Why is it considered racist if a white man refuse to date a white girl who dated black men in the past?

[Anonymous]

I was dating a girl for 6 months, then I found out she was very vocal about preferring black guys in the past, it was a huge dealbreaker for me and I broke up with her. No regrets. My only regret is that I didn’t find out about this until after I checked her past activity on social media and wasted my time with her.

She is resented toward me and trying to salt my game with my latina new babe by spreading rumors that I’m racist and a white supremacist. I’m not. I just don’t like to be the second choice of any girl. Since then she says bad things about me everywhere, specially to my girlfriend’s sister and her family ignore me. They and many of our acquaintances think I’m a monster for doing that to my ex but I just did it for my own good, she was playing me. If she likes black men so much as she said in the past, so she has nothing to do with white men, if she said that but it’s not true, so she is a liar and don’t deserve to be trusted. Nothing can make me think its not white girls’ entitlement, why do they act like that? What should i do to save my rep with the family of my new girlfriend?

[tonicandgin]

Maybe you should have explained better that you don't like being second choice. Now, you're just going to have to suck it up and go about your life. You did get a new girlfriend after all. Eventually someone else will come along and become the new bully Target. Pretty much just a waiting game from here.

[Asker]

Thank you, I think it was too much abrupt my decision to break up with her and it ended with a lot of grudges, by now my only fear is that my new girlfriend’s family become to dislike me.

[tonicandgin]

Explain to your new girlfriend's family throughly. I'm sure they undertand bitter exes

[Fitness-Fanatic]

They're obviously going to only see her point of view. They're her friends and family, so they'll be biased. You can't change their opinion about you. So just let it go and move on. You can refuse to date who you want , for any reason whatsoever

[Anonymous]

I would do the same as you you are not racist or white supremist just because you don't want a girl who is a scumbag I don't blame you and she is just salty because you are way better than she is so she has to lie

[WhoDatGuy]

I feel your pain. I slept with this girl (it was OK) but the next day I went downstairs and saw pics of her mixed race kids. Never been so turned off. I left and ghosted

[Asker]

They are always trying to find a guy to pay for their own wrongdoings, disgusting. Funny how they think we are the toxic men if we decide to stay away from their problems, just the well known female entitlement. Stay strong dude

[Volvagia]

The title of this question would come off as racist since it gives off the impression you're not dating someone simply because they dated a certain race in the past. There is no logical reason for that, only a prejudiced one. In your description though, you stated you "don’t like to be the second choice of any girl" so if that's the case, would you not date a girl who's had previous relationships with people regardless of their race?

[Asker]

I understand that I didn't word that right in the title. I said I don't like to be the second choice cause it's clear that if you have racial preferences, you put races in a hierarchy. I have no issues with that but I don't need to be with a girl who think less of me cause of my skin color. This is humiliating and weird just as much as it is for a black woman to date a white guy who spoke bad things about blacks in the past.

[Volvagia]

That is fair.

[naijagurl]

People are allowed to have preferences. Why does it matter if she preferred black guys at a time? She either changed her mind or she still found you amazing enough to date regardless of what she usually prefers. If we all dated only according to our preferences, we would miss out on a lot of great people.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

Well then if she allowed preferences then so is she if it bothers him he should be able to do who he wants right?

[Asker]

No problem with her preferences. I even gave her an opportunity to find a new guy who matches her favorite skin color.

[naijagurl]

@BuffaloChickenWrap He can do whatever he wants of course. This is just my opinion but it doesn’t make any sense to dump someone just because you don’t suit their usual preferences. It is very unlikely that you can find someone who matches every single one of your preferences so why is race the deal breaker?

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

because a big black penis is not something white guys wanna follow the girl will be loose as hell

[naijagurl]

@BuffaloChickenWrap oh boy. So you’re one of those people who actually believes that a big penis will leave a girl loose?

[Asker]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Your bullshit isn’t welcome here. You’d better go entertain the myths you believe in another place.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

wtf you talking about? sorry for me using logic that a woman repeatedly nailed with a penis ends up loose wtf do you think happens?

[naijagurl]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Your logic doesn’t add up. The vagina is a muscle and when relaxed it can accomdate any sized penis before going back to its original tightness, it doesn’t just keep getting looser and looser the bigger the penis gets.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

Then why is a virgin super tight and a prostitute is loose as hell? That is proven fact.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

Next you will be telling me you believe there are 99 genders then I know you are nuts.

[naijagurl]

@BuffaloChickenWrap virgins are tight because sometimes their hymen hasn’t broken or they’re nervous since it’s their first time so they tend to tense up and they aren’t relaxed.

[Asker]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Sorry dude. My answer was meant for another user here, my bad.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

That's ok

[Asker]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Tks pal, you’re welcome.

[Matt57]

I agree with what @tonicandgin said about how you should have explained better, and I think you have just come off incorrectly, but it still sounds like you view her as dirty or tainted as @MrKinktastic says. I guess your main idea isn't too clear or didn't come first, so the "refuse to date a white girl who dated black men in the past" kinda makes it sound as that is your main issue, rather than you just not wanting to be a girl's second choice.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree I should have expressed better. My problem with her is seeming as her second choice, my reputation to my friends would be ruined if they discovered her preferences first.

[311WasAnInsideJam]

Prejudiced, but I've heard this before and it was more or less about penis insecurity rather than race, as black men are generally renowned for having big dick energy.

[DistantAnt]

Big dick energy😂 You probably right tho. Seems to me like he thought she was nasty for being with black guys rather than having a trust issue with her. Sad

[Asker]

It’s just bullshit from porn. I’m bothered just to be seen as a beta male by my other white male friends and as a racist by my new girlfriends family.

[Asker]

@DistantAnt "big dick energy"... What kind of drugs you and @311WasAnInsideJam. You are so ignorant about sexual matters that I ask myself why people should waste their times reading your bollocks.

[Anonymous]

People change? So does their view or preferences. Why judge a person from their past? She may not even feel proud of it or what she said in the past?

[Asker]

It’s a red flag. I tried to find something that could redeem her at the time and didn't find. If she was’t proud of what she said in her past, she is immature. And it could ruin my reputation if my friends knew about that before me.

[Opinion Owner]

People make mistakes, why punish her for mistakes that she did before she was with you?

[Asker]

I didn't want to reward her immature behavior, what we do has consequences in life. And I found a great girl who loves me and doesn't embarrass me.

[Opinion Owner]

She was immature when she said things in the past. She wasn't being immature when she's with you. She become immature as she could not comprehend you dumping her for what she said in the past.

[Asker]

What makes you so sure? Lets be real, the odds were against her, I am even more sure about her immaturity after her reaction.

[Opinion Owner]

Because the reason for you to dump her kinda immature as well?

[Asker]

I just want to understand... You are reacting just as similar as many people I know. But why do you think I did a wrong thing? I just did it for my own good, I wanted a serious and sincere relationship, why did I should be forced to be with a girl who thinks less of me because of my skin color? I just gave her the opportunity to find her ideal type of guy and also gave myself a chance to find real love. My new girlfriend makes me happier.

[Opinion Owner]

You put up a new question with similar story. Im sure there are people on the same boat with me. If it happened in the past, it has no significance to the present and the future.

[Asker]

That’s fine, we disagree but at least you’re not personally judging me and I respect your opinion.

[MrKinktastic]

Because its super racist. Basically you are implying she is somehow tainted by having been with black guys.

It sounds a hell of a lot more like your entitlement than hers.

[Asker]

No mr soyboy. I’m not a racist man, I just don’t want to be played by a girl that presumably considers me worthless because of my skin color. Its the opposite indeed. You won’t understand that because everything a girl does is good in your beta’s mind.

[MrKinktastic]

Beta mind? You're the one who chickened out of a relationship because there had been a guy of a different race in her past :P

Also wtf does soyboy even mean?

She now thinks your worthless because she found out your racist. She didn't care about your skin colour, you did. This is pretty pathetic to be so intimidated by black guys you run for the hills at the very memory of one :P They're just people like everyone else.

[Asker]

You are just a beta cuck. She was with me to play me, to suck off my goodness while I’d be stuck in an unhappy relationship doomed to fail. She said in the past she didn’t like white men. It’s not my job to change her mind, i want to pursue MY own happiness. Now you’d better to watch what your girlfriend is doing, since you have no stardands at all and probably made a bad choice.

[MrKinktastic]

I'd make a very poor beta cuck I'm afraid, projecting does tend to have those sort of pitfalls. Your own insecurity has already been a bit of your own undoing, I suspect more of it will follow.

[MrKinktastic]

Running from the ghost of an ex is pretty clear cut beta behaviour in most people books I would think :P

[Asker]

Has a girl pooped on yo face yet today? You seem to accept every shit from them, is it literally too?

[MrKinktastic]

Again, projecting. I take it you have some scat fantasies?

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

I don't think it is racist to not want the mixing of the races

[MrKinktastic]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Right, and thats a racist position. Thinking it doesn't make it not true :P

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

No it isn't I have been friends with black guys who have been like brothers to me but I don't wanna follow them after they been with a girl

[MrKinktastic]

@BuffaloChickenWrap Right, you don't have to be racist 24/7 to hold a racist view. The view that the races need to be kept separated/pure is a racist ideology. You can do non-racist actions and it doesn't stop the ideology from being racist.

[Asker]

@MrKinktastic Mr cuckold boy, it’s not my fault if you ran out of options in your miserable dating life and now you have to accept every worthless girl in your life. It isn’t my situation. My new girlfriend loves me and she is even lashing out at her family for being with me. It’s great when we are loved.

[Asker]

You’ll never know how is good to find sincere love.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

Obviously the guy is dating a minority so he is not racist people have different preferences I wouldn't want some smelly Frenchman dating a girl before me does that mean I am racist against whites?

[MrKinktastic]

@BuffaloChickenWrap No it means you're xenophobic and prejudiced against the french. Its equally detestable but as france is a nationality not a race its not racism.

The whole "I have black friends so I can't be racist" thing has been considered idiotic for decades now and really only shows that the person speaking is ignorant.

[Asker]

@MrKinktastic Mr Cuckoldastic, it’s not my fault if you ran out of options in your miserable dating life and now you have to accept every worthless girl in your life. It isn’t my situation.

Now being serious, no hate, why are you trying to defend her? She was the wrong side, she played me, Im not obliged to be with a girl who presumably think less about me because of my skin color. Put hate aside just for a moment, I ain’t really wrong.

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

Black people are cool with me anyone can be cool with me no matter what their race is and you are a dick to say that I have white friends who I wouldn't wanna be where there dick has been either

[BuffaloChickenWrap]

their dick*

[MrKinktastic]

Again you saying black people are cool with you doesn't mean your previous statement wasn't racist.

[Anonymous]

😒your a dumb fuck you just said your not racist yet you dumped her because she preferred black guys smh you need to work on you ability to accept people because nobody wants your little small ween especially if your so quick to dumb a girl if she had any relationships with anyone else

[Asker]

Says the under 18 years of age boy who has no standards for women. Maybe cause you never saw one and want desperately to lose your virginity. I am no obliged to accept anyone, my only duty is my best interests. Grow up.

[Opinion Owner]

Oooofff dude I’ve lost my virginity already 😂
Fucking dumbassssssssss hop off my dick small dick energy having ass

[Asker]

Your asshole virginity doesn't count. You are still a virgin in the front side.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah bud

[Anonymous]

Would you date a black woman?

[Asker]

Why not? But I get your trick question. If I could date a black girl, I am a hypocrite for condemning my ex girlfriend right? No. The difference is I never expressed a preference before, I never talked good or bad about women of any race, cause I dont put women in hierarchical race divisions.

[name_is_eric]

Not at all, that's the right thing to do.

[Asker]

Tks for understanding me.

[Anonymous]

What the hell happened to white men? We once ruled this country, now there are millions of insecure, sissified boys who cringe and shiver at home trying to sound tough from hiding. Our President would be as ashamed of you as I am. Lowering yourself to date non-white women after getting punked out by the thought of past blacks is disgraceful. You should have proved that you were superior... but turns out you weren't after all.

[Asker]

I’m not lowering myself for being with a great woman. Much better than those white whores who just screw our lives.

[Volvagia]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoSm6x47hf8

[AdmiralBailey]

what's her phone number?
~Mr Bails The Hitman

[Asker]

That’d be a good idea actually lol

[AdmiralBailey]

let me holla

[Cress]

So you'll only date virgins?

[Asker]

No. You should be more mature before you talk about relationships.

[Cress]

"I just don’t like to be the second choice of any girl."

So why does it matter if they're black or white?

[Asker]

Cause she expressed a racial preference before.