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Tracey and I have been close since we were young and I consider her one of my best platonic female friends. If I understand what Tracey and her classmates will be thinking/feeling I think I’ll be able to walk in with more confidence that this won’t be a bad experience for them (and/or me). Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer.

Tracey and her boyfriend broke up a couple weeks ago and she needs a male model to bring to her waxing class. I was too overwhelmed to ask her any questions at the time but a video of a male Brazilian wax has me almost paralyzed with anxiety: Will I really be completely exposed from the waist down while being touched EVERYWHERE... ? Plus, she said I might be the only male cause others were having trouble finding willing models. That certainly doesn’t make me feel better.

Girls, wouldn’t this be MORE awkward to do to a close male friend than to a stranger? And God willing this won’t happen, but what if there’s some movement “down there” that I can’t stop because I’m so nervous? I’m a grower so I imagine every little twitch is pretty noticeable, but are girls curious about watching that happen? Will they even notice?

Will Tracey (or any of the other girls in the class) be offended if it does happen?

Will they think it’s because I’m aroused like some dirty lustful perv (do girls know erections can happen just from anxiety and nerves)? Would you be uncomfortable handling “it”?

Should I apologize for it, try to make a joke, or just ignore it and pray it goes back down? And then, what if it doesn’t the whole time?

A vindictive ex told me all girls think “growers” are gross and sad, even more so when growing. Is that true? I wish the whole thing could just be amusing and entertaining from their perspective. It makes me sad to think about how f-ed up men are to women and that in all likelihood some (hopeful not most!) will see this post as some kind of disgusting troll BS rather than an honest attempt figure myself out.

I started talking to this really awesome girl I knew from high school. We had instant chemistry and we were attracted as well. But they unfortunate part was she was a few hours away for school.
But during that time we got to know each other very well. She opened up about her relationship with her siblings and issues with her parents because she was the youngest and less successful. She also opened up about the hard relationship she had gotten out of 6 months prior.
We formed a better connection because of that, because I was in the same situation.
We were planning to get together during a two week break she had, but I wasn't able to get off work and her brother returned from the military and couldn't make the day's work.
But she had a month off a few weeks later so we just made it work. She kept saying she wished I was with her while she was up there.
But the day she came back down, I changed my schedule to get off early and I picked her up, but it didn't go well. She didn't say anything and asked to go home because of a migraine.
During the ride home, she said she wasn't as ready as she thought and said she needed more time to be over the old relationship. She insisted she liked me, I wasn't a rebound, and I was an amazing guy she wanted to be with. But she said she still didn't have closure and felt betrayed by her ex.
Perhaps I was too sympathetic, and I told her I understood and kissed her on the cheek. She gave me a big hug and looked very sad.
But she wasn't the same and would talk about her ex or be unkind to me. So after she snapped at me for asking how she was doing, I stopped talking to her.
I blocked her on social media and never heard from her.
Did she not actually care like she claimed? Was I truly a rebound?