A guy that was used to making a spectacle of his attraction to Asian girls and liked to remind the world that he prefers Asian girls to white girls, thinks Asian girls are more feminine and taste better below waist, but, for some reason, wants to "choose" you and apparently thinks you're his "Mrs Right"?
If yes, good luck if you date a guy like that IRL. If not, why does everyone accept your decision, but shame white guys who refuse to date white girls who're into black guys?
There’s a difference between a regular preference and an unhealthy obsession. If she fetishizes black men, thinks they’re superior to every other race of men, and could never find a non-black man more attractive than a black man than it would make sense for a white man to not want to date her. But if she happens to generally be more attracted to black men and it doesn’t have anything to do with stereotypes, racial supremacy, or something off-putting like that then I think he’s being unreasonable.
Even if the girl isn't an obvious creep, how are we supposed to know that? Anyway, she may have an unconscious bias behind her preference, it's not being unreasonable to weed her out as a potencial mate.
If she doesn’t show that she has an unhealthy obsession and there isn’t anything else indicating she has one, like old social media posts or things her exes say about her,
then it’s unfair to assume she has one. I don’t think you should reject a girl over something without serious proof of it. It would be like rejecting a guy for having a beer with his dinner most nights because I assume it makes him an alcoholic.
K, that's right. I asked this question just bc it boggles my mind that men get shamed even if we break up with girls who're total raceplay creeps. They just tell everyone things like they chose us, but we're insecure and can't afford them, which I find ironic since they have no problems in rejecting white guys who're obsessed with Asian girls.
Like I said, it’s fine if he doesn’t want a raceplay creep. But it’s unreasonable to reject someone because you think she’s a raceplay creep without substantial evidence. People with weird race fetishes and regular race preferences both tend to date that race but you need further proof to tell if she has a fetish or just a preference.