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On the Myers–Briggs test, I usually score around the intj & infp region. That makes sense, so nothing was too surprising on that. But on the big 5 test, I've taken it multiple times, and every single time, I scored high in conscientiousness. Which was very surprising to hear for the first time. 🤔 Because hearing about the habits of people high in conscientiousness is what made me think that I was low in it.

But I'm an odd one when it comes to this & I think I know why. Two things stand out to me the most. It's my high percentage of negative emotion (specifically anxiety) and my high percentage of introversion. If I wasn't high in neuroticism and so low in extraversion, I'd likely be more confident in my abilities and I'd likely have a more go-getter/productivity-driven aim towards the world. But since I don't, it affects my motivations & willpower.

So, in other words, I'm the civilized, competitive, & somewhat creative yet practical shy guy that isn't very people-oriented. I mainly prefer to be alone which limits my options. And my house is always organized even when I'm depressed (can't say the same for my room/office). 😂 I'll probably even have a workout schedule going or be intensely working on some creative endeavor. And even though I don't willingly ask for change, I'm moderately open to new experiences, so it's easier for me to cope with the changes if need be.

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In my scenario, my ex broke up with me after 3 years and is asking me where do we stand. We reached out on a call after one week of no contact. I'm too angry to decide because she went on tinder few days after and kissed a guy which she says she feels uncomfortable. I was disgusted and she says I gave her reason to do that because of emotional abuse or disregard her emotions in the relationship which I'm confident I listen fully and act like a psychologist. Every person recommends I should be a pyschologist of my good advice and listening. However my ex thinks I'm the worst for advice and I should be upset and react exaggeratively about a situation with her whereas I'm calm and optimistic person. I am angry at of our infrequent sex so sometimes I get a bit moody to be honest which wouldn't anybody if constantly rejected? Anyway I am considering coming back and fix everything but she is making everything my fault. But once we talked, she gave me 30+ reasons not a few why I'm horrible person and why she's hurt. And when I try communicate she shuts me off "no excuse". She also considers I need to therapy for my past behaviour. I honestly haven't done anything bad, I'm just like every couple with few arguments and maybe listen 90%. She throws keywords like gaslighting etc. Do you think I'm bad person or she is or are we both messed up?