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Its been a Month and a half, since the Zombie Outbreak began. You've establish a well secured, defensible, gated hideout for yourself and any of the survivors (friends, family, strangers) you picked up along the way with you. You even managed to build a remotely controlled, switch activated gate! Your SAFE... for now.

While you aren't starving, your supplies, ammunition, and rations are running low. Suddenly, you hear a knock towards the entrance of your outpost. You look out and see a group of 4 scared, desperate survivors. But not far behind them is a small mob of vicious zombies heading your way. The survivors are panicking and are begging you to open the gate! They even appear to have a young child with them as well! They're all unarmed, and don't appear to be any type of threat. None of them are infected (You haven't check for bite wounds yet) and your curious of how they have made it this far. They desperately beg for your assistance, promising to be productive members of your small community. Even going as far as to volunteer for dangerous scavengering missions! You're not sure if you can trust them but that mob is getting closer, and you don't have much time to think!

You have a serious moral decision to make! Take a risk or Abandon them? Hurry!! They're getting closer...

Need some relationship guidance and advise..

I met this girl over the summer, everything was going well, met her family and she met mine shortly after.. everything was progressing really fast but felt right. right before I left for a month long vacation she said she wants to get to know me better and as more then just friends. Two days in a row while on vacation I didn't message her and she got distant from then. Once I got back I asked her officially out and she ended up saying she couldn't commit and didn't feel the connection and wanted to be friends - I initially said yes, but then went No Contact, but only for 2 weeks.

I started texting and tried to build up the attraction again - this went for about a month and I met up with her. However I brought up the relationship and what had happened for her to go cold (my mistake) As soon as I did she backed away more and said she needed time to be normal with me again.

A week after, I reached out and said let's just be friends and she agreed. She was still however distant and barely texting back - 1 response back every few days - I asked her why - she said she was really busy.

This week, I tried calling a few times in a row and texted her to meet up - she didn't pick up nor has she responded. Complete silence.

Background on Her:
-she's been super hurt in the past and runs away when things get serious
-she was in a seriously relationship 5 years ago and hasn't been with anyone since (3 years so far)
-She's protecting her self from getting hurt again (self-preservation)
-we only talked for a few months and weren't really boyfriend / girlfriend.
-I never kissed her
-she definitely had strong feelings for me before I left on vacation
-she likes attention and flirts a lot
-I think she might be playing the field a bit

What is my best approach for one day having a relationship with her?

1) Should I text her saying that I'll give her time and wait until she contacts me?
2) Should I go no contact on her for a month or two and then reach out?
3) Should I ask her what she wants and go with it?
4) Should I try to be friends so she can trust me without being scared and hopefully bring down that wall that she now has up.

I know she's worth it and will do anything right now to increase my chances to one day be with her. I know I made mistakes - this situation is just tricky and I really don't know what to do.