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- Attraction is mostly emotional for a woman as long as she is open to dating in the first place and the guy doesn’t have huge initial red flags.
- She has to feel safe and comfortable around the guy to want to date him. A guy triggers this initially by making her laugh and relaxing her and then by being confident and internally strong.
- It takes time for her to fall in love with him. She has to go away and have space - Do I like him? How do I feel when with him? How do I feel when not with him?
- Having the confidence to communicate interest is also necessary. If a guy fixates on 1 girl and starts subtly chasing her without communicating interest confidently and clearly for weeks or months, it will kill any attraction as she wonders why you’re not making a move even though she can sense the guy likes her and she’ll assume you’re not interested or not confident enough to make a move.
- Girls are constantly subconsciously judging and testing even guy friends. He has to remain internally strong and masculine and continue to make her laugh.
- Attraction in girls can also fluctuate depending on circumstances but guys should remain confident and secure.
- Guys should be their own person and let girls chase him. And take the lead when with her.

Let me preface this by saying my involvement in the dating scene is brief and infrequent, so maybe I believe something to be more common than what's real.

Months ago I came into contact with an amazing girl for a brief 2 months. We liked each other a lot. Endless communication between the two of us, endless admiration and attraction for one another, and endless laughs. However, I learned she didn't want to have kids but it's always been my dream to have some. I reasoned with her that there was someone out there for the two of us that'd be perfect, she agreed and we broke it off. Of course it wasn't that fast, (important) it was very tough for both of us to end communication after that convo, but she ultimately ripped the band-aid off and we wished each other a very warm and complement filled fair well and best of luck in life.

Recently I came across her profile on an old site which I haven't used in forever. I still like her a lot. I see she's liked me, but am not sure from when. I'm afraid that my reaching out and wishing her the best could re-kindle a flame that could hurt her, because she and I know we want two different and very important things to us. There is more to the "not wanting a kid", and I won't say more. Just understand no means no in her case.

What should I do? What's the best thing for her? Is it ok to match and wish her well or should I let things be the way they are?