks, and just treat her like a human being. Realize that she is not fantasy, and dating a super 10 girl is no different than dating the girl down the street. There may be some additional quirks you are not used to, such as dealing with the nastiness girls can have in the industry, and how guys can be complete asses towards her. If you never dealt with it, get ready for it.
To get the girl, be her sanctuary from everyday life. That’s how you can be her 10.
I know I may have painted a pretty negative picture in this. As I said, this was my experience in dating models and actresses and seeing what many of them went through. Not every model or actress went through this, but many did. The pressures from agents, photographers, other girls in the industry, and expectations from guys in general is tremendous. The industry has gotten better about not pressuring, but it still has a long ways to go.
I do not mean to infer that every good looking girl goes out to get plastic surgery or other procedures. I also do not mean to say that good looking girls sell out just to get money. Not every model who dates guys for money is having sex with them. Most do not, and will not, trade sex for money. However, they do have to put up with the constant pressure for sex. I have seen girls get physically ill at just the thought of sex with their “boyfriend.” The reasons they do this vary, but it boils down to them getting what they need in order to survive in a low paying, high promise, cutthroat industry.